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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24135 on: October 30, 2013, 08:09:44 PM »
...   (I recently got silver aids with purple ear molds.  People STILL fail to see them!)

No doubt people think they're some new fancy schmanzy kind of ear phones for your iPod or something!  They think you're listening to music instead of paying attention to them!   :D

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« Reply #24136 on: October 30, 2013, 08:34:08 PM »
For those talking about getting the attention of deaf people - waving your hand or stepping into the line of vision is a good way to politely 'interrupt' a conversation or to get attention.  Stomping on the floor is useful too... unless you're on concrete.   When I worked in a deli (more "behind the scenes" than front work) my supervisor got a few complaints from other people about how I was ignoring them.  That stopped as soon as she pointed out that I'm deaf and they need to change how they get my attention.  One guy took to sliding the little metal mixing bowls down the length of the stainless steel workbench.  Before I left that job, we were talking about getting a sort of pager system set up for the occasions when customers needed my attention on the other side of the wall (out of line of vision).   

The real problem is just that it's just not a visible issue, compared to say, a broken leg.  (I recently got silver aids with purple ear molds.  People STILL fail to see them!)

There's a cheesemonger at Murray's Cheese in NYC who's hearing impaired. He wears a giant button on his back that says that he's hearing impaired, and that unless you're in his line of sight, he's not going to be able to understand your request.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24137 on: October 30, 2013, 09:10:14 PM »
I remember there was a hearing impaired checkout operator where I used to live. I loved going in her line, she was so lovely. She had a large sign saying she was hearing impaired, she would point to the total in the screen.

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« Reply #24138 on: October 30, 2013, 10:07:08 PM »
Well, when house hunting, we did happen to come across one house with a shower and toilet in a den, and the real estate agent explained that the seller's wife had been very depressed and didn't want to leave that room so they put in some plumbing so she could at least maintain some personal hygiene.

Like....just out in the open? Would it have been easy to build walls around it to make a real bathroom?

Well I guess, but they were pretty much in the open.  It's been years since then but I think there were at least doors separating this room from the rest of the house, but other than a shower curtain, there really wasn't much to divide the utilities from the rest of the room.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24139 on: October 30, 2013, 11:21:52 PM »
I've seen the other side of that- where I used to work we had a lovely deaf lady on staff. Customers who come up and compain about her sometimes- "I tried to get that lady to help me and she ignored me!"

"Did she look like (described co-worker)."

"Yes!"

"Oh, she's deaf, if she can't see you, she won't notice you trying to flag her down."

The looks people would get when they realized were priceless.

This just reminded me of something I didn't even realize I do until Partner pointed it out to me! I have two friends who are deaf (one only in one ear but her hearing in the other isn't so great), because of being around them whenever I'm trying to get someone's attention, I try to walk into their line of vision rather then just coming up behind them or hollaring at them.

Honestly, I think that's more polite anyway.

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« Reply #24140 on: October 30, 2013, 11:34:18 PM »
Even people who have perfect hearing can be absorbed in what they are doing, and be startled by someone calling their name from right behind them.

I have this problem pretty regularly at work, since I work in a very open-concept office. My cube walls are only about chest-height, so people regularly approach me from behind. I also actively work to tune people out when I'm trying to focus, because there's a lot of background noise most of the time (and I'd never get anything done otherwise). So combine those two things, and I can get very startled when someone calls my name before walking into my field of vision.

In my case, I have no trouble hearing, but the sounds aren't registering as information I need to pay attention to (especially since the sound of footsteps behind me more often than not means someone is walking past my desk, rather than needing to talk to me).


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24141 on: October 31, 2013, 12:25:34 AM »
A very stupid snowflake took a flying run from the local hs into bumper to bumper traffic on the main road. He's very lucky nobody's car killed him :o It's especially messed up because recently *death warning* a student a few miles away had been hit by two different cars, in an area where students often unsafely ran into the streets

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« Reply #24142 on: October 31, 2013, 12:52:47 AM »
I hope the mods will allow a very brief off-topic detour. On the matter of IKEA, I would like to know why you can't turn around and go back the way you came. It sounds like you can't but I cannot figure out why. What's stopping you? (I've never been in one.)

You can, and I do so frequently.  I've either lost something that isn't where it used to be, or I haven't come to it, or something back earlier would go really well (maybe) with an item I JUST saw, and I need to check.  I frequently make short cuts (they're all flagged with signs), and go against the flow.  I pick my day and time of day to go there, though, and I don't rudely crash into people when I'm going against the arrows on the floor and the general mass of people.  IKEA is a great store for certain things, and it's very much a maze.  And fun.  I like the stores a lot, but I avoid them like the plague on the weekends.  I go to the one in Palo Alto, California, and it's a zoo quite frequently.  But then, so is Walmart, and so is Costco, and so is my local supermarket.  Timing and patience are key ingredients!   ;)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24143 on: October 31, 2013, 01:50:58 AM »
For those talking about getting the attention of deaf people - waving your hand or stepping into the line of vision is a good way to politely 'interrupt' a conversation or to get attention.  Stomping on the floor is useful too... unless you're on concrete.   When I worked in a deli (more "behind the scenes" than front work) my supervisor got a few complaints from other people about how I was ignoring them.  That stopped as soon as she pointed out that I'm deaf and they need to change how they get my attention.  One guy took to sliding the little metal mixing bowls down the length of the stainless steel workbench.  Before I left that job, we were talking about getting a sort of pager system set up for the occasions when customers needed my attention on the other side of the wall (out of line of vision).   

