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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21000 on: May 13, 2013, 01:39:10 PM »
I nominate DH for Special Snowflake.

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I have to disagree with you!  I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2.  He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.  It only takes a few seconds.  He, on the other hand, has stopped tucking the pull-down-attic-stairs cord up into the hole where I can't reach it without a step stool, because I asked him to nicely.  I think it's just the kind and loving thing to do. 

Of course, there's a difference between "Honey, could you please push the seat back after you drive so I can get in the car?" and "Put the expletive seat back or else, you expletive expletive!"

I'm going to disagree with you as well.  I am 5'2" and my husband is 6'4".  My car has the electric seat mover and if I know he's going to drive it next, I hit his button to change the settings to his.  When we only had one car, I automatically moved the seat back for him.  It wasn't a huge issue and it made things much easier for him.  Of course, he nicely asked me when we first got married 33 years ago if I would do that for hiim and I have been ever since.
I'd disagree too. My dd and I are roughly the same height, but I'm all leg (my  legs are 6 inches longer than hers). When she drives my car, I literally cannot get into it to move the seat back. So I have to move it from outside -- problem is that it just about requires the ability of a contortionist to move the seat back from outside the car. Meanwhile if she gets in the car after I've driven it, all she has to do is hit the lever and she's good to go. So I'd be pretty ticked if she refused to move the seat back since her getting into the car and moving the seat forward requires almost no effort, while what I have to do is a pain in the patootie.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21001 on: May 13, 2013, 01:45:48 PM »
I nominate DH for Special Snowflake.

I'm 5'2". He's 6'4". He's decreed that whenever I leave one of our two cars, that I put the seat all the way down and all the way back, on the chance that he might be the next driver of the car and on the (slimmer) chance that it might be raining.

I usually reply, "Not ever going to happen, but you can keep demanding it if it helps vent your spleen."

His argument is I can jump in the car and adjust it while he has to stand outside the car to do so. This is true and annoying if it's raining. But it's not reasonable, IMO, for me to have adjust the seat every.single.time I use a car. (We both use both vehicles roughly equally). If he used it last, I'd have to adjust once I get in AND when I get out.

If I know for sure he's going to use the car I'm in next I will adjust the seat for him (one of our vehicles is the only one that can haul our boat), but that's all I'm willing to do.

For you super-lucky peeps that have the auto-seat-adjusters in your remote keyless entry fob, my fangs are dripping with envy!

I have to disagree with you!  I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2.  He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.  It only takes a few seconds.  He, on the other hand, has stopped tucking the pull-down-attic-stairs cord up into the hole where I can't reach it without a step stool, because I asked him to nicely.  I think it's just the kind and loving thing to do. 

Of course, there's a difference between "Honey, could you please push the seat back after you drive so I can get in the car?" and "Put the expletive seat back or else, you expletive expletive!"

I'm going to disagree with you as well.  I am 5'2" and my husband is 6'4".  My car has the electric seat mover and if I know he's going to drive it next, I hit his button to change the settings to his.  When we only had one car, I automatically moved the seat back for him.  It wasn't a huge issue and it made things much easier for him.  Of course, he nicely asked me when we first got married 33 years ago if I would do that for him and I have been ever since.
I'd disagree too. My dd and I are roughly the same height, but I'm all leg (my  legs are 6 inches longer than hers). When she drives my car, I literally cannot get into it to move the seat back. So I have to move it from outside -- problem is that it just about requires the ability of a contortionist to move the seat back from outside the car. Meanwhile if she gets in the car after I've driven it, all she has to do is hit the lever and she's good to go. So I'd be pretty ticked if she refused to move the seat back since her getting into the car and moving the seat forward requires almost no effort, while what I have to do is a pain in the patootie.

I am 5'2" and DH is 6'2".  We have one car and unless I am sure I will be driving it next I try to always move the seat back for him.  Its a manual seat, so he would have to lean in and grab the bar to move it back or bang his knee on the steering wheel.  I do this as a courtesy for him, he doesn't demand it.  OTOH he does things for me like change lightbulbs that would require climbing on a chair.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21002 on: May 13, 2013, 01:56:07 PM »
When the car seat has been pushed far back in my car, I have fallen in and hurt myself.

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« Reply #21003 on: May 13, 2013, 01:57:04 PM »
My youngest cat is a special snowflake. I'll catch her with her head down and say "What are you doing ? Are you eating a lizard ? Spit that out  :o" and she'll go "*jerks head up, guilty meow* Nuffin, Mummy, dere's nuffin in mah mouf, tee ? *opens mouth* MEOWWWW! OH CRAP, I FORGOT! STOP SQURIMING IN MAH MOUF, LIZARD! MEOW MEOW MEOW!"  Yes, I take away the lizards every time and throw them back into the yard.

So is mine :o Cat 3 (Hilde) is a really quite an SS at times.

