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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23970 on: October 20, 2013, 07:20:37 PM »
And honestly...who cares? Are peoples lives that uninteresting that they're upset with how they think people think about them? I wish I had that few problems.

High school students everywhere would beg to differ.  It's nice to look back now and know I have the self-confidence that I don't care about the kind of things my peers said and did then, but it's a rare high school student who can truly not be bothered even a little bit.  The girl who wrote the article isn't that much older than high school, and I can completely understand assuming a dirty look is accompanied by judgemental thoughts - especially if you're often in situations where those judgemental thoughts are frequently expressed aloud.

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« Reply #23971 on: October 20, 2013, 07:41:48 PM »
And honestly...who cares? Are peoples lives that uninteresting that they're upset with how they think people think about them? I wish I had that few problems.

High school students everywhere would beg to differ.  It's nice to look back now and know I have the self-confidence that I don't care about the kind of things my peers said and did then, but it's a rare high school student who can truly not be bothered even a little bit.  The girl who wrote the article isn't that much older than high school, and I can completely understand assuming a dirty look is accompanied by judgemental thoughts - especially if you're often in situations where those judgemental thoughts are frequently expressed aloud.

This. It's all part of growing up and becoming less self-centered. Teens are self-centered to a degree because they're figuring out their own identity, so they focus more on their own concerns rather than everyone else's.


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23972 on: October 20, 2013, 07:42:16 PM »
That's the best thing I think about leaving high school: once you're gone you realize how very little it matters.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23973 on: October 20, 2013, 09:45:53 PM »
I was almost mistaken for a snowflake last night!

I went to the theatre to see a play with my family.  All adults except the 8 YO.   Now, we have been taking her to all types of events (theatre, movies, ballets) since she was 2, and have never had an issue.   She sits and watches the performance, doesn't get up, doesn't talk, just enjoys it.

there was some confusion over our seats, one of our seats was taken by someone else.  The lady was very apologetic and started to move, but I told her it was fine.  I said "That's okay, the baby is just going to sit in someone's lap, so we won't need that seat".

The woman in front of me swiveled around faster than the the girl in the Exorcist and said 'BABY??????!!!!!!"

I pointed to the 8 YO and said, yes, this is our baby.   She recovered and said "Oh, isnt she pretty".   Poor lady, I guess she thought we had an actual baby, and from reading this site, that isn't so far-fetched.

And we all enjoyed the show.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23974 on: October 20, 2013, 10:32:49 PM »
And honestly...who cares? Are peoples lives that uninteresting that they're upset with how they think people think about them? I wish I had that few problems.

High school students everywhere would beg to differ.  It's nice to look back now and know I have the self-confidence that I don't care about the kind of things my peers said and did then, but it's a rare high school student who can truly not be bothered even a little bit.  The girl who wrote the article isn't that much older than high school, and I can completely understand assuming a dirty look is accompanied by judgemental thoughts - especially if you're often in situations where those judgemental thoughts are frequently expressed aloud.

This. It's all part of growing up and becoming less self-centered. Teens are self-centered to a degree because they're figuring out their own identity, so they focus more on their own concerns rather than everyone else's.
Sometimes, though, it hangs on well past the teen years.  I wrote a couple of years back about a woman on another board that I called Toxic Woman.  The board has a thread just for 'get it off your chest' complaints.  Toxic Woman came on one day just absolutely furious because a woman of another ethnic group had looked at her on the bus.  Nothing was said to her or about her, but TW JUST KNEW that the other woman hated her because she was blonde and pretty and Ethnic Woman wasn't, so TW gave her a one-finger salute and spewed out a nasty flood of four-letter words to accompany it.   And she was still so angry about "being judged" that she treated us to a play-by-play of the whole thing.  TW was in her early THIRTIES.  ::)

She's no longer posting there, and the place is much nicer.   ;D
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23975 on: October 21, 2013, 02:41:13 AM »
Snipping the quote tree:


For those saying you shouldn't drive a stick on the roads until you're completely ready, that's not possible.  There are things that you can never "practice" for until you're on the road and in the situation.  I practiced and practiced with my dad in the local elementary school's parking lot, but still had problems on the roads until I got the feeling for it. 

