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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20010 on: March 13, 2013, 01:06:30 PM »
I don't know whether this is more snowflakey or brain hurty or what, but today I brought in treats to work. I left them in the break room with a sign saying what they were and for people to help themselves. A coworker who I'm somewhat friendly with walked by and asked if I'd brought the treats. I said yes. She said, "That was nice of you. But some people hate you for doing it." And then she walked away. Was that really necessary?

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« Reply #20011 on: March 13, 2013, 01:17:06 PM »
I don't know whether this is more snowflakey or brain hurty or what, but today I brought in treats to work. I left them in the break room with a sign saying what they were and for people to help themselves. A coworker who I'm somewhat friendly with walked by and asked if I'd brought the treats. I said yes. She said, "That was nice of you. But some people hate you for doing it." And then she walked away. Was that really necessary?

 :o I can't figure out why they would hate you for doing it.  I've been in a position where I was trying to cut calories, and was a bit disappointed because I couldn't have one of the cupcakes someone had brought in (well, I could have, but would have considered it a setback), but hate or even dislike didn't enter into it at all.  Maybe she was kidding around, and it just came out awkwardly?

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20012 on: March 13, 2013, 01:23:20 PM »
I don't know whether this is more snowflakey or brain hurty or what, but today I brought in treats to work. I left them in the break room with a sign saying what they were and for people to help themselves. A coworker who I'm somewhat friendly with walked by and asked if I'd brought the treats. I said yes. She said, "That was nice of you. But some people hate you for doing it." And then she walked away. Was that really necessary?

 :o I can't figure out why they would hate you for doing it.  I've been in a position where I was trying to cut calories, and was a bit disappointed because I couldn't have one of the cupcakes someone had brought in (well, I could have, but would have considered it a setback), but hate or even dislike didn't enter into it at all.  Maybe she was kidding around, and it just came out awkwardly?

To me it is obvious she was making a joke!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20013 on: March 13, 2013, 01:24:24 PM »
I don't know whether this is more snowflakey or brain hurty or what, but today I brought in treats to work. I left them in the break room with a sign saying what they were and for people to help themselves. A coworker who I'm somewhat friendly with walked by and asked if I'd brought the treats. I said yes. She said, "That was nice of you. But some people hate you for doing it." And then she walked away. Was that really necessary?

 :o I can't figure out why they would hate you for doing it.  I've been in a position where I was trying to cut calories, and was a bit disappointed because I couldn't have one of the cupcakes someone had brought in (well, I could have, but would have considered it a setback), but hate or even dislike didn't enter into it at all.  Maybe she was kidding around, and it just came out awkwardly?

To me it is obvious she was making a joke!

Well, trying to, at any rate.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20014 on: March 13, 2013, 01:28:40 PM »
I don't know whether this is more snowflakey or brain hurty or what, but today I brought in treats to work. I left them in the break room with a sign saying what they were and for people to help themselves. A coworker who I'm somewhat friendly with walked by and asked if I'd brought the treats. I said yes. She said, "That was nice of you. But some people hate you for doing it." And then she walked away. Was that really necessary?

 :o I can't figure out why they would hate you for doing it.  I've been in a position where I was trying to cut calories, and was a bit disappointed because I couldn't have one of the cupcakes someone had brought in (well, I could have, but would have considered it a setback), but hate or even dislike didn't enter into it at all.  Maybe she was kidding around, and it just came out awkwardly?

To me it is obvious she was making a joke!

Well, trying to, at any rate.

I thought she probably was, but it would have brought me up short, too.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20015 on: March 13, 2013, 01:30:43 PM »
Yeah, it came out kind of awkwardly and she did walk away rather fast so I'm guessing she knew it sounded off too. But it still had me thinking about it for a while afterwards!

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« Reply #20016 on: March 13, 2013, 02:24:54 PM »
I'm not fond of that kind of joking.  I used to bake a lot, and bring things to the office.  Most of my coworkers were nice about it, but I had one coworker who told me she hated me every time I brought something in (usually she'd say it while she was grabbing a treat, but sometimes she'd email or call me to let me know).

Even though she was joking,  I got tired of hearing it.  It's not really clever or cute to tell someone you hate them, or that others do.

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« Reply #20017 on: March 13, 2013, 02:30:42 PM »
I have a boss who brings in a dozen doughnuts about once a week, and he usually puts them on a filing cabinet close to me.  That's fine - I don't really like doughnuts that much (cinammon buns, now - hoo boy, if he brought in those, I'd be in SUCH trouble), so they don't tempt me.  My gosh, though, do I ever get tired of hearing all the talk about the doughnuts - "I shouldn't have one."   "I already had one, but I shouldn't have."  "Oh, they look so good, I want one, but I can't!"  "Maybe I'll just have half of one.  *munch*  I shouldn't have done that; now I want the other half, wahh!"  You get the picture.

It gets SO boring.  When I'm already feeling grumpy, I feel like yelling "Either eat the damned doughnut or don't; just shut UP about it."

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« Reply #20018 on: March 13, 2013, 02:40:20 PM »
I have a boss who brings in a dozen doughnuts about once a week, and he usually puts them on a filing cabinet close to me.  That's fine - I don't really like doughnuts that much (cinammon buns, now - hoo boy, if he brought in those, I'd be in SUCH trouble), so they don't tempt me.  My gosh, though, do I ever get tired of hearing all the talk about the doughnuts - "I shouldn't have one."   "I already had one, but I shouldn't have."  "Oh, they look so good, I want one, but I can't!"  "Maybe I'll just have half of one.  *munch*  I shouldn't have done that; now I want the other half, wahh!"  You get the picture.

