Ok, the Lisa thing was weird enough. But, I just got in to work, and get this.....the BULLY has put me down as someone she wants a peer review from. Why would she do this? I'm completely and utterly stunned.
There's no way to politely decline doing these. It's not how it's done. Plus, I've been here long enough that I'm expected to know these people well enough to do the reviews.
For Areas of Improvement, can I bounce some things off of y'all? I have to complete this by the end of today, so I don't have much time. But, I need help in phrasing this.
I need a nice way of saying that the bully really needs to lay off of me and be nice to me. Ok, so I can't say that. Seriously, though. Here're my thoughts - help me put them into something that's "constructive" and doesn't make me look like I'm being petty or childish. Help me sound professional.
* She needs to work on how she phrases emails to people. Emails (and internet postings) are very dangerous things, as we all know. You can't get a feeling for the emotions behind what someone says, so you have to make sure you phrase it properly.
* There's a way to approach someone who's made a mistake in a way that allows them to retain their dignity and feel like they're not worthless. She can't do this.
* A good manager (she's not a manager, but she's in charge of this study) knows how to do what's typically called (and, understand that I don't use this word in my life. I don't curse. But, it does fit.) a "sh it sandwich." This means that, when you need to reprimand someone, you give something positive, the negative and then another positive. In this way, you've stroked the person but also gotten your negative across.
* She needs to mention the 99 jillion things we (I) do RIGHT instead of lying in wait for the ONE thing I do wrong. She needs to realize that the people on her team are here late and on weekends for the study. She needs to thank us for doing a good job instead of tearing us down.
* She needs to work on not picking obvious favorites in the office and treating them like queens. Yes, I know we all have people we like more than others. But, when that shows to such a great extent, it's detrimental to the others who aren't "teacher's pet."
* Related to the above, she cannot pick one person out to ignore (unless they make a mistake, in which she jumps on them). When the person says "hello" in the hallway, she should not be turning her back on them and walking away. That's rude.
There's more that I think she could improve upon, but my fingers are getting tired!
The "needs improvement" part of the evaluation can't be noticeably longer than the other portions (where, I have to say, I can compliment her - she does have excellent computer skills and knows the business - I have no problem complimenting her on these areas). But, how can I put what I truly do feel are some areas for her to improve upon into a concise format that's also professional? Help me write something.