Hi all, I've been reading the topics and responses for a few weeks. This is a great site! I hope this is in the right category. If not, apologies to all. I'd love to know what y'all think of this:
My friend, "Junebug", and I were out for a matinee and lunch girls' day out on Saturday. She has been seeing a guy for several months, let's call him "Rick". When JB spoke to R earlier in the day he said if we wanted to we should stop by his condo on our way home. OK, fine.
When we arrive, R is drinking a scotch. His condo is configured in such a way that you can see his kitchen/kitchen bar area from the living room. He continues to sip his scotch and never asked us if we'd care for anything, even a glass of water. He gets up to freshen his drink (he's drinking an expensive well-known brand of scotch, which was sitting on the end of the kitchen bar). JB says, much to my embarrassment, "may I have a scotch?". Well, R didn't look thrilled, but what he did next stunned me. He went to a cabinet, took down another bottle of scotch (a very cheap one) and poured JB a drink. Mind you, we could see everything he did from where we were sitting. He still NEVER asked me if I wanted so much as a sip of water, not that I wanted anything, but still it would have been nice to have been asked.
After JB and I left, I asked her what the heck was that about and how cheap/tacky could you be! She informed me that this isn't the only time his thriftiness has shown through, either. Now I understand that we may not be privy to his financial health, but I just think it's a) rude not to offer your guests something, particularly when you're sitting there having something yourself right in front of them, and b) to blatantly serve a guest a cheaper brand of what you're having when there is clearly plenty of what you're having (when it's the same thing, whether it be scotch or a soda, etc.), and to make it so obvious, too.
I'm still shaking my head over this. Plus, it not only was rather embarrassing, but it also made me feel unwelcome, when he's the one who suggested we drop by.
OK, who was ruder - him for not offering us anything and then clearly pouring her a cheaper drink than what he was having or her for having asked for something to drink?