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Classic Faux Pas: Bridesmaids Drafted To Write Thank You Notes !!!!!!!!!!!
Mental Magpie:
--- Quote from: Thipu1 on April 15, 2012, 04:59:55 PM ---Something that hasn't been addressed here is this.
If the Bride had the time to assemble the papers, pens and lists of the gifts that should be acknowledged, if she had the time to provide the names and addresses of those who should receive TYs to her Bridesmaids, she had the time to write the ding-dangety things herself.
I did help out with TYs when FIL died. MIL wrote the notes. I addressed them, put the postage on the envelopes and mailed them. To me, this was a reasonable way to handle the situation.
What the OP relates is not reasonable at all. Bridal attendants came for a lovely meal and found a box at their places. They think it may be a gift. Instead, it becomes something out of a Dickensean novel.
'When you have finished writing your 70 TYs to my satisfaction, you may begin to think about ordering something to eat'.
Given the story, I wouldn't be surprised if the Bride didn't strongly suggest burgers and fries all
around. While she enjoyed filet mignon.
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I also think the joy of a wedding isn't as crippling as the pain of a loss...thank you for helping your MIL.
Thipu1:
Helping MIL with her TYs wasn't a chore. It may sound odd to say it but we had fun.
As Mom wrote the notes she would reminisce about relationships these people had with FIL. I learned a lot about family and friends of the family that I didn't know before.
We'd take breaks from the writing to make a pot of tea and MIL pulled out some photo albums so I could see these people I had never met. She told anecdotes and we laughed.
It was a sad time but it was also a warm time.
DottyG:
--- Quote ---As Mom wrote the notes she would reminisce about relationships these people had with FIL. I learned a lot about family and friends of the family that I didn't know before.
We'd take breaks from the writing to make a pot of tea and MIL pulled out some photo albums so I could see these people I had never met. She told anecdotes and we laughed.
It was a sad time but it was also a warm time.
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I like this story. It sounds like a nice time remembering people.
Mental Magpie:
--- Quote from: DottyG on April 16, 2012, 11:50:06 AM ---
--- Quote ---As Mom wrote the notes she would reminisce about relationships these people had with FIL. I learned a lot about family and friends of the family that I didn't know before.
We'd take breaks from the writing to make a pot of tea and MIL pulled out some photo albums so I could see these people I had never met. She told anecdotes and we laughed.
It was a sad time but it was also a warm time.
--- End quote ---
I like this story. It sounds like a nice time remembering people.
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I agree on both points, DottyG.
Daquiri40:
I think, like the OP, I'd have been flabbergasted. When I am flabbergasted, I am not thinking straight. Sweet monkey fritters!, would be my most immediate response which is not E-hell approved.
I just don't know what I would have said.....
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