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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24630 on: January 18, 2017, 09:51:14 AM »
I came across a meal delivery service that made me roll my eyes. They suggested you should order prepared meals for newlyweds. The reasons given: so they don't have to cook after going home & because newlyweds don't want boring old traditional gifts. You could tell the company realized how little sympathy that generates; the next suggestion was (paraphrasing) "Newlyweds tend to burn food at first & don't know how to cook. You're doing them a kind favor by not making them eat burned food."  ::)

Somebody needs to realize that the 20th century is gone.  Most people don't go straight from their parents' home into marriage.  They've lived and cooked on their own for a while.  Now, this still might be a good gift for a couple who both dislike cooking or have jobs with long hours, but let's not be patronizing.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24631 on: January 18, 2017, 10:37:25 AM »
I came across a meal delivery service that made me roll my eyes. They suggested you should order prepared meals for newlyweds. The reasons given: so they don't have to cook after going home & because newlyweds don't want boring old traditional gifts. You could tell the company realized how little sympathy that generates; the next suggestion was (paraphrasing) "Newlyweds tend to burn food at first & don't know how to cook. You're doing them a kind favor by not making them eat burned food."  ::)

Uuuuuuuh.... they should really be informed that a lot of people, newlywed or not, do in fact know how to cook.

Or don't. :)

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24632 on: January 19, 2017, 03:19:12 PM »
Would-be clients who don't send the work, or explain what's going on:

I'm a freelance editor, and recently agreed to work on a project that the client said was urgent/on a tight schedule. We agreed that I would do one piece of it starting on January 5, and another starting today. The fifth came and went with nothing more than a promise that I would have the contract for the work by the sixth, and that only after I asked "what's going on?" The contract did turn up, but it was pulling teeth to get the client to tell me that the actual work wouldn't be arriving within the time set aside for it. Having had no further news, yesterday I asked about this weekend's chunk of work, and got a vague "we're working on it," followed at noon today by "you should have it sometime today." It's now past 4 p.m. in our time zone (mine and the client's), with no project to work on, and no further word of what's going on.

I suspect I'm going to be looking for a polite way of saying "your lack of preparation is not my emergency." This is already a short turnaround deal, and they aren't paying me anywhere near enough for me to lose sleep in order to get it in on time.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24633 on: January 19, 2017, 04:27:49 PM »
Would-be clients who don't send the work, or explain what's going on:

I'm a freelance editor, and recently agreed to work on a project that the client said was urgent/on a tight schedule. We agreed that I would do one piece of it starting on January 5, and another starting today. The fifth came and went with nothing more than a promise that I would have the contract for the work by the sixth, and that only after I asked "what's going on?" The contract did turn up, but it was pulling teeth to get the client to tell me that the actual work wouldn't be arriving within the time set aside for it. Having had no further news, yesterday I asked about this weekend's chunk of work, and got a vague "we're working on it," followed at noon today by "you should have it sometime today." It's now past 4 p.m. in our time zone (mine and the client's), with no project to work on, and no further word of what's going on.

I suspect I'm going to be looking for a polite way of saying "your lack of preparation is not my emergency." This is already a short turnaround deal, and they aren't paying me anywhere near enough for me to lose sleep in order to get it in on time.

If only people understood that.  ::)

And then they wonder why the job isn't completed with more bells & whistles when they need it in such a short about of time. I shake my head and think "Do you want it done now? Or do you want it done right?


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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24634 on: January 19, 2017, 05:37:33 PM »
My hard drive died today. Completely. No life whatsoever. Thankfully there was nothing too vital on it...

My backup computer also won't run. No graphics. I think the connection to the motherboard rusted.

Now I'm stuck on the slowest laptop in tarnation. >:(
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« Reply #24635 on: January 19, 2017, 05:47:39 PM »
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I suspect I'm going to be looking for a polite way of saying "your lack of preparation is not my emergency." This is already a short turnaround deal, and they aren't paying me anywhere near enough for me to lose sleep in order to get it in on time.

Since they're paying you less than you usually would charge, is this a job you can afford to pass on?  Perhaps you need a way to let them know that if you don't get the work in a timely manner you won't be able to hold all night free waiting on them so you can start working on it. If so, I'd send them an email something like this, sent in such a way that you can tell if they received and read it:
Per our discussion earlier this month, I want to remind you again that it will take me a minimum of X hours to do the editing you need. If I get the work before 6pm today, I'll be able to have it completed by 3pm tomorrow.  After 6pm tonight it won't be possible for me to work on your project before 9am tomorrow, in which case it won't be ready until 6pm tomorrow. Or something like this. 
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24636 on: January 20, 2017, 12:22:12 PM »
Dear contractors, handyman, various home repair people:
If you lie to me to avoid telling me something you know I won't like, I will be much much angrier than if you just told the truth.

