I nominate a relative of mine. One of her siblings came back from a multi-year overseas job assignment. And its his birthday. so they're having party this weekend for him. i'm going too, and will stay with them. We, as in relative, me, other relative and his DW had plans to go to dinner friday to celebrate.
She emailed us today, asking if we'd be upset if she bailed since her exbf asked her to do something. I was livid. first of all, the whole ex situation irks me, as she's acting like a teenager, secondly, and more importantly, we had plans, plans which you want to bail on since you got a better offer.
However, i think i shamed her a bit. she asked if i got the message, i said yes, but why don't you just come after work since you can't take the day off. she then said, but ex invited me to do this. i said before or after the dinner invite. and how if it were me, i would have told ex, sorry its my siblings b-day, and we've made plans to celebrate, so i can't do activity with you.
she then went, oh, his actual birthday is friday? like maybe if it hadn't been, it would have been ok to ditch us all.
So the dinner went off without a hitch, although after, we went back to their house, and she asked if we could watch baseball, which the rest of us don't really care about. So her brother puts it on, and she further annoyed him by saying " iwas supposed to be at this game tonight" Um no, no you were not. you were ASKED to go, but due to prior plans, could not.
i also found out her brother was QUITE hurt if you listened to his wife, or pissed, if you listened to him. i believe him, esp since none of us responded. and that none of us, not just me, cared for the ex BF
The party was fun; went off without a hitch, so that was good.
Although there was one final bit of SS behavior: One of her fave stores has a trade in promo on jeans. bring in an old pair, get x dollars off a new pair. She had brought some stuff over in MARCH for me and SIL to try on, and now asked for it back ,so she could trade in! SIL doens't have it anymore though, so not sure what's going to happen with that.