The real problem is just that it's just not a visible issue, compared to say, a broken leg. (I recently got silver aids with purple ear molds.  People STILL fail to see them!)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24144 on: October 31, 2013, 05:54:28 AM »
I've seen the other side of that- where I used to work we had a lovely deaf lady on staff. Customers who come up and compain about her sometimes- "I tried to get that lady to help me and she ignored me!"

"Did she look like (described co-worker)."

"Yes!"

"Oh, she's deaf, if she can't see you, she won't notice you trying to flag her down."

The looks people would get when they realized were priceless.

This just reminded me of something I didn't even realize I do until Partner pointed it out to me! I have two friends who are deaf (one only in one ear but her hearing in the other isn't so great), because of being around them whenever I'm trying to get someone's attention, I try to walk into their line of vision rather then just coming up behind them or hollaring at them.

Honestly, I think that's more polite anyway.

Speaking as someone with decent hearing who often gets absorbed in what she's doing (or is listening to podcasts, heh) I certainly prefer it to being startled out of my wits!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24145 on: October 31, 2013, 06:21:26 AM »
Well, when house hunting, we did happen to come across one house with a shower and toilet in a den, and the real estate agent explained that the seller's wife had been very depressed and didn't want to leave that room so they put in some plumbing so she could at least maintain some personal hygiene.

Like....just out in the open? Would it have been easy to build walls around it to make a real bathroom?

Well I guess, but they were pretty much in the open.  It's been years since then but I think there were at least doors separating this room from the rest of the house, but other than a shower curtain, there really wasn't much to divide the utilities from the rest of the room.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24146 on: October 31, 2013, 09:04:45 AM »
This guy comes up behind me, grabs my elbow- nearly made me drop my phone - and when I whipped around, he says, "Since you refuse to say hello, the least you can do is come over and look at my lotions! You could really use some!"  I came very, very close to hitting him, and I could certainly make an argument for legally being able to do so. 

I'd have hit him and then called the cops on him.  I have no tolerance for people intentionally touching me without my consent.  Grabbing someone from behind is a great way to get hurt (or killed, depending on the circumstances).

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« Reply #24147 on: October 31, 2013, 09:25:52 AM »
A very stupid snowflake took a flying run from the local hs into bumper to bumper traffic on the main road. He's very lucky nobody's car killed him :o It's especially messed up because recently *death warning* a student a few miles away had been hit by two different cars, in an area where students often unsafely ran into the streets

I just ran into a news article the other day about a kid who ran into the street and got hit by a car (hit and run) on his 7th birthday (he survived and was fine, barely injured).  The news article was focused on the horrible driver, the "bad man," etc.  I saw the security footage they're posting.  The kid came *running* full out into the road from behind a parked car!  I have no idea if the driver was going over the speed limit, and obviously he should have stopped (although, given that the boy's injuries mostly amounted to his foot being run over, it's *possible* that the driver didn't even see the boy/realize he was hit), but really, I think the boy and his family are kind of special snowflakes for putting all the blame on the driver, when, unless the driver was really speeding, the boy seems mostly at fault.  And, seriously?  I have a 6-year-old.  What was the boy *thinking* to run out into traffic like that?  Hadn't his parents taught him about that?  I can't imagine my 6-year-old *ever* just deciding it was a really fun thing to bolt out into traffic.  Nor the 5-year-old, either!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24148 on: October 31, 2013, 09:33:29 AM »
@ Mommy Penguin

In the city where I attended university, if you (general you) run out into traffic or are otherwise improperly crossing the road (against the light, not at a crosswalk, etc) and get hit by a car... you would be the one to get a ticket, even if you were injured.  The driver of the car, as long as they weren't doing anything illegal like speeding, would have no consequences. 

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« Reply #24149 on: October 31, 2013, 09:54:14 AM »
A very stupid snowflake took a flying run from the local hs into bumper to bumper traffic on the main road. He's very lucky nobody's car killed him :o It's especially messed up because recently *death warning* a student a few miles away had been hit by two different cars, in an area where students often unsafely ran into the streets


I just ran into a news article the other day about a kid who ran into the street and got hit by a car (hit and run) on his 7th birthday (he survived and was fine, barely injured).  The news article was focused on the horrible driver, the "bad man," etc.  I saw the security footage they're posting.  The kid came *running* full out into the road from behind a parked car!  I have no idea if the driver was going over the speed limit, and obviously he should have stopped (although, given that the boy's injuries mostly amounted to his foot being run over, it's *possible* that the driver didn't even see the boy/realize he was hit), but really, I think the boy and his family are kind of special snowflakes for putting all the blame on the driver, when, unless the driver was really speeding, the boy seems mostly at fault.  And, seriously?  I have a 6-year-old.  What was the boy *thinking* to run out into traffic like that?  Hadn't his parents taught him about that?  I can't imagine my 6-year-old *ever* just deciding it was a really fun thing to bolt out into traffic.  Nor the 5-year-old, either!

Mother  Penguin - perhaps the kid's parents are like the lady who just moved into my mother's cul de sac.  Mom was driving down her street (barely a block so probably 20 mph) and one of the new kids comes zipping out.  Mom commented to the new lady and the lady told my mom that "well, my kids have the right away"  When my mother mentioned that this is the road, the lady still said that her kids have the right away and cars shoudl watch for THEM.    For some reason, she is teaching these children that they have the "pedestrian right away" in all situtations.  Yeah, my mother was not impressed.