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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24555 on: November 27, 2013, 03:37:36 PM »
I'm not sure if this guy was being an SS or just very inconsiderate - I can't decide, lol.

Shortly after Mr. Bottlecaps came back up here from Alabama, our two-year anniversary occurred. We decided to eat at the restaurant where I work, as it's the best food in town (and I'm not just saying that because I work there, lol) and it's close to where we live, which meant a considerably shorter walk than any other place here in town. There was a server there at the time, we'll call him Jake. He wasn't the best at service, and he had a tendency to take an attitude with his coworkers (myself included). We walked in and they were pretty busy, as the local college had just had a football game, but nothing too crazy. Unfortunately, we ended up with Jake as our server. Jake hadn't been properly trained on how to make drinks (servers make our own drinks there, we don't have a bartender) - or rather, he had been trained, he just refused to do it because it can be time-consuming if you don't know off the top of your head how to make something and you have to look it up. Practice makes perfect, but he refused to practice. So here's the conversation that took place shortly after we sat down and got our Diet Cokes.

Jake: Hey Bottlecaps, can you make a drink for me if Becky doesn't get a chance here soon?
Me: No.
Jake: It'll only take a second.
Me: I'm not on the clock. (That didn't really matter, as it's pretty laid-back there. I just didn't want to get up from my anniversary dinner to go do something that qualifies as work when I was there as a paying customer. We were there to enjoy our anniversary, not for me to work. I was trying not to be too short with him, though, so I used that as an excuse, although if you want to get technical about labor laws and such, it was a perfectly valid explanation.)
Jake (in a very nasty tone): So?
Me: I'm not going into the bar off the clock.
Jake: I don't give a (expletive that rhymes with hit) if you're on the clock or not.

At this point, Mr. Bottlecaps gets pretty upset about the attitude he took, so he chimes in, rather angrily at that.

Mr. Bottlecaps: Look dude, we're here for our anniversary. She's not here to work.

Jake huffs and mumbles, "I was just asking," as he walks away.

We seriously considered telling my boss what had happened and leaving, but we decided to stay. We enjoyed the rest of our evening, and although I did tip Jake average (as other than that incident he did an OK job, as far as service goes), he definitely didn't get what he would have had he not gotten so nasty about the drink situation.

He left shortly after that for another job, thank goodness!
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« Reply #24556 on: November 27, 2013, 05:03:23 PM »
Unfortunately I have to nominate my mom.  She was out here for a week to help out while I had DS.  I was in the hospital for two of those days (planned c-section) and on strong painkillers and dr's orders not to lift anything heavier than the baby.  Mom spent most of the time cleaning things that didn't need cleaning (the fridge, DD's medicine cabinet) and avoiding the things that might have actually helped (dishes, cooking), plus went to the big box grocery/everything store every day to have something to do since DD was in preschool most of the day.

The day after I got home, she brings home a turkey with the idea that we could have an early Thanksgiving while she's here.  Then she keeps bugging me the rest of the day about what other foods do we need for the dinner, instead of just looking in the pantry. I've had the same menu for Thanksgiving my whole life, exactly the same as hers, so it's not like there are any exotic ingredients she might not know about.  Then, she drops the bomb: not only does she not cook turkey or make mashed potatoes (that's my dad's job), the two most labor intensive parts of the meal, but she doesn't plan to actually get the remaining groceries herself, she was making the shopping list for me.  Except I can't drive (see above: strong painkillers) which she knew, so DH would have to.  Which makes no sense given that she voluntarily went to the grocery store every other day!

So, she gets a turkey that we didn't  ask for, expects us to fetch the rest and prepare basically the whole meal. I have no idea what she was thinking, but needless to say, that didn't happen.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24557 on: November 27, 2013, 05:08:52 PM »
Getting back to the kid that was hurt, this confused me...

"He will be spending months regaining his muscles. He is a sporty kid and will have to be out of contact sport for a few months."

Uh, he got stitches?  What does that have to do with regaining his muscles?  I did a face plant into our fireplace and got stitches above my eye and in the middle of the forehead.  I was back in action pretty much as soon as we got home from the ER. 

Am I missing something?  Did he injure something else?

My guess is that he probably also suffered a concussion and has been ordered to stay way from a lot of sports for a while. Therefore, he will lose muscle condition that he will have to work to regain.

