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Winterlight:

--- Quote from: weeblewobble on April 21, 2013, 06:53:26 PM ---After church, I mentioned to DH that it would have been better if one of our ushers approached the family and asked them to take the baby to the quiet room.  DH said that would be unkind and could turn that whole family away from attending the church.  I said OK, but what about Emily and her family, who we've all known for years?  Shouldn't we be concerned about their feelings, too?  I called the baby's family special snowflakes.  DH said they weren't, and maybe the mother was just nervous about leaving the baby in the baby nursery.  I said that would be fine, she could still go to the quiet room out of consideration to the rest of the congregation - even if there wasn't important ceremony going on.  It's polite to take a baby out of a quiet setting when he or she is crying.  He says that's not very welcoming.

So what say you?

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You know what's not welcoming? Being at church and having to listen to a baby shriek like a fire alarm through the whole service because nobody could be bothered to take them out to the cry room.

Spring Water on Sundays:

--- Quote from: RebeccainGA on April 22, 2013, 08:25:39 AM ---
--- Quote from: BabyMama on April 21, 2013, 07:13:58 PM ---I almost wish I had let him hit me--it was a new looking car and mine's pretty old, it would have been kind of interesting to see how much that spot was "worth" to him after our insurances talked to each other. I had somewhere to be after lunch though, and based on how aggressive was behind the wheel, I don't think I wouldn't have wanted to stick around with him while waiting for the cops. I still can't believe he bullied me into backing up for him though.

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DP and I have an ongoing debate of sorts going on this point - I say, it's better to avoid the accident than be right. She's more of a 'it's my right of way, no you can't share it, you'll get the ticket not me' on these things.

For example, leaving an event this weekend, there was a long lineup to turn left onto the highway. I always leave more space than is minimally necessary (usually a full car length) between me and the person ahead - I've been backed into, and think it's courteous to leave space for that 'oops, is that the lane?' occasion as well if I can, especially when we're leaving an event where folks may not be familiar with the road. A semi was in the next lane over, and turned on their signal to get into the turn lane to the highway as well, so I was staying well back (almost 3 car lengths) to allow the semi to get over. There was considerably less than 1 car length between the end of the semi and my bumper (in a cross lane direction), and I had paused (I was at the light before the turn, and it had been green for a while, so I didn't want to get stuck in the travel path on top of everything else going on). DP starts fussing at me about moving up already (most of the space between my car and the one in front was the travel lane for people turning onto the freeway from the opposite direction, so I'd have been in their way - and there's still that semi with the turn signal) so I said no... and just as I did, some moron goes flying around the traffic waiting behind me, squeals through the gap between me and the semi (nearly hitting us both) and stops short, with the back of his truck blocking the lane. If I'd have listened to DP, I'd have been hit broadside, just where she was sitting, as I'd have JUST pushed forward when he slipped through.

I know the other driver was an SS. I wish DP wasn't so SS too!

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I would MUCH rather not have my car get hit at all! Even without bodily injury or bills out of pocket, it's such an annoying hassle to deal with insurance (if the other driver is insured at all), get body shop estimates, be without my car while it's getting fixed, etc. The last time someone rear-ended me, they had AWFUL insurance from some cheap company. My insurance agent hadn't even heard of this company and they were a nightmare to deal with. They wanted me to take my car to some shady shop in a terrible neighborhood 15 miles from my home instead of the clean, reliable, honest shop 2 miles from my home because the shady shop was $70 cheaper - I had to fight them on that one and I won, but still, not my idea of a good use of my time. Ugh!

MissRose:
In my part of Michigan, we are dealing with a lot of flooding special thanks to the melting snow but more to the hard downpours of rain.  Some roads and intersections have signs up "Road Closed".    In some areas if people try to get through, the police have been ticketing people who drive through the areas and I am sure those people don't live in the area.   Plus some people think they can drive through a foot of water or so then get stuck, which makes it hard for rescues and towing especially in areas with widespread flooding that is slowly receding.

artk2002:

--- Quote from: NyaChan on April 21, 2013, 08:52:37 PM ---
--- Quote from: kherbert05 on April 21, 2013, 08:48:34 PM ---
--- Quote from: weeblewobble on April 21, 2013, 06:53:26 PM ---
After church, I mentioned to DH that it would have been better if one of our ushers approached the family and asked them to take the baby to the quiet room.  DH said that would be unkind and could turn that whole family away from attending the church.  I said OK, but what about Emily and her family, who we've all known for years?  Shouldn't we be concerned about their feelings, too?  I called the baby's family special snowflakes.  DH said they weren't, and maybe the mother was just nervous about leaving the baby in the baby nursery.  I said that would be fine, she could still go to the quiet room out of consideration to the rest of the congregation - even if there wasn't important ceremony going on.  It's polite to take a baby out of a quiet setting when he or she is crying.  He says that's not very welcoming.

So what say you?

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They should have moved the child to the quiet room. When they didn't either the ushers or the minister should have told them to take the child out. I hope at the very least the minister or someone from the church makes it clear in the future crying babies should be removed.

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I agree with this.  If they are asked politely and kindly to have someone take the child outside until the child has calmed down, there is no reason why they should have their feelings hurt or feel unwelcome.

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And if they did get their feelings hurt or feel unwelcome, then they may not be the right fit for this particular church community. Asking someone to take a disruptive child away from a solemn ceremony is not, in any way, shape or form, out of line. If a simple request to respect the rest of the community puts their knickers in a twist, what else will they do?

artk2002:

--- Quote from: RebeccainGA on April 22, 2013, 08:25:39 AM ---DP and I have an ongoing debate of sorts going on this point - I say, it's better to avoid the accident than be right. She's more of a 'it's my right of way, no you can't share it, you'll get the ticket not me' on these things.


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One of my favorite "funny" epitaphs:

--- Quote ---This is the grave of Mike ODay
Who died maintaining his right of way.
His right was clear, his will was strong,
But hes just as dead as if hed been wrong.

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