Now it's time for our bad etiquette confessions

[Chocolate Cake]

He'd start dating someone, then she'd find some real or perceived slight and blow it all out of proportion, and guilt the girl into breaking up with her son. 

Poor D.   I'd love to know what ended up happening to him.  Does he still live at home with Mommy Dearest?  Did he ever marry?

[Cyndi]

Dang, Cyndi, you reminded me of another one!
I do that, too. Not at work or anything, but home with friends. If my friend Jim rates them does it count as an ettiquette blunder, or does that make him just as bad as me?

Well, at home my dad and I both belch loudly. My dad can rattle a door with his burps(and farts!). Usually if he does one really loud I'll yell "That's attractive!" from whatever room I'm in.

Yeah....I'm not lady like at all. If I get caught up in a group of guys burping and farting, I join in! Little miss Cyndi can burp and fart just like a man! *hides from the flying tomatoes*

[sparksals]

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Well, at home my dad and I both belch loudly. My dad can rattle a door with his burps(and farts!). Usually if he does one really loud I'll yell "That's attractive!" from whatever room I'm in.

Yeah....I'm not lady like at all. If I get caught up in a group of guys burping and farting, I join in! Little miss Cyndi can burp and fart just like a man! *hides from the flying tomatoes*

sounds like you and I could be quite the team, Cyndi.  My dh shakes his head b/c I've got enough powerful gas for the both of us and the dog combined! lol

[cass2591]

Years ago I asked a co-worker if I could bring my boyfriend to her wedding. I figured since some people had sent their regrets meant there would be room for him.


She said yes.

[freakyfemme]

Umm, I've left concerts halfway through if I was tired/sick/had something else to do/didn't like the music, which is rude to the performers.

[goblue2539]

Regarding the opal ring, however, bad bad friend.   I bet they even filed an insurance claim on it and kept the money.

Depends on the company.  Most adjustors would make them prove it belonged to them, was in the house at the time, and ask to see an appraisal to ensure proper value.  Doesn't mean they didn't get try, but I felt compelled to mention that they probably didn't get anything for it. 

Which of course relates to one of my failings that I'm desperately trying to correct.  People don't want me to sell them insurance unless they've called or come into my office.  I really need to stop doing that.   

[kingsrings]

I once told someone in a store to F-off. It was vulgar and rude but I don't feel too sorry about it which is bad, I know.

Basically, I was at a place where you can mail things with a little note to the troops in Iraq. I have a cousin who I'm very close to who just returned from his 2nd tour of duty (he was still there when this incident happened) so, needless to say I was a little sensitive about the situation.

So, this guy makes some comment about how it's stupid to send this stuff and how the war is dumb blah blah* So I turn around and say, "do you even know anyone who's fighting in the war?" and he says "no," and I say, "well f*&k off then."

*Please note this has nothing to do with his or my personal feelings about the war because it was irrelevant to the situation, I was really just upset because I was thinking about my cousin and how happy he was everytime he received something from home.

Don't feel so bad. He kind of asked for that given what he said. I also told a postal clerk to 'F-off' one timea few years ago. My mailman kept messing up my mail delivery, sending all my mail back with 'return to sender, addressee no longer living here'. Why he was doing this was a mystery, and it went on for weeks. I couldn't get anyone to believe me or help me out on this serious matter. They kept telling me that there is no way this guy could be doing that because he was one of their top employees. I went to the managers, everyone at the top, and no one would believe me. Finally one day I lost it and dropped an F bomb on some poor postal clerk who in hindsight wasn't even one of the workers I was battling with over this. I still feel bad about it to this day.

[Pixie]

Okay..... this one was REALLY bad.  Hubby and I were planning our wedding and every single decision we made his mother would question and try to change.  One day the minister called and had a question because I had told him one thing and FMIL (now MIL of 20 years) wanted something  else.

I can't believe I did this..... I said, "Why don't you just ask FMIL, since this is HER F***ing wedding, not mine! "

I apologized as soon as the words were out of my mouth, and told him about all the stress of having every detail questioned, including who was walking me down the aisle.  He assured me he understood, and that although she was a member of his church and I wasn't, he would be sure to remind her WHO was getting married.     

