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gramma dishes

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« Reply #18105 on: November 26, 2012, 12:49:57 PM »

...   My husband also gets it. He works as an optician, and gets a hefty discount on glasses. His mother is awful about saying "Oh, you should go to XYZ Optical Place..my son can give you a big discount on glasses!" ...

Can't he just ask (tell) his Mom to stop doing that?

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« Reply #18106 on: November 26, 2012, 01:01:01 PM »

...   My husband also gets it. He works as an optician, and gets a hefty discount on glasses. His mother is awful about saying "Oh, you should go to XYZ Optical Place..my son can give you a big discount on glasses!" ...

Can't he just ask (tell) his Mom to stop doing that?

He has told her several times to stop. Unfortunately telling her to stop doing something is like telling the wind to stop blowing. She'll just keep doing it anyways.

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« Reply #18107 on: November 26, 2012, 01:05:11 PM »

...   My husband also gets it. He works as an optician, and gets a hefty discount on glasses. His mother is awful about saying "Oh, you should go to XYZ Optical Place..my son can give you a big discount on glasses!" ...

Can't he just ask (tell) his Mom to stop doing that?

He has told her several times to stop. Unfortunately telling her to stop doing something is like telling the wind to stop blowing. She'll just keep doing it anyways.


How about turning it back on her?  Like "Mom, you know when you promise your friends I can get them big discounts on their glasses, it really makes YOU look bad when it turns out that I really can't do that!  Having to tell them that that just won't be possible is kind of embarrassing even for me.  I can't imagine how embarrassing it must be for you!"

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« Reply #18108 on: November 26, 2012, 01:46:50 PM »
I am glad I had no issues with people using discounts when I worked at a mall's Golden Arches years ago.  Some people would be in their store uniforms, other places that didn't have them, people had to wear a badge or name tag showing the place they worked at.  I know the discount wasn't significant but still the 5 or 6 food court places in the mall did that out of good will.  If we recognized a regular who was not in a uniform or did not have their badge/tag, we could still give the discount.  I never had random people ask for it thankfully.

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« Reply #18109 on: November 26, 2012, 02:20:54 PM »

...   My husband also gets it. He works as an optician, and gets a hefty discount on glasses. His mother is awful about saying "Oh, you should go to XYZ Optical Place..my son can give you a big discount on glasses!" ...

Can't he just ask (tell) his Mom to stop doing that?

He has told her several times to stop. Unfortunately telling her to stop doing something is like telling the wind to stop blowing. She'll just keep doing it anyways.

I could almost swear (other than the little details of gender and profession of the annoyed person) that your MIL is my aunt.

My cousin works at a boutique that offers a very generous (and strictly regulated) discount to employees.  My aunt did the same thing as your MIL - telling all and sundry to "go to X Boutique!  My daughter works there and will give you a huge discount!"  Everything my cousin said to her went in one ear and straight out the other. 

The only thing that finally got my aunt to quit it was when my cousin started telling everyone who would come in looking for her to give a discount because her mom/my aunt had promised one - "That's simply not true.  I cannot give out discounts like that and my Mom knows it.  I have no idea why she lied to you about this."

Of course, my cousin was pretty fed up by the time she got to this point, and had no problems with causing her mom lots of public embarrassment.  (YMMV!) 

It worked to the point that my aunt has selectively edited history and now hotly denies that she ever did any of this!

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« Reply #18110 on: November 26, 2012, 02:34:25 PM »
UGH. The dreaded employee discount. I work, and ahve worked, in a women's store PT for the last 7 years. Thankfully, that issue hasn't ever come up for me.  Technially we are not supposed to use our discount for anyone but ourselves, and gifts. However, in my store, they don't really mind if we use it mom's, daughters, sisters, and family. As long as its not abused, its ok.

I do remember one year, about 20 years ago, working for the holidays in a large, well-known dept. store. I was working in the fashion jewelry dept, and a customer came in, someone who I didn't know, but recognized as we sometimes took the same bus into NYC. But I didn't know her name or anything.  She actualy had the nerve to ask me if I could buy something with my discount, and she'd give me the "bread" later on. I politely said sorry, I'm not allowed to do that, which i wasn't but even if I was, as I didn't know her, I wouldn't have done it!

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« Reply #18111 on: November 26, 2012, 03:03:54 PM »
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Of course, my cousin was pretty fed up by the time she got to this point, and had no problems with causing her mom lots of public embarrassment.  (YMMV!) 

It worked to the point that my aunt has selectively edited history and now hotly denies that she ever did any of this!

I think your DH might have to do something like this with your MIL. I think that hooking people up with a "good deal" gives your MIL a certain sense of importance, while your DH has to be the bad guy and say no. There's no reason for her to stop unless there are negative consequences to her.

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« Reply #18112 on: November 26, 2012, 03:16:24 PM »
UGH. The dreaded employee discount. I work, and ahve worked, in a women's store PT for the last 7 years. Thankfully, that issue hasn't ever come up for me.  Technially we are not supposed to use our discount for anyone but ourselves, and gifts. However, in my store, they don't really mind if we use it mom's, daughters, sisters, and family. As long as its not abused, its ok.