She will not drink the same water as Cat 2 (Yuri) or Cat 1 (Koudelka), no, she must have all new water, and won't stop yowling until I get it for her, and I then must watch her drink it, for reasons I don't know yet, I guess she thinks someone will steal her water somehow :P

She must sit wherever the human is sitting, not as in on the human, but in their spot, and won't stop yowling until the human moves for her.

She must have her primary human (me) visible to her at all times, otherwise she will, yes, yowl. She has even worked out how to open doors to aid her in her me-seeking endeavour, I have no idea how she does it.

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« Reply #21004 on: May 13, 2013, 01:59:22 PM »
Speaking of kids on bikes, I once had an entire family on bikes come up behind me on the sidewalk (not a cycle path) while I was walking, and they called imperiously "EXCUSE me!"  When I turned around, they said "We're trying to get by.  Please move."  I said "You've got to be kidding.  The sidewalk is for pedestrians, and I'm not moving."  The mother yelled something else, but I'd put my headphones on by that point and missed it.  Whatever it was, I'm sure it was a compliment.  :)

I'd like to be clear here - I have no problem sharing the sidewalk with bikes.  I get that sometimes the road simply isn't safe.  But to demand that I jump out of their way?  Nope, not happening.

Oh, yeah.  Drives me crazy, too.  The only person I move out of the way for is the mentally challenged guy on his adult sized tricycle style bike.  It is too hard for him to manouver off the sidewalk, onto the grass and then back onto the sidewalk again.  He's pretty polite.  He rings his bell and asks, 'Can I go through, please?'

Most sidewalks I've been on, a regular bicycle can go around a person. So, single file, family.

But if they couldn't, I'll be honest--I'd step off, because even for a 2-wheeler, it's difficult to try to ride onto the grass. I don't lose nearly as much momentum.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21005 on: May 13, 2013, 02:00:19 PM »
When the car seat has been pushed far back in my car, I have fallen in and hurt myself.

I'm single, so I don't have the moving back and forth problem on a regular basis.  But I hate having to adjust the seat after I've been in for service.  I don't know how many times I've gotten in, put the seatbelt on, then realized I need to adjust the seat.  Then almost choked myself on the seatbelt.

But this has made me think:  we have communal vehicles at work.  I should try to remember to move the seat back when I get out, since most of my coworkers are taller than me.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21006 on: May 13, 2013, 02:03:00 PM »
My youngest cat is a special snowflake. I'll catch her with her head down and say "What are you doing ? Are you eating a lizard ? Spit that out  :o" and she'll go "*jerks head up, guilty meow* Nuffin, Mummy, dere's nuffin in mah mouf, tee ? *opens mouth* MEOWWWW! OH CRAP, I FORGOT! STOP SQURIMING IN MAH MOUF, LIZARD! MEOW MEOW MEOW!"  Yes, I take away the lizards every time and throw them back into the yard.

So is mine :o Cat 3 (Hilde) is a really quite an SS at times.

She will not drink the same water as Cat 2 (Yuri) or Cat 1 (Koudelka), no, she must have all new water, and won't stop yowling until I get it for her, and I then must watch her drink it, for reasons I don't know yet, I guess she thinks someone will steal her water somehow :P

She must sit wherever the human is sitting, not as in on the human, but in their spot, and won't stop yowling until the human moves for her.

She must have her primary human (me) visible to her at all times, otherwise she will, yes, yowl. She has even worked out how to open doors to aid her in her me-seeking endeavour, I have no idea how she does it.

My middle cat is like that about tub water. She will yowl like crazy for the faucet to be turned on (never mind the three large bowls of clean water set out), but won't drink it unless I sit next to her first and duck my head down a little so she can headbutt me  ???

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21007 on: May 13, 2013, 02:03:44 PM »
I also feel that "all the way back" is the default/neutral position. Sort of "factory setting."


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« Reply #21008 on: May 13, 2013, 02:05:18 PM »

My middle cat is like that about tub water. She will yowl like crazy for the faucet to be turned on (never mind the three large bowls of clean water set out), but won't drink it unless I sit next to her first and duck my head down a little so she can headbutt me  ???

Well, she has to say "thank you," doesn't she? You went to a lot of trouble for her; the least she can do is say "thank you" before she drinks.

She's actually quite well-mannered (if persistent), and don't you feel bad for calling her a Special Snowflake? A true Special Snowflake doesn't ever say "thank you."

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« Reply #21009 on: May 13, 2013, 02:53:21 PM »
My dog is also a SS.  She will not eat unless she sees I'm eating too.  I have to point to her bowl and tell her to eat her croquettes (may times each meal).  She has to have either dried liver bits or bacon bits in there with the croquettes. 

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« Reply #21010 on: May 13, 2013, 03:51:44 PM »
When the car seat has been pushed far back in my car, I have fallen in and hurt myself.

I'm single, so I don't have the moving back and forth problem on a regular basis.  But I hate having to adjust the seat after I've been in for service.  I don't know how many times I've gotten in, put the seatbelt on, then realized I need to adjust the seat.  Then almost choked myself on the seatbelt.