I still feel just awful about it.   Oddly enough, since my Mom passed away 7 years ago, my MIL  treats me as her own daughter, but those first 13 years of marriage were rough.

[Buffy2424]

I said, "Why don't you just ask FMIL, since this is HER F***ing wedding, not mine! "

Ha! 
This is such a cathartic thread. 

[NewMrsF]

I once took a cell phone call at the drugstore (that was the only phone I had) to make plans with my friend. He's a real comedian type and I started laughing really loudly. Another customer turned and stared at me and I told my friend that people were starting to stare at me. The other customer gave me a dirty look and turned around. I probably shouldn't have said that out loud. Oh well

[NewMrsF]

Oooh, I just thought a really, really bad one. Very shameful. Thankfully my friends know me well enough to overlook this incident. It was my birthday and I actually happened to be in my hometown where my long-time friends and my boyfriend (at the time) lived. Boyfriend was being rude towards me (had been going on throughout the day) and I proceeded to ignore it and get drunk (these are not things I do anymore ) Well, my one good friend and her husband showed up 2 hours late. Sweet monkey fritters!?  My other good friend who was coming brought the latest flavour of the week (she was pretty wild back then). I proceeded to insult both of them, to their faces, in a very nasty way. Wow, was I apologizing like crazy the next day!! Shame on me.

[Slartibartfast]

I've been feeling guilty about this for months!  It's one more thing that gets worse the longer I put it off . . .

DH and I got married on Memorial Day.  DH refuses to do any TY notes, and I only got about 2/3 of them done.  So now it's 5 1/2 months later, and I'm having to decide whether or not we're sending out Christmas cards.  Do I sent out TY notes and Chirstmas Cards at the same time?  Do I say "Merry Christmas and sorry this is late" at the bottom of the TY notes?  Do I say "Thank you for the gift" on the Christmas card?  Do I skip the whole thing?  Do I just send out Christmas cards and get around to the TY notes sometime in January?

The thing is, I could probably just block off a Saturday and do them, but the ones I have left are the ones I'm not 100% sure I have right (tags that may or may not have originally been attatched to a particular gift, or I think the person may have given a gift at the bridal shower and one for the wedding but I'm not sure).  And I'm just petrified that I'll send someone a card saying "thank you for the china" and find they sent me towels instead . . . so I'm tempted to do "thank you for the gift," but that would be even MORE tacky than not getting a TY note at all!

So this is off the original topic, but I'd welcome advice!

[sotadragon]

Slartibartfast - This is JMO, but I'd say do the best you can with the TY notes and send them.  If it turns out any of them are wrong, you probably wont find out about it because the gift giver is probably to polite to correct you.    And go ahead and send the Christmas cards too, but keep them separate from the TY notes.  I think I'd send the Christmas cards a day or so later than the TY notes, just so there's less chance they'd arrive on the same day, but I don't know if it really matters that much.

[Lexophile]

Actually, this one just happened today.

I work with my dear friend, Mary. There's a snotty girl a couple cubes down from me who we, admittedly, whisper about because she can be SUCH a snit when there's no reason for it. I walked over the the communal printer (which is right nest to snitty girl's desk) and observed that there was a hemorrhoid cushion on her chair. I rushed back to my desk and IM'ed Mary because I thought it was funny she would have it right out where anyone could see it.

Mary IM'ed back that snitty girl had shattered her tailbone skiing.

I felt bad after that.

[Lysitheia]

In seventh grade the school did "Cinderella". The seventh graders were the chorus. One girl, Vee, was basically a histronic nutcase. It was opening night and we were literally a minute from opening the curtain. Vee decides that because she isn't the center of attention, she needs to create drama.

"I can't go on!" Remember, we're both in the chorus, and all Vee talked about was what a fabulous dancer/cheerleader she was. She didn't really have stage fright-- she wanted all of us to rush to comfort her.

We had worked til 11:00 every school night for *FOUR Months* on this thing. I spun around, got right in her face, and whispered:

"You SHUT UP and get in your place or you get off the G--D--- stage. You will not ruin this for us."

Her 'fright' magically disapeared. Fancy that