I do remember one year, about 20 years ago, working for the holidays in a large, well-known dept. store. I was working in the fashion jewelry dept, and a customer came in, someone who I didn't know, but recognized as we sometimes took the same bus into NYC. But I didn't know her name or anything.  She actualy had the nerve to ask me if I could buy something with my discount, and she'd give me the "bread" later on. I politely said sorry, I'm not allowed to do that, which i wasn't but even if I was, as I didn't know her, I wouldn't have done it!

Don't get me started on employee discounts!  One of my best friends works for Giant Hotel chain.  That means that she can 1) Tell people where there are deals. If a specific Hotel has too many vacancies, they will drop the prices of the rooms.  (Her job is to work on computational models that calculate prices that will maximize profit but sell out the rooms.) 2) get a fixed number of coupons per year for free stays.

So people assume that 1) She can just set any price at any hotel in any city on request and 2) Offer up unending free stays.  In fact, her sister will call her up and say, "I've just gotta get away this weekend.  Can you get me a suite at the swanky Las Vegas location for $50 a night.  Oh, and I'll need to drop of the kids too!  What do you mean there aren't rooms?  I've offered to pay!"

She finally decided one year that she was going to get it all over with and posted on Facebook: "I have X coupons for this year.  The first X people who respond will get one and after that don't ask until next year.  Her cousin started berating her for being selfish (Friend kept half of the coupons for herself.) 

Points of the rant:

How dare she keep her coupons when she had other benefits like health and dental.

If Friend had a smart phone  she could sure as heck pay for her own hotels and leave the freebies for people who couldn't afford them. 

Since Friend was offering some coupons, she had a moral obligation to pay for all friends on Facebook who wanted a free nights' stay - even if she had to pay for it out of pocket.

Friend was so rude for offering coupons that were not available on "black out" days.  And once again, if they couldn't use the coupons on the dates they wanted, friend was morally obligated to pay.

Friend's chain did not have a local hotel and the coupons were too inconvenient for her. 

Um, alrighty.  My friend responded by simply emailing her a link to the HR website and suggested that she apply.  Whenever we have GNO, said friend will always drink a little faster when mentioning whatever new rudeness she's been subjected to over her work freebees.

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« Reply #18113 on: November 26, 2012, 03:46:39 PM »
SS Driver:  On my way home after Thanksgiving Dinner, I followed a large tour bus on a narrow 2-lane coastal road.  I was impressed that the tour bus driver was clearly familiar with the road as he never dipped below the speed limit.  I was perfectly happy following him as the speed was comfortable and the bus was pulling my little Honda down the road (great mileage!).

Then SS Driver behind me put his high beams on, which drew my attention to his weaving from one side of the lane to the other.  This entire section of road for miles is striped and signs posted "no passing."  He keeps closing in on my bumper, so I lightly tapped my brakes.  He gets a clue, turns the high beams off and backs off my bumper ... and swerves into the other lane - the one with oncoming traffic! I could see us getting hit by pieces of cars as these 2 vehicles meet head on, so I braked and let SS Driver in between me and the tour bus.  The driver of the oncoming vehicle had a terrified expression on their face, knowing how close he came to death.  SS Driver then again crosses the double center line to pass the tour bus and zooms off down the windy road.
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« Reply #18114 on: November 26, 2012, 04:06:09 PM »
I used to work for a dinner theatre, and my friends constantly bugged me to get them free tickets.  Um, no.  It wasn't a great job (I've posted before about getting a nasty letter from a potential customer when I didn't know every last detail about the current show), but I didn't want to lose it!  Luckily, I was able to pacify them by saying "Tell you what - when you call to book tickets, make sure you ask for me, and I'll do everything I can to get you the best seats in the house."  (They didn't need to know that I did that for every customer.)
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« Reply #18115 on: November 26, 2012, 04:21:43 PM »
UGH. The dreaded employee discount. I work, and ahve worked, in a women's store PT for the last 7 years. Thankfully, that issue hasn't ever come up for me.  Technially we are not supposed to use our discount for anyone but ourselves, and gifts. However, in my store, they don't really mind if we use it mom's, daughters, sisters, and family. As long as its not abused, its ok.

I do remember one year, about 20 years ago, working for the holidays in a large, well-known dept. store. I was working in the fashion jewelry dept, and a customer came in, someone who I didn't know, but recognized as we sometimes took the same bus into NYC. But I didn't know her name or anything.  She actualy had the nerve to ask me if I could buy something with my discount, and she'd give me the "bread" later on. I politely said sorry, I'm not allowed to do that, which i wasn't but even if I was, as I didn't know her, I wouldn't have done it!

Don't get me started on employee discounts!  One of my best friends works for Giant Hotel chain.  That means that she can 1) Tell people where there are deals. If a specific Hotel has too many vacancies, they will drop the prices of the rooms.  (Her job is to work on computational models that calculate prices that will maximize profit but sell out the rooms.) 2) get a fixed number of coupons per year for free stays.

