Here's another SS Ellen story. (Background information on the "final straw incident" that led to my ending the friendship is in this thread: http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=125363.0
SS Ellen was invited to a party. She called me the day of the party and asked me whether I had plans for the afternoon. I said no, not really. (I was a lot more naive than I am now--this was a few months before the final straw incident--and a little too trusting, which is why I was honest.)
She told me she'd been invited to this party. (I hadn't been, and TBH didn't care. I disliked large parties; didn't particularly like the hostess either; and frankly, could think of ways I'd rather spend a Sunday afternoon.)
I said I wasn't invited, and didn't really want to go anyway, so I was fine with that.
"Well, she said I could bring a friend, and I'm inviting you. It's rude to turn down an invitation when you don't have other plans. And I was just planning to put in an appearance for an hour or so."
I agreed to go with her, since I didn't want to be rude, and we'd only be there an hour--although I made it pretty clear I wasn't happy about it.
At the party, it was obvious Hostess hadn't wanted me there; she didn't particularly like me either, and was distinctly icy when she saw me. SS Ellen told her, "Oh, she insisted on coming"--a barefaced lie. If I could find the words, I would have called her on her lie--E-Hell-approved or not--but I was speechless.
Once we were back in the car, I'm embarrassed to say I yelled at SS Ellen about how she'd PUBLICLY HUMILIATED ME by LYING to the hostess when I HADN'T wanted to be there, and SHE hadn't wanted me to BE there. If she EVER did that to me again, our friendship would be OVER!
SS Ellen said, "I don't know what you're talking about."
If I'd had a nice shiny spine then, I would have given that SS Female Dog the cut direct right after she drove me home--or better yet, never have gone to that party at all. But I was too forgiving--and it would take a few more months before I broke off contact for good.