Such as? Yes, of course, new drivers might have duh moments, but by and large you (general) should be competent enough at the point where you pass your test to handle your car properly on the road in all kinds of conditions and situations. (However, as I'm discovering on the other thread, all driving tests are not created equal.)

I've been driving stick for 16 years - I still stall occasionally if borrowing an unfamiliar car. That doesn't mean it's unsafe for me to be on the roads, it just means that whoever's behind me may have to wait a couple of seconds extra while I restart the car.

All part and parcel of driving. Even in countries with mandatory official driving lessons in a manual car (which is the case in Denmark).
 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23976 on: October 21, 2013, 02:49:27 AM »
That's been taken to another thread.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23977 on: October 21, 2013, 07:18:04 AM »
And honestly...who cares? Are peoples lives that uninteresting that they're upset with how they think people think about them? I wish I had that few problems.

High school students everywhere would beg to differ.  It's nice to look back now and know I have the self-confidence that I don't care about the kind of things my peers said and did then, but it's a rare high school student who can truly not be bothered even a little bit.  The girl who wrote the article isn't that much older than high school, and I can completely understand assuming a dirty look is accompanied by judgemental thoughts - especially if you're often in situations where those judgemental thoughts are frequently expressed aloud.

This. It's all part of growing up and becoming less self-centered. Teens are self-centered to a degree because they're figuring out their own identity, so they focus more on their own concerns rather than everyone else's.

And being judged doesn't stop in HS. I joined a group function last night for the first time. I live in a upper income neighborhood. When asked where I lived by a gentleman who I was enjoying visiting with I said near a major intersection. He continued to be friendly. When he asked about my kid's school I said "no, we are south of interstate so they went to X HS."  I could see him physically start closing off to me and then excused himself and didn't really engage with me except to make a couple of jokes about "rich" people.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23978 on: October 21, 2013, 09:26:34 AM »
Called the office again. So far, no results. I will call local Animal Control tomorrow if things don't improve.

Any update on the poor pups?

Yes. Apparently, only one actually lives there, the gray and white Pit Bull puppy. He is adorable. They have started walking him! And he is only out on the balcony during their dinner hour. Much more acceptable. I know they were fined for not paying the pet deposit and for dog sitting, which is not allowed at our complex. I hope they are getting their stuff together.

They have also stopped with the parties for the most part.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23979 on: October 21, 2013, 01:02:44 PM »
I remember being called a "spoiled brat" by some so-called friends when I was in Grade 4.  Their reasoning was that I was an only child, and therefore I must be spoiled rotten and get everything I asked for.  I laughed until I cried when I heard that - my parents were not well-off at all, and the idea of getting everything my little heart desired was ridiculous. 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23980 on: October 21, 2013, 02:24:08 PM »
Best special snowflake driver this morning!!!

I had to drive Partner into work as her car needed some work done on it, so I'm on the overpass to go from one freeway to the next and at this pass we have several freeways funneling onto one so things can get congested from everyone trying to get on. So we're all just inching along and this mini-van comes out from several cars behind us gets on the shoulder (we were in the right lane because we'd be getting off as soon as we got on), and blazes past everyone, apparently he was far too important to wait in traffic (of course he was going to have to merge in again as soon as he got past all of us).

What he didn't see was the police officer right behind me and Partner. Who flipped on his lights and went after Mr. I'm so special I don't wait. I had a small sense of joy at seeing him pulled over on the side of the road while the rest of us passed him. If you thought traffic was going to make you late...the cop is gonna make you super late!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23981 on: October 21, 2013, 02:44:46 PM »
I was leaving the closest WalMart to head home, as I was coming up the access road, I was going to be crossing a railroad track.

