Still recovering from my daughter's birthday party, where I met Special Snowflakus Eternal Guestus. We went to an indoor play area/arcade complex and rented one of the party areas. The complex is always crowded because it's a really nice facility. There is a constant rotation of parties cycling through. When your child is invited to a party, they are allowed in the party area for as long as the area is reserved, but they can stay in the play area/arcade after the party is over.
The party went as well as could be expected. The only problem we had was with kids from other parties wandering into our area and trying to eat/be included in our activities. In general, the kids had just wandered into the wrong place and didn't realize it. If I didn't recognize a kid, all I had to do was inform the facility's party hostess and she found a polite way to re-direct them elsewhere. But this one little girl WOULD NOT GO AWAY.
She was around my daughter's age (7) so at first, I thought it was just someone from DD's class that I didn't know. But then, DD asked me why "that girl I don't know" was trying to open her presents! The party hostess sent her away, but she came back two more times. The hostess asked where the girl's mom was, she pointed all the way across the huge complex to the cafe area. The hostess took her to mom and I saw her talking to mom at length. I assumed that was the end of it.
But we all know that wasn't the case.
Part of the "agenda" was that the hostess put clues all over the facility for a treasure hunt, the "treasure" being the kids' goodie bags. It was a lot of fun and the kids really enjoyed it. But when they finally tracked down the treasure, I saw this same little girl swoop and push other kids away so she could grab a bag. The hostess said, "Sweetie, I've already told you, this isn't your party. Your friend's party was over a while ago. This is another girl's party. You need to go back to your mom now."
"No!" the girl shouted. "My mom told me I could have a goodie bag from THIS party!"
A nicer woman probably have just given her a bag, but I was tired of dealing with this kid. I stepped in and told her quietly that my daughter didn't know her, so it would be best if she left. She burst into tears and did the tantrum stomp back to her mom. Her mom gave me the stink-eye, but she didn't come back. The hostess told me that this girl had attended a friend's party hours before, and had been hanging around ever since, poaching from other kids' parties with her mother's encouragement.
Later, my sister told me that this same little girl had followed her around the arcade area, repeatedly asking for tokens. And when sis put tokens into the games for my toddler niece, this girl would try to edge my niece out of the way so she could play instead. Sis finally used her teacher voice to tell her to "LEAVE NOW." (For the record, Sis tried to redirect her politely several times.)
Next time, it's pinatas and hot dogs in the backyard.