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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22695 on: August 05, 2013, 05:21:13 PM »
I remember a revolving door story.  When I was 9, my aunt took me into NYC for a day and at one point we were leaving a building through the revolving doors and a jerk behind us was pushing so fast that I either tripped or actually fell.  I don't remember, honestly, just that it really ticked my aunt off that this guy was so rude as to not care about anyone else in the revolving door so long as he got where he needed to be.
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« Reply #22696 on: August 05, 2013, 05:26:24 PM »
I'm all for kicking her out if she pulls anything else, personally, but the problem is, she's literally not going to have any place else to stay and my parents can't deal with leaving her AND her disabled boyfriend out on the street. (We like the boyfriend. We don't want him homeless. I think if he weren't in the picture, the parents would seriously consider just telling sister to suck it up and ban her from the house.) I'm really hoping she was just having one of her itch-with-a-B moments and isn't actually going to go through with it, but knowing her...

I really wonder if she's doing this deliberately. Every phonecall pushes more and more of Mom's stress buttons, and I don't think ANYONE could be so clueless as to accidentally do that. Some of the things she's said over the years really make me suspect she does it on purpose.
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« Reply #22697 on: August 05, 2013, 05:36:24 PM »
Speaking of snowflakes who want people's stuff...

My sister's being incredibly SS. (I'm almost sure she's literally killing our mother with it, too, but I digress.)

BG: We moved from Colorado three years ago when my dad got a job here, and logistics meant that only the stuff we desperately needed could come with us. Everything we didn't bring is still in boxes in the old house's garage. We really want to bring it out here, but we have neither the time nor the money - the one time we were able to actually go down there, we had to cancel it due to a sudden death. (end BG)

Well, my sister's about to be moving into the old house, as the parents have kindly agreed to let her live there. She'll have no rent (it's paid off) and she'll only have to pay utilities. Well, apparently that makes her entitled to do whatever she wants with OUR STUFF, because yesterday she called again to kvetch about the sheer number of boxes sitting in the garage. She does this regularly, but this time she's gone too far.

She's threatening to rent dumpsters and throw everything away because we haven't had the time or money to come look through it, and she doesn't want OUR stuff to be in OUR house any more. I don't doubt she'll actually do it, and I know she'll send US the bill if she does.

My mother is now so upset she's been throwing up all night, and she can't even bear the thought of talking to my sister any more.

Are we out of line to want her to leave OUR stuff alone? It's not even her house, it's still in the parents' name, they still pay the property taxes, they're taking care of all the nitty-gritty involving sister's friend who was renting the place (we didn't want to let it sit empty, and sister wasn't going to move in at the time.) Yet she seems to think just because we're doing her a favor, she can turn around and do what she wants with a house that is NOT EVEN HERS.

I love my sister, really I do, but I really just want to strangle her. Augh.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22698 on: August 05, 2013, 05:39:21 PM »
Or the parents say, "Oh, it's too bad that all that stuff is taking up space in the garage. Let's see what we can do. That's a 3-bedroom house. The upper right bedroom is not needed--so don't put any furniture in it. We'll keep that room as ours, and not yours. After all, you're not paying any rent, so we can't really let you use the whole house. However, you may move all that stuff from the garage into the bedroom, so that you may have more room in the garage. Then close the bedroom door, and don't think about it again."

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« Reply #22699 on: August 05, 2013, 05:51:37 PM »
Speaking of snowflakes who want people's stuff...

My sister's being incredibly SS. (I'm almost sure she's literally killing our mother with it, too, but I digress.)

BG: We moved from Colorado three years ago when my dad got a job here, and logistics meant that only the stuff we desperately needed could come with us. Everything we didn't bring is still in boxes in the old house's garage. We really want to bring it out here, but we have neither the time nor the money - the one time we were able to actually go down there, we had to cancel it due to a sudden death. (end BG)

Well, my sister's about to be moving into the old house, as the parents have kindly agreed to let her live there. She'll have no rent (it's paid off) and she'll only have to pay utilities. Well, apparently that makes her entitled to do whatever she wants with OUR STUFF, because yesterday she called again to kvetch about the sheer number of boxes sitting in the garage. She does this regularly, but this time she's gone too far.

She's threatening to rent dumpsters and throw everything away because we haven't had the time or money to come look through it, and she doesn't want OUR stuff to be in OUR house any more. I don't doubt she'll actually do it, and I know she'll send US the bill if she does.

My mother is now so upset she's been throwing up all night, and she can't even bear the thought of talking to my sister any more.

Are we out of line to want her to leave OUR stuff alone? It's not even her house, it's still in the parents' name, they still pay the property taxes, they're taking care of all the nitty-gritty involving sister's friend who was renting the place (we didn't want to let it sit empty, and sister wasn't going to move in at the time.) Yet she seems to think just because we're doing her a favor, she can turn around and do what she wants with a house that is NOT EVEN HERS.

I love my sister, really I do, but I really just want to strangle her. Augh.

Llliane, this should have its own thread - that's a lot going on and you'll get some great help.  Try posting it in "Family & Children".
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« Reply #22700 on: August 05, 2013, 06:42:51 PM »
Thanks for the suggestion. I'll think on it for a bit and see if I want to post. :) I was really more venting than anything this time, but if she pulls anything else...

