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Carotte:

--- Quote from: Hmmmmm on September 05, 2013, 11:55:44 AM ---
--- Quote from: TeamBhakta on September 04, 2013, 05:13:37 PM ---Snowflakes that only want wedding registry gifts will apparently write columns to get the word out.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lori-fradkin/wedding-registry-apology_b_3824199.html?utm_hp_ref=weddings&ir=Weddings

Although the worst one I've seen was 10 years ago, where someone in a bridal magazine said "Oh, I thought I was being so clever and thoughtful when I was single and gifting my friends with a fun board game or a waffle iron + some breakfast related items. I didn't realize how inconsiderate and thoughtless I was, how much trouble the bride had gone through to pick out her list." ::)

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I'm not as annoyed with this article as I usually am about registries. She does acknowlege that they aren't then definitive list and she does stand by her decision to buy off the registry at times.

I thought what she was primarily intending to say was "If I put the Wusthoff knife set on my registry, don't buy the J Henckel's because you think they are a better brand." or if I registered for the Kate Spade decanter, don't buy the Waterford because you like Waterford better."

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That's what I was thinking too. As I see it she is saying that when people go off registry to gift something they think the couple will like based on personal knowledge, it's fine and toughfull. But When people go off the registry to gift something similar to an item in the registry, they are putting their own taste above the couple, and that can be a bit preachy.

Sometimes the situation warrant it, like you know that couple put thingamabob from brand A on their registry, even if they would have liked brand B, but knew brand B to be so expensive they were just happy to have a thingamabob either way, and not burden a guest with the price of brand B.
Then yeah, get them brand B if you want.
But don't assume they'll be happy to have brand D when their entire collection of Stuff is from brand C, just because you like brand D best.

But like anything it gets complicated if you can only afford another brand but would really really like to get them a Whatsit, and never considered they would be bothered by a competitor's Whatsit. They did 'ask' for a Whatsit afterall.

You never win, do you?

PeterM:

--- Quote from: Yarnspinner on September 05, 2013, 10:55:29 AM ---Years ago I used to subscribe to a blog written by a library student. (Once she got a job, she took it down.)  One of the sections allowed librarians to air grievances and one young whippersnapper let loose on "older" librarians, how selfish we were not to retire in our forties and let younger librarians move up the food chain and get promotions.

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In partial defense of this sort of dingbattery, I'll note that "The current crop of librarians is about to retire and your future is assured!" has been heavily used as a recruiting tactic by some, possibly many, MLS programs for awhile now. It's certainly what they told me when I started working towards my MLS ten years ago, and I don't think it was new then. Anyone who wholeheartedly believes the assertions of any organization that is desperate for their money deserves what they get, but this attitude likely isn't something she came to completely on her own.

nutraxfornerves:

--- Quote ---I plan to take a less stressful job (and thus less pay), so a younger person can have my job to support a family.
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That sounds familiar. Take the Wayback Machine to about 50 years ago.

I plan to A woman should take a less stressful job (and thus less pay), so a younger person man can have my her job to support a family.

Amara:
I know there are others here who do remember when all lesser paying jobs were designated for women because the job classifieds in the newspapers--which is where everything was in the pre-Internet age of the 1970s and earlier--were listed by Jobs for Men and Jobs for Women.

MindsEye:

--- Quote from: Amara on September 05, 2013, 02:44:33 PM ---I know there are others here who do remember when all lesser paying jobs were designated for women because the job classifieds in the newspapers--which is where everything was in the pre-Internet age of the 1970s and earlier--were listed by Jobs for Men and Jobs for Women.

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And even today, jobs which have historically been held largely by women (think nurses, school teachers, childcare workers, librarians) are sometimes referred to as "pink-collar jobs".

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