Snowflakes that only want wedding registry gifts will apparently write columns to get the word out.
Although the worst one I've seen was 10 years ago, where someone in a bridal magazine said "Oh, I thought I was being so clever and thoughtful when I was single and gifting my friends with a fun board game or a waffle iron + some breakfast related items. I didn't realize how inconsiderate and thoughtless I was, how much trouble the bride had gone through to pick out her list."
I'm not as annoyed with this article as I usually am about registries. She does acknowlege that they aren't then definitive list and she does stand by her decision to buy off the registry at times.
I thought what she was primarily intending to say was "If I put the Wusthoff knife set on my registry, don't buy the J Henckel's because you think they are a better brand." or if I registered for the Kate Spade decanter, don't buy the Waterford because you like Waterford better."
That's what I was thinking too. As I see it she is saying that when people go off registry to gift something they think the couple will like based on personal knowledge, it's fine and toughfull. But When people go off the registry to gift something similar to an item in the registry, they are putting their own taste above the couple, and that can be a bit preachy.
Sometimes the situation warrant it, like you know that couple put thingamabob from brand A on their registry, even if they would have liked brand B, but knew brand B to be so expensive they were just happy to have a thingamabob either way, and not burden a guest with the price of brand B.
Then yeah, get them brand B if you want.
But don't assume they'll be happy to have brand D when their entire collection of Stuff is from brand C, just because you like brand D best.
But like anything it gets complicated if you can only afford another brand but would really really like to get them a Whatsit, and never considered they would be bothered by a competitor's Whatsit. They did 'ask' for a Whatsit afterall.
You never win, do you?