It gets SO boring.  When I'm already feeling grumpy, I feel like yelling "Either eat the damned doughnut or don't; just shut UP about it."

What bugs me about that is that if you eat just half a doughnut, NO ONE eats the other half.  It just sits there.


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20019 on: March 13, 2013, 02:47:26 PM »
I have a boss who brings in a dozen doughnuts about once a week, and he usually puts them on a filing cabinet close to me.  That's fine - I don't really like doughnuts that much (cinammon buns, now - hoo boy, if he brought in those, I'd be in SUCH trouble), so they don't tempt me.  My gosh, though, do I ever get tired of hearing all the talk about the doughnuts - "I shouldn't have one."   "I already had one, but I shouldn't have."  "Oh, they look so good, I want one, but I can't!"  "Maybe I'll just have half of one.  *munch*  I shouldn't have done that; now I want the other half, wahh!"  You get the picture.

It gets SO boring.  When I'm already feeling grumpy, I feel like yelling "Either eat the damned doughnut or don't; just shut UP about it."

What bugs me about that is that if you eat just half a doughnut, NO ONE eats the other half.  It just sits there.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20020 on: March 13, 2013, 02:50:50 PM »
What I've seen is the Eternally Subdividing Doughnut...someone cuts it in half, the next person cuts that in half, maybe one more cut until we're practically talking about doughnut molecules.

For the common good, I will usually jump in and take the fractional doughnut.

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« Reply #20021 on: March 13, 2013, 02:58:51 PM »
What I've seen is the Eternally Subdividing Doughnut...someone cuts it in half, the next person cuts that in half, maybe one more cut until we're practically talking about doughnut molecules.

For the common good, I will usually jump in and take the fractional doughnut.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20022 on: March 13, 2013, 03:01:45 PM »
The half donuts drive me crazy because I then feel guilty if I want a whole donut.  :(  Usually I would end up doing the math, trying to guess whether there were enough donuts for everybody to have a whole donut if they wanted one, and taking the half or a whole depending on that.  Unless the donuts had been out for a long time and it was near the end of the day.  Then... fair game!  Yay donuts!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20023 on: March 13, 2013, 03:04:02 PM »
I'm not fond of that kind of joking.  I used to bake a lot, and bring things to the office.  Most of my coworkers were nice about it, but I had one coworker who told me she hated me every time I brought something in (usually she'd say it while she was grabbing a treat, but sometimes she'd email or call me to let me know).

Even though she was joking,  I got tired of hearing it.  It's not really clever or cute to tell someone you hate them, or that others do.

My mother tells the story of a housemate she had once, who for a period of weeks, would say the same thing after supper. "You know, [Mom'sname], I've been thinking about this. I've been giving this a lot of thought, and I've decided that I like you." Mom knew she meant it, and was being goofy.
Then, the script changed. "You know, [Mom'sname], I've been thinking about this. I've been giving this a lot of thought, and I've decided that I don't like you." Still said cheerfully and kindly, and Mom knew she was kidding, and it was all okay.
Except that after the fifteenth repetition or so, the way Mom felt about said housemate changed a bit. It started to sting a little, even though intellectually Mom knew that Housemate liked her very much and didn't mean a word of it.
Mom still finds her view of Housemate coloured a little by this, nearly fifty years later.

As a result of hearing that story, if I do say something negative to someone as a joke, I make sure not to make that kind of joke more than once. Better yet, I try not to do it at all.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20024 on: March 13, 2013, 04:32:50 PM »
I have a boss who brings in a dozen doughnuts about once a week, and he usually puts them on a filing cabinet close to me.  That's fine - I don't really like doughnuts that much (cinammon buns, now - hoo boy, if he brought in those, I'd be in SUCH trouble), so they don't tempt me.  My gosh, though, do I ever get tired of hearing all the talk about the doughnuts - "I shouldn't have one."   "I already had one, but I shouldn't have."  "Oh, they look so good, I want one, but I can't!"  "Maybe I'll just have half of one.  *munch*  I shouldn't have done that; now I want the other half, wahh!"  You get the picture.

It gets SO boring.  When I'm already feeling grumpy, I feel like yelling "Either eat the damned doughnut or don't; just shut UP about it."

I used to actually do that, though I didn't yell. At a previous job, there was a vendor who sent my company a huge block of milk chocolate every year. I had a pocket knife, and a set of desk-height filing cabinets across from my desk, so it became my job to break the chocolate into chunks. This meant a lot of people wandering by to get chocolate, and often saying things like "I really shouldn't." I got tired of it, both because it was very repetitive and because I don't think it's immoral to eat tasty things. So I got in the habit of answering with things like "Then don't" [and turning away from them and back to my computer] or "Yes you should, it's good for you."

There was at least one person in my office who genuinely shouldn't eat the chocolate, because she's allergic, and she didn't take any. She also didn't wander past and make a big deal of it, because she wasn't trying to get social points for self-denial, and she really didn't need to get into the "just one piece" routine with someone who didn't know about her allergy.

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