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Classic Faux Pas: Bridesmaids Drafted To Write Thank You Notes !!!!!!!!!!!
Asharah:
--- Quote from: twinkletoes on April 05, 2007, 10:48:16 AM ---Asharah, I agree that just saying "no" does not equate to making a scene. It is quite possible to gently push the box away, stand up, and say "sorry, I'm not doing this."
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Just to clarify, the comment attached to the post is from the website, not me. However I do agree with it. I think they should have just politely refused and left. And I liked the part about not ever giving her another gift so she wouldn't be burdened with writing a thank you note. ;D
twinkletoes:
"it is sometimes hard to say "no" when faced with a group situation like that, and honestly evenif saying "no" isn't "causing a scene" technically, in reality it is seen that way."
Agreed. And there are people who are twisted enough who would whisper and say "can you believe (letter-writer)? She told (Bride) that she wouldn't write thank you notes for her! And all right before (bride) was going to treat us to a nice dinner! How ungrateful can you be?"
kingsrings:
It seems that in today's society, we are encouraged to just take things as they are and to let people walk all over us. Standing up for oneself is looked at as a no-no. Don't cause trouble, don't make waves. Just do it, and let it go. That is why situations like the one in this thread happen.
megswsu:
I wonder if the bride made her BMs greet all her guests too? Afterall, all that walking around in one's gown can really tire you out!! >:D
snowball's chance:
Yes, these BMs ARE held hostage -- no food til you're done w/ my homework, basically. You might have to give in . . . what if everyone else at the table is totally willing to do it? Is it ok to be only one refusing? What if you drove w/ someone else, and don't have $$$ for a cab, and there's no bus . . .
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