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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20520 on: April 14, 2013, 05:48:34 PM »

"It's just ridiculous for her to beg like that."

It's ridiculous for anyone to beg like that.  Even if this woman's circumstances were such that she really didn't have enough to eat, there are ways of addressing that without public begging.  Assistance programs, food banks, churches can help; if she really felt she had nowhere to turn but her coworkers, a request in private would be the way to go.

The people I have met who are really in tough circumstances for whatever reason have almost infallibly been very polite and discreet in asking for help, and very direct.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20521 on: April 14, 2013, 06:42:37 PM »

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*ETA: My mom works with a special snowflake. There is a well off woman in her office who never brings enough in her lunch bag. She either skips bringing a snack or just brings one thing (like a few crackers, some mints or a baggie of chips). When everyone else has break time, she'll pipe up with "Oh boy, your sandwich / snack looks so good. I wish I had brought more *pointed look*." Some people will cave and hand her a portion of their food. Mom has put her foot down and ignores the hints; her reasoning is "She lives in that huge house in Fancy Neighborhood, her adult soon cooks plenty food for both of them and her late husband left her with plenty of money. It's just ridiculous for her to beg like that."

While begging is not the answer, you don't really know what her circumstances are.  The son could be holding the money And not allowing her to have enough to take for lunch for whatever reason. It's not uncommon really

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20522 on: April 14, 2013, 07:10:59 PM »

...   Snowflake doesn't eat until she ponies up.   ...


I don't think she should even GET there until she first ponies up for gas.  I don't think she should be allowed to share the apartment at all unless and until she first chips in her share for the rent.  Then we can talk about whether or not she gets any food.   >:(

It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20523 on: April 14, 2013, 07:57:19 PM »

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*ETA: My mom works with a special snowflake. There is a well off woman in her office who never brings enough in her lunch bag. She either skips bringing a snack or just brings one thing (like a few crackers, some mints or a baggie of chips). When everyone else has break time, she'll pipe up with "Oh boy, your sandwich / snack looks so good. I wish I had brought more *pointed look*." Some people will cave and hand her a portion of their food. Mom has put her foot down and ignores the hints; her reasoning is "She lives in that huge house in Fancy Neighborhood, her adult soon cooks plenty food for both of them and her late husband left her with plenty of money. It's just ridiculous for her to beg like that."

While begging is not the answer, you don't really know what her circumstances are.  The son could be holding the money And not allowing her to have enough to take for lunch for whatever reason. It's not uncommon really

Actually, I do know her circumstances. She has control of the late husband's money; the son does not. She is very chatty about the state of her finances, how she spends her money, what the husband left behind, etc. And she often goes on fancy, expensive vacations by herself to boot. She doesn't know how to cook, although her late husband did and now the son does the cooking, too; which shouldn't prevent her from at least packing leftovers or buying premade lunch items from Publix. So no, she isn't living some Flowers In The Attic existance
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20524 on: April 14, 2013, 08:11:24 PM »

...   Snowflake doesn't eat until she ponies up.   ...


I don't think she should even GET there until she first ponies up for gas.  I don't think she should be allowed to share the apartment at all unless and until she first chips in her share for the rent.  Then we can talk about whether or not she gets any food.   >:(

It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

Make sure you keep us up to date on this one mbbored - sounds like its going to be a fun ride (for those of us reading about it anyways)...

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« Reply #20525 on: April 14, 2013, 09:12:00 PM »
I doubt lunch-mooch has money issues. It's far more likely that she packs herself a "small lunch" to be "healthy", but "tastes" of other people's food don't count. I've seen this I don't know *how* many times- it's the classic "order a salad and eat all your date's fries" move. It's just fooling yourself, but people get funny about food.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20526 on: April 14, 2013, 09:13:43 PM »
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It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

I do like the MOH's spine!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20527 on: April 14, 2013, 09:43:44 PM »
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It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

I do like the MOH's spine!

MOH is a park ranger at a well known national park. She deals with dangerous situations on a regular basis, often caused by other SS's, and doesn't suffer fools gladly.

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« Reply #20528 on: April 14, 2013, 10:07:05 PM »
MOH is a park ranger at a well known national park. She deals with dangerous situations on a regular basis, often caused by other SS's, and doesn't suffer fools gladly.

That's definitely the type of person I'd like to have in charge of everything. :)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20529 on: April 15, 2013, 12:03:00 AM »
TFSS (trust fund special snowflake) and MOH should make a very interesting pair. Try not to miss any of the fireworks, OP. (We're quite nosy, you know. >:D)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20530 on: April 15, 2013, 01:47:39 AM »
There is a massive Special Snowflake in my town. Apparently, this person thinks it's totally okay to play their bass so loudly that the whole house shakes when they drive past, and they drive down my street at least once a week. If you sit in the front of the house, your chest hurts from the vibrations. I can only surmise that the person wears earplugs and noise - canceling headphones at the same time to keep from going deaf.

There is a solution to that  >:D
 http://xkcd.com/1156/

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20531 on: April 15, 2013, 10:56:51 AM »

...   Snowflake doesn't eat until she ponies up.   ...


I don't think she should even GET there until she first ponies up for gas.  I don't think she should be allowed to share the apartment at all unless and until she first chips in her share for the rent.  Then we can talk about whether or not she gets any food.   >:(

It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

Good for the MOH!

We had a similar situation. We went to Comic Con in 2011, and some friends went with us. One of the friends did not pay for gas or food at all and said the only money he had was reserved for a few things he planned on buying at the convention. Much resentment was felt by everyone, but no one spoke up because then we would've been treated to an extremely unpleasant ride home with the guy, because he had major attitude issues besides.