So people assume that 1) She can just set any price at any hotel in any city on request and 2) Offer up unending free stays.  In fact, her sister will call her up and say, "I've just gotta get away this weekend.  Can you get me a suite at the swanky Las Vegas location for $50 a night.  Oh, and I'll need to drop of the kids too!  What do you mean there aren't rooms?  I've offered to pay!"

She finally decided one year that she was going to get it all over with and posted on Facebook: "I have X coupons for this year.  The first X people who respond will get one and after that don't ask until next year.  Her cousin started berating her for being selfish (Friend kept half of the coupons for herself.) 

Points of the rant:

How dare she keep her coupons when she had other benefits like health and dental.

If Friend had a smart phone  she could sure as heck pay for her own hotels and leave the freebies for people who couldn't afford them. 

Since Friend was offering some coupons, she had a moral obligation to pay for all friends on Facebook who wanted a free nights' stay - even if she had to pay for it out of pocket.

Friend was so rude for offering coupons that were not available on "black out" days.  And once again, if they couldn't use the coupons on the dates they wanted, friend was morally obligated to pay.

Friend's chain did not have a local hotel and the coupons were too inconvenient for her. 

Um, alrighty.  My friend responded by simply emailing her a link to the HR website and suggested that she apply.  Whenever we have GNO, said friend will always drink a little faster when mentioning whatever new rudeness she's been subjected to over her work freebees.

What does benefits and a smart phone have to do with it?

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« Reply #18116 on: November 26, 2012, 04:46:46 PM »
Perhaps that cousin thought those things meant Friend was ever-so-much-more-fortunate than others and that she be offering her freebies as consolation prizes to those who weren't so lucky? :P  (Which is headache-inducing in itself ...)
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« Reply #18117 on: November 26, 2012, 04:49:43 PM »
A rant like that should have ensured not only a block on Facebook but that Cousin received no coupons or discounts ever.

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« Reply #18118 on: November 26, 2012, 05:01:43 PM »
Oh, the dreaded employee discount.  Here's another good one....DH works at an auto dealership in the parts department.  He can get parts at a significant discount as an employee.  They don't mind if you get parts for a friend or family member, but DH has to pay up front.  There's no credit available. 

DH's long time friend does all his own auto repairs so of course, he saw this as a gold mine.  I saw it as a drain on our finances.  We would have to put up the money ahead of time and then wait around until DH could get to see said friend and deliver the part and get reimbursed.  But DH is a softer touch than I am and still will get his friend the occasional part when necessary.  He will at least clear it with me first.

When I totally put my foot down though, is when the friend started sending HIS friends over to DH to get parts.  These are people we have maybe met once and definitely do not see on a regular basis and I am sure as God made little green apples that we are not going to start supplying parts for any random person that anyone may send our way.  And yes, I've been accused by these "friends" of being cheap and unhelpful.  Sorry, that's the way things go.

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« Reply #18119 on: November 26, 2012, 05:21:40 PM »
Oh, the dreaded employee discount.  Here's another good one....DH works at an auto dealership in the parts department.  He can get parts at a significant discount as an employee.  They don't mind if you get parts for a friend or family member, but DH has to pay up front.  There's no credit available. 

DH's long time friend does all his own auto repairs so of course, he saw this as a gold mine.  I saw it as a drain on our finances.  We would have to put up the money ahead of time and then wait around until DH could get to see said friend and deliver the part and get reimbursed.  But DH is a softer touch than I am and still will get his friend the occasional part when necessary.  He will at least clear it with me first.

When I totally put my foot down though, is when the friend started sending HIS friends over to DH to get parts.  These are people we have maybe met once and definitely do not see on a regular basis and I am sure as God made little green apples that we are not going to start supplying parts for any random person that anyone may send our way.  And yes, I've been accused by these "friends" of being cheap and unhelpful.  Sorry, that's the way things go.

That is right up there with an acquaintance knowing you have a pick-up truck and asking to borrow it to move. Hmm, no. I used to be such a pushover for "friends". One friend started having computer trouble, so we took a look at it, and $50 in parts and hours of labor later, there we were. We do have very good friends that we see and help when they need it, and vice versa. The difference is, the real friends want to be around you no when they don't want anything from you. It took me a long time to learn that lesson.

SS: I work with a woman who can be nice, but considers herself the specialist person ever to live. She is very particular on every possible subject. She took additional time off last week (we were given Thursday and Friday off as well as the usual weekend) and let her two employees have it off as well, which meant there was no staff at her office. This was not run by the big boss, and now SS is in hot water over that decision. She complained to me today that it is just not fair, that she is in trouble.

We have our departmental monthly meeting/holiday party coming up in a week and this time we are at a restaurant, which makes me so happy. SS is the most picky eater I have ever met, and I would rather go through torture than order food for her again and have to listen to her whine for years (no exaggeration here) that someone else got better food that she wanted over what she ordered.
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