Back on topic, traffic SS. The very old lady who could barely see over the steering wheel, was wearing huge dark sunglasses, and was creeping along at ten miles per hour. And she had the nerve to honk at anyone who passed her! Lady, you shouldn't even be driving, that's unsafe...
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« Reply #22701 on: August 05, 2013, 07:13:18 PM »
A little SS - I walked past a young woman in the supermarket aisle.  It wasn't a particularly narrow aisle and we didn't touch - not even close - no reason for either of us to move out of the other's way.  Yet as she passed me by, she stage whispered "Ex-cuse you!"

I pretended not to hear her.  I don't know what her problem was.  I thought replying would acknowledge that I heard her P/A comment and wanted to debate.  EvilMK wanted to say, "It's a public store; You don't own this aisle.  Other people have a right to walk down it, too."  That's why we don't let EvilMK out.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22702 on: August 05, 2013, 07:39:46 PM »
Last week, I went to a funeral in the very busy area of Dallas-Fort Worth - church was NE of Fort Worth, cemetery was the national one (for veterans) SW of Dallas - so, about 45 minutes travel on the strip between the two cities.

In Fort Worth, the traffic saw the motorcycle cops and pulled off to the side of the road until the funeral procession passed - as I remember from decades gone by.

Once we got to the Dallas area, the motorcycle cops got ignored a bit and at least some of the traffic would be in such a hurry that they would pass the cop blocking the access ramp to the freeway to cut in front of various vehicles, then change lanes again to get to an inner lane and pass the whole procession to get where they were going that much faster.

It made it much more difficult for those of us not sure where we were going (cemetery not marked on the map very well) to make the 45 minute drive to get to the cemetery to line up for fifteen minutes, then drive in to the permanent brick & mortar "pavilion" used for the various taps and flag ceremonies.  We had fifteen minutes there - less time to get clear of the parking for the NEXT funeral procession in line.

I was so glad to have a NEW map of Texas with a fairly clear detail map on the back of the area - once I figured out where we were....DFW is a big place and there are a LOT of drivers on lots of interstates....
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22703 on: August 05, 2013, 07:46:45 PM »
Cakeasaurus Rex has filed a charge back...More info to come later  >:D

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22704 on: August 05, 2013, 08:16:22 PM »
I'm all for kicking her out if she pulls anything else, personally, but the problem is, she's literally not going to have any place else to stay and my parents can't deal with leaving her AND her disabled boyfriend out on the street.

Even knowing that, my only response would be, "You have 24 hours to get the hell out of my house." And I'd call the police to make sure she left. I might let let the boyfriend stay, but he'd have to choose between her and the house, and he'd have to sign a lease and pay a nominal rent to make it official.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22705 on: August 05, 2013, 08:35:10 PM »
Cakeasaurus Rex has filed a charge back...More info to come later  >:D
Is there no end to her sense of entitlement?

OK, I'll be perfectly honest - I do not like lemon cake.  I might eat a bite thinking it was pineapple cake, but I wouldn't pay for lemon cake.  Then again, I wouldn't specifically order it either. >:D

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #22706 on: August 05, 2013, 09:14:03 PM »
Cakeasaurus Rex has filed a charge back...More info to come later  >:D

How do you learn of this?  Does the credit card company call you to inform you?  If they did, did you tell them you have proof of what happened?

Yes, please keep us updated on how this goes!! 

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« Reply #22707 on: August 05, 2013, 09:17:44 PM »
Cakeasaurus Rex has filed a charge back...More info to come later  >:D

How do you learn of this?  Does the credit card company call you to inform you?  If they did, did you tell them you have proof of what happened?

Yes, please keep us updated on how this goes!! 

Our credit card processor contacts us via email.  We have a certain amount of time before the chargeback will automatically go through.  We have to send everything at once as we only get 1 chance to dispute it.  I'm sitting here typing up the timeline and response now.   ::)

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« Reply #22708 on: August 05, 2013, 09:30:34 PM »
Even knowing that, my only response would be, "You have 24 hours to get the hell out of my house." And I'd call the police to make sure she left. I might let let the boyfriend stay, but he'd have to choose between her and the house, and he'd have to sign a lease and pay a nominal rent to make it official.

Well, the thing is, the boyfriend can't stay there without sister. He's right in the middle of a kerfuffle with Social Security - his job was paying him 50 cents an hour too much for him to keep his disability benefits. And now that he's incapable of working any more (he has multiple sclerosis and it's gone downhill BAD) they say he's no longer qualified to get the benefits back AND they want him to pay back everything he GOT from them before, to the tune of several thousand dollars. He's not capable of living on his own any more, much less being able to afford it.

I spoke with my mom earlier and she's feeling much better, she's past "upset" into "full-on rage" and she did talk to sister again today. No more talk of throwing things out, so I think it really was just an itch-with-a-B moment. We'll see what happens. I'll definitely make a whole thread if she pulls any more shenanigans.
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« Reply #22709 on: August 05, 2013, 09:44:07 PM »
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