When we went last year, we told Mooching Friend that he had to pay for gas ahead of time, and no one would be covering his meals, so if he wanted to eat he'd have to pay for it himself. If he didn't like that plan, he could find his own way there. He was told well in advance, so he couldn't then claim it was too short notice for him to get together the cash. He ponied up with the money but made several PA remarks during the trip about how he didn't have enough for this or that cool thing he wanted to buy. Too bad, dude..you don't get to enjoy comic con on everyone else's dime.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20532 on: April 15, 2013, 11:00:59 AM »

...   Snowflake doesn't eat until she ponies up.   ...


I don't think she should even GET there until she first ponies up for gas.  I don't think she should be allowed to share the apartment at all unless and until she first chips in her share for the rent.  Then we can talk about whether or not she gets any food.   >:(

It looks like the MOH has taken a hard line on this one. She sent out an email today saying unless you've paid up front for the apartment and are ready to hand over xx amount for gas, don't bother showing up at the meeting point. Fortunately I'll get to miss any late fireworks since I'm going with the late group down.

Good for the MOH!

We had a similar situation. We went to Comic Con in 2011, and some friends went with us. One of the friends did not pay for gas or food at all and said the only money he had was reserved for a few things he planned on buying at the convention. Much resentment was felt by everyone, but no one spoke up because then we would've been treated to an extremely unpleasant ride home with the guy, because he had major attitude issues besides.

When we went last year, we told Mooching Friend that he had to pay for gas ahead of time, and no one would be covering his meals, so if he wanted to eat he'd have to pay for it himself. If he didn't like that plan, he could find his own way there. He was told well in advance, so he couldn't then claim it was too short notice for him to get together the cash. He ponied up with the money but made several PA remarks during the trip about how he didn't have enough for this or that cool thing he wanted to buy. Too bad, dude..you don't get to enjoy comic con on everyone else's dime.

I don't understand people like that. I go away to Atlantic City once a year, with the girls. We've been doing this for quite some time, and we used to go for one night, and stay over, go to the spa, etc. except at the time, I coudln't afford a spa treatment, so while they went, I entertained myself elsewhere. and was then able to go partake in the nice, but pricy dinner we treat ourselves to.

Now we stay in my friend's condo which is nearby, and go to a different spa, and I also have some more disposable income. and when we all hit the casino, i generlaly spend the least, as its not my hting. but i'd never expect anyone to pay for me during that time, for anything.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20533 on: April 15, 2013, 12:02:35 PM »
LadyClaire wrote:

"We had a similar situation. We went to Comic Con in 2011, and some friends went with us. One of the friends did not pay for gas or food at all and said the only money he had was reserved for a few things he planned on buying at the convention. Much resentment was felt by everyone, but no one spoke up because then we would've been treated to an extremely unpleasant ride home with the guy, because he had major attitude issues besides."

One wonders why the ride home wasn't made contingent upon paying up, or why you all just didn't leave him there to find his own way home.  He had money for buying things, so you could have insisted that he pay his share, and you can solve the grousing on the ride home by not taking him along.

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« Reply #20534 on: April 21, 2013, 05:53:26 PM »
DH and I are in disagreement over an incident at church this morning.  A little girl (8 years old), we'll call her "Emily," was took part in an important ceremony in our religion this morning.  She's an absolutely beloved kid in the congregation because she has a such a sweet, funny, lively nature. Also, she has a large family comprised of long time, very active members. So a lot of us were really excited to see her take part in this ceremony, particularly my daughter as Emily and Weeblegirl have been good friends since they were in the baby nursery together. Weeblegirl has already been through the ceremony, so she and Emily spent a lot of time discussing it.

The ceremonial portion of the service occurs right after the first hymn, so maybe ten minutes after the service begins.  A family of six adults and a newborn baby sat about two rows behind us. (The family is newer to the congregation and in no way related to Emily's family.) The baby fussed a little bit in the first few minutes of the service, but I thought, as the ceremony began, that surely, if the baby started to cry during the baptism they would take the baby out of the sanctuary into the quiet room, where the accompanying adult could watch the service on CCTV until the baby quieted down.  The family has been at the church long enough that they know the ceremonies tend to be very quiet, though joyous, occasions, in which the church congregation welcomes a new member into the family.

I'm sure you know what happened next.  The minute the ceremony began, the baby started crying.  And not weak little kitten cries, I mean full-blast, both-lungs exerted, opera-diva in training SCREAMS that had the people wearing hearing aids wincing and reaching for their volume dials.  We kept waiting for the mother or someone among the six people sitting with this baby, to take her outside.  But no, the baby just kept wailing.   The minister performing the ceremony actually paused and waited a few beats so he could be heard, but when it became clear that the baby wasn't going to be moved, he continued as best he could, speaking up into his microphone.  We noticed that the audio crew that runs the PA system turned up the volume of his mic, but we still had a hard time hearing him.

After church, I mentioned to DH that it would have been better if one of our ushers approached the family and asked them to take the baby to the quiet room.  DH said that would be unkind and could turn that whole family away from attending the church.  I said OK, but what about Emily and her family, who we've all known for years?  Shouldn't we be concerned about their feelings, too?  I called the baby's family special snowflakes.  DH said they weren't, and maybe the mother was just nervous about leaving the baby in the baby nursery.  I said that would be fine, she could still go to the quiet room out of consideration to the rest of the congregation - even if there wasn't important ceremony going on.  It's polite to take a baby out of a quiet setting when he or she is crying.  He says that's not very welcoming.

So what say you?
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