I drive, DH doesn't, so it only happens to me after a service or MOT.

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« Reply #21011 on: May 13, 2013, 05:57:53 PM »
I have to disagree with you!  I'm 5'2, and Mr_Deb is 6'2.  He literally cannot get in the car unless I push the seat back after driving.

Unless he in incapable of doing so himself, that is not an accurate statement. And I say that as a man who has more than once banged his knee pretty badly upon getting into the car without realizing the seat was up where my wife needs it.

Maybe my car is different, but I can push it back from outside the car in a few seconds. I think it might be something he should work out before making a "decree".

He cannot get in the vehicle, but it's electrical so at the push of a couple of buttons, he can move the seat back and down. He's certainly not verbally abusive (which is well past Special Snowflake behavior anyway), but he tells me every time I happen to be in the passenger seat, "You need to move the seat all the way back for me every time you get out of the car."

That just makes absolutely no sense to me unless you have dedicated cars. But we don't. We both drive both cars equally. If I happened to use 'his' car, I'd move it back, because likely he'd be the next one in it. But I'm just as likely to be the next one in it, so it doesn't make sense to me.

I've asked him six ways from Sunday to put the toilet seat down (I think it's better that way because we see clients at our home) and he's decided not to. So maybe we're PA'ing each other.

Make him a bargain - you will move the car seat BACK before getting out of the car every time you see that he's put the lid down on the toilet......ask sweetly.  Explain that you understand that it takes an extra second or three - but it really does look better for "clients".  And that him showing such consideration and love for YOU will help YOU remember to move the seat back.

I feel for you - the car VorGuy drives has to have me get out and move it an inch or two to get to "my" position - because it won't budge with any weight on it.  You have to get into the darned seat to see who it is adjusted for, then get out to adjust it.

My minivan, on the other hand has electric controls for the driver's seat.  I just wish there was a way to program the durned thing to adjust the seat based on which key you're using....I'd set up a "his" and "hers" key immediately!
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« Reply #21012 on: May 13, 2013, 07:29:18 PM »
Make him a bargain - you will move the car seat BACK before getting out of the car every time you see that he's put the lid down on the toilet......ask sweetly.  Explain that you understand that it takes an extra second or three - but it really does look better for "clients". And that him showing such consideration and love for YOU will help YOU remember to move the seat back.


Or, as my 5yo sister said at the time, it keeps stuff from falling in!!!

I don't understand why ANYBODY leaves the lid up.

Well, I have a friend who toilet-trained her cats; her, I can understand. (She has to have a sign on her toilet to keep visitors from shutting the cats out of their "litter box.")

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« Reply #21013 on: May 13, 2013, 07:36:19 PM »
With regard to car seats, my DH is actually an inch taller than I am, but I have longer legs. He also likes to sit rather close to the steering wheel (even though I've told him and he agrees that it's safer to sit as far away as you comfortably can). So I drive with the seat pushed all the way back, and he drives with it close enough to the steering wheel that I can barely get in.

I also do 90% of the driving in this relationship, and am the primary user of the car (I drive to work, DH takes the bus).

So we both determined that it was eminently reasonable for me to ask him to push the seat back after driving it. I can count on one hand the number of times he's actually remembered to do it, but at least he agrees that it would be nice for him to.

The best compromise we have is that the only things that change in the car when I drive versus when he does is the closeness of the seat to the steering wheel and the rear view mirror. We've gotten the side mirrors to a spot that works for both of us, and we both like the seat back pretty straight. So at least when he inevitably forgets to move the seat, I just have to reach down to the bar under the seat and shove it all the way back.

All that said, I do think it's reasonable, when two drivers share a car and need the seat in drastically different locations, for the driver who sits closer to the steering wheel to at least move it back. I wouldn't personally do more than that (i.e. adjust the angle of the seat back or height of the seat itself), but shoving it back at least means both people can get in the car and adjust it from the seat.

But I think the best solution of all is to have a car that has programmable seat settings, that can be engaged at the push of a button. That is definitely a nice feature, and one I'd love to have when we replace our current car.


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« Reply #21014 on: May 13, 2013, 08:14:54 PM »
It has been a snowy day here.  First, two from the workplace bathroom.  We have had a lot of people up on my floor lately (special classes).  Now the bathroom is set up so that there are four sinks in a line with paper towel dispensers only by the two outermost sinks.  These sightings are from separate trips.

SS1:  Had a portfolio type thing that she put blocking the access to the right paper dispenser (which was not out, but who wants to drip on a stranger's bag?) while using the sink at the leftmost sink so that no one could get paper towels until she was done.

SS2:  Standing there vigorously flossing while at the right most sink so that again, one paper towel dispenser is blocked because no one wants to reach in front of someone flossing like that.

The next one was at  the store--blocking the entrance with the car so that you could barely get around to enter and people trying to leave had to just stand and wait (getting in was possible because of being without a cart).  Also letting the child drive the mobility scooter (store property) like it was a toy instead of getting it right over there to more quickly clear the entryway.