Fine, plenty of time...except that the large vehicle ahead of me slowed to the speed of someone walking as they rolled across the tracks - with me behind them, the train coming close enough that the lights just started flashing, the train whistles at us, and the gates come down when I finally get off (no space to go around the SUV, as the two lanes merged to one about two car lengths ahead of his front wheels).  The pick up (UTE) behind me must have been very relieved to have me moving as fast as possible once the SUV picked up a little speed.  The gates must have come down right behind his tail pipe, I swear!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23982 on: October 21, 2013, 04:50:39 PM »
I remember being called a "spoiled brat" by some so-called friends when I was in Grade 4.  Their reasoning was that I was an only child, and therefore I must be spoiled rotten and get everything I asked for.  I laughed until I cried when I heard that - my parents were not well-off at all, and the idea of getting everything my little heart desired was ridiculous.

That happened to me too, all the time! In fact there was one family of four kids that "decided" since each of them got 25 cents allowance each week, that I MUST get a dollar because 4 x .25 = 1.00. I said, no, I get 30 cents. And I have more chores than you.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23983 on: October 21, 2013, 05:47:14 PM »
I was leaving the closest WalMart to head home, as I was coming up the access road, I was going to be crossing a railroad track.

Fine, plenty of time...except that the large vehicle ahead of me slowed to the speed of someone walking as they rolled across the tracks - with me behind them, the train coming close enough that the lights just started flashing, the train whistles at us, and the gates come down when I finally get off (no space to go around the SUV, as the two lanes merged to one about two car lengths ahead of his front wheels).  The pick up (UTE) behind me must have been very relieved to have me moving as fast as possible once the SUV picked up a little speed.  The gates must have come down right behind his tail pipe, I swear!
That's why I never cross a railroad track unless there is at least a car-length of open road available AFTER it.   There was a case here some years ago where several people were killed because they couldn't get off in time.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #23984 on: October 21, 2013, 06:32:43 PM »
SS's galore on Saturday night

[b/g]We were visited by a neighbour that had free tickets to a Monster Truck Jam and my DNephew was dying to go.  As I was babysitting I bit the bullet and said "thank you" for the tickets and we went out to Sydney Olympic Park.  Unfortunately there were two big concerts going on - the truck thing and Ricky Martin - lots (and lots) of people trying to drive into the Park.  [/b/g]

SS1 (of which there were many... MANY!): Driving into the Park there are two lanes of traffic plus a bus lane (buses only - you can see where this is going).  With the number of people driving in, traffic was slower than crawling in many instances.  Cue the SS-I-can't-wait-don't-you-know-my-show's-about-to-start?'s who cruise down the bus lane while everybody else is doing the correct (legal) think of waiting in the cue and then forcing themselves back into the correct lane once they start flowing.  This of course slows down everyone who has been doing the right thing by having to brake when they merge.

SS2 (again quite a few): After the show, standing in the queue to get on the shuttle bus to take us to the carpark, our show (which DN LOVED) got out about half an hour before Ricky Martin (lets take a moment to congratulate the genius who not only thought of putting two shows on together the same night but having them start and finish within half an hour of each other).  So picture a queue of about 5,000 people patiently waiting for a bus - mainly families with small to medium sized children (DN is a medium sized at 11).  It's 10.30 at night and everyone is wanting to get home, kids are starting to lose it, others are playing happily, everyone is queueing.  Now cue the SS-the-line's-too-long-so-I'm-going-to-push-in-nobody-will-say-anything's.  The two sets of spoiled 20-something ladies that placed themselves on either side of me (behind and in front of me) were told (politely) that there was a queue.  "oh - didn't see it".  It's got approximately 5,000 people in it!  How can you not see it?!?  And of course, they still stand there, texting away, ignoring the fact that they have pushed in front of families with small children in order to get on the bus.  Grrrrrrrr!  The snide and snarky comments we got from them when we asked them to go to the back of the queue were rude and frustrating - if only Security had been monitoring the queue - I would have been very happy to flag them over.

We ended up walking back to the parking lot (only about a 2 km walk) with a family that was (originally) behind us because traffic was so bad the buses couldn't get through anyway.

Sorry - bit of a rant - selfish people like SS1's and SS2's really get my goat! >:(