Example: If you promised to show up today and you aren't going to, call me early and let me know so I can get on with my day.  Don't call me and tell me you're on your way and then don't show up.  And if you don't bother to call at all, it is now my policy to hire someone else and never again do business with you.  (Of course, I'm running out options since so many workers do this.)
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24637 on: January 20, 2017, 12:38:17 PM »
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I suspect I'm going to be looking for a polite way of saying "your lack of preparation is not my emergency." This is already a short turnaround deal, and they aren't paying me anywhere near enough for me to lose sleep in order to get it in on time.

Since they're paying you less than you usually would charge, is this a job you can afford to pass on?  Perhaps you need a way to let them know that if you don't get the work in a timely manner you won't be able to hold all night free waiting on them so you can start working on it. If so, I'd send them an email something like this, sent in such a way that you can tell if they received and read it:
Per our discussion earlier this month, I want to remind you again that it will take me a minimum of X hours to do the editing you need. If I get the work before 6pm today, I'll be able to have it completed by 3pm tomorrow.  After 6pm tonight it won't be possible for me to work on your project before 9am tomorrow, in which case it won't be ready until 6pm tomorrow. Or something like this.

The rate is on the low end of my normal, but within that--what it isn't is enough to cover a greater rush than I was expecting. The thing showed up late this morning, and I have told them I will need an extra day or two because of their delay.
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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24638 on: January 20, 2017, 02:13:23 PM »
Facebook issues.  For the past few days there have been times when I could type a message in but the post didn't take when I hit the "Enter" key.  It's not my computer because that key worked on every other page.

I've had it where something I typed for one thread ended up in another thread.  Fortunately it hasn't been anything that would get me into trouble; one was a book recommendation for one cousin that ended up on another cousin's thread about his vacation (he said he was paying too much to be reading) and another was about my in-laws' new house that ended up on the thread of a friend who was talking about her kitchen. 

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24639 on: January 20, 2017, 03:34:32 PM »
My cell phone provider. I'm with Republic Wireless, which is cheap and great but they basically have no one you can call if you have problems. You have to send them an email. So yeah, not great customer service.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24640 on: January 20, 2017, 03:47:49 PM »
When your 'fat quarters' are decidedly skinny...

I have a few fat quarters stashed away, and decided the other day to use them.  Yeah...  every one was a different size and shape, one of them just over half the size of the largest.   ::)

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24641 on: Yesterday at 10:49:07 AM »
Asking for help when you haven't tried the basics.

I got a phone call from a sysadmin: program X would not work. Ok I said, so you've done the basic trouble shooting. Oh yes, he said. By the time I got there the machine would not boot at all, and he had spent six hours trying to fix it. The bios was bust and the OS missing huge chunks. I googled the error message, put in the first fix on the first link that came up, and it booted to BIOS.

And then I found out he hadn't bothered to search online for the original error. The broken install and bios wipe occurred not because of the fault, but because he hadn't looked the problem up online, or even actually read the error message, before he started deleting files and disk partitions. It wasn't saveable. I'm doing a Windows reinstall now, and then manual repartitioning and a total rebuild which will take hours. The original error was a config problem, and the fix? One line of command line code taking a few seconds. He never checked.

Please, please look things up for yourself! It saves me time, trouble, and wanting to scream.

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24642 on: Yesterday at 11:04:58 AM »
I came across a meal delivery service that made me roll my eyes. They suggested you should order prepared meals for newlyweds. The reasons given: so they don't have to cook after going home & because newlyweds don't want boring old traditional gifts. You could tell the company realized how little sympathy that generates; the next suggestion was (paraphrasing) "Newlyweds tend to burn food at first & don't know how to cook. You're doing them a kind favor by not making them eat burned food."  ::)

Uuuuuuuh.... they should really be informed that a lot of people, newlywed or not, do in fact know how to cook.

...do they really think that everyone learns to cook by trial and error once they leave the home? Could you imagine the expenses?

not to mention the calls to the fire department and the burned out kitchens  :D ;D

And anyway... okay, so let's say you go and buy them a *year* of meals. After that year... they won't know how to cook. So the trial and error begins again.  ::)

True, they will eventually have to learn sometime.  Might as well learn right from the get go rather than putting it off.  Besides, burning or messing up food beyond the point of being edible was very rare when I first started cooking for myself.  I find the 'newlyweds don't want boring old traditional gifts' very off putting.  Insulting the gifts that many are likely to give is not a way to get me interested in your product. 

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Re: What little things drive you completely up the wall....?
« Reply #24643 on: Yesterday at 11:13:41 AM »
I came across a meal delivery service that made me roll my eyes. They suggested you should order prepared meals for newlyweds. The reasons given: so they don't have to cook after going home & because newlyweds don't want boring old traditional gifts. You could tell the company realized how little sympathy that generates; the next suggestion was (paraphrasing) "Newlyweds tend to burn food at first & don't know how to cook. You're doing them a kind favor by not making them eat burned food."  ::)

Uuuuuuuh.... they should really be informed that a lot of people, newlywed or not, do in fact know how to cook.

The company will be informed when no one buys its service. It sounds like one of the million apps that now do things for me I can easily do for myself. People buy chia pets and all kinds of useless things. I assume market research identified a market for these meals. If the concept falls flat then so be it.

Or don't. :)