I'm kind of interested in people's thoughts here. I'm not sure if there is a wrong or right way, but just would like to hear some opinions.
My BF and I flew home this weekend because my Aunt & Uncle were visting my mother in my hometown. We had a great time and it was wonderful to finally introduce BF to these very special people in my life.
My A&U have been visting with my mother for a week at this point, in which my mother has done all the cooking and hostessing. This morning we joined them for lunch at a really great Mexican restaurant that had an incredible mariachi show. During the show, it was quite loud, I whispered to my BF to remember to offer to pay for lunch. He whispered back, but what happens if they take me up on it? I said, well then we'll deal with it, (which really wouldn't have been a huge problem) knowing full well that my Aunt and Uncle would of course pay. They have perfect manners and are paying for all the hostessing my mother has done.
But in my family, you have to at least offer, sometimes even "fight" over the check before relenting. I think we do this, so the people paying know that we are grateful.
In his family, his parent's just simply pay for meals and no one ever offers to foot the bill.
So is it wrong to do the little social dance of who pays or should we just assume the ones that should pay do? (not saying his parent's should always foot the bill, but they do the inviting to expensive restaurants, so it's just assumed.)