A concussion will keep you out of contact sports for a week maybe two.  If he has that serious of a brain contusion that he can't do contact sports for months and months, then yeah that's different.  However, had he not been up there in the first place, it wouldn't have happened

Not to mention there are lots of exercises he can do (swimming, aerobics, stationary biking) that are not contact sports.

It sounds like it was a nasty accident, and I feel sorry for the boy. But I think that when the mother ("He may have headaches for the rest of his life! We won't know until then, will we?") heard him go "thunk" she also heard "ka-ching!"
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« Reply #24558 on: November 27, 2013, 05:35:17 PM »
Getting back to the kid that was hurt, this confused me...

"He will be spending months regaining his muscles. He is a sporty kid and will have to be out of contact sport for a few months."

Uh, he got stitches?  What does that have to do with regaining his muscles?  I did a face plant into our fireplace and got stitches above my eye and in the middle of the forehead.  I was back in action pretty much as soon as we got home from the ER. 

Am I missing something?  Did he injure something else?

My guess is that he probably also suffered a concussion and has been ordered to stay way from a lot of sports for a while. Therefore, he will lose muscle condition that he will have to work to regain.

A concussion will keep you out of contact sports for a week maybe two.  If he has that serious of a brain contusion that he can't do contact sports for months and months, then yeah that's different.  However, had he not been up there in the first place, it wouldn't have happened

Not to mention there are lots of exercises he can do (swimming, aerobics, stationary biking) that are not contact sports.

It sounds like it was a nasty accident, and I feel sorry for the boy. But I think that when the mother ("He may have headaches for the rest of his life! We won't know until then, will we?") heard him go "thunk" she also heard "ka-ching!"

There's half a chance that this is mostly attention grabbing and scamming technique from the mother (and even if it isn't it's still her/her kids fault or bad luck, whatever applies) but I hate parents like that who act like it's the end of the world if their kid is not 'whole'.
Kid might have migraines, so does plenty of other people for no apparent reason what so ever, it doesn't mean he can't live a normal life.
I remember a tv program and a mother who was still angry about the car accident her son had been (drunk driver, not the son) from which he came out alive but with only one arm. From hearing the mother, with one arm, her son was nothing. he won't be able to do nothing of his life, it's now ruined, ruined I tell you!!!!!
Yeah, I don't wish this on anyone, but way to be supportive of your son! you're telling him he's now useless, how is that going to make him feel or help him cope with his condition?
I'd be finding resources, people who can show him life can be normal, that you can do great things in any conditions and that having all your limbs does not make you more perfect.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24559 on: November 27, 2013, 07:45:22 PM »
Getting back to the kid that was hurt, this confused me...

"He will be spending months regaining his muscles. He is a sporty kid and will have to be out of contact sport for a few months."

Uh, he got stitches?  What does that have to do with regaining his muscles?  I did a face plant into our fireplace and got stitches above my eye and in the middle of the forehead.  I was back in action pretty much as soon as we got home from the ER. 

Am I missing something?  Did he injure something else?

My guess is that he probably also suffered a concussion and has been ordered to stay way from a lot of sports for a while. Therefore, he will lose muscle condition that he will have to work to regain.

A concussion will keep you out of contact sports for a week maybe two.  If he has that serious of a brain contusion that he can't do contact sports for months and months, then yeah that's different.  However, had he not been up there in the first place, it wouldn't have happened

I don't have a dog in the should be-shouldn't be on the wall, but had to address this. We are learning more and more about concussions every day, and the current knowledge is clear that the old suggestion of a week or two of rest from contact sports is insufficient. For even mild concussions the recommendations now lean toward comprehensive brain rest (no contact, no significant exercise, even no intensive studying/academic work) for a week or two, then modified activity for a period of time. How long depends on a lot of individual factors, including history of concussion, severity of impact, age, gender, etc. I have seen many individuals with "mild" concussion (though now the language is changing to call it what it is - a traumatic brain injury) who are still on restrictions months after the incident.

This is your friendly PSA on concussion. Please see a real life medical professional for actual advice :)

And anyone who is wondering how anyone keeps an active, school age child on that kind of restriction, all can say is there are a great many parents deserving of great sympathy. And maybe a drink.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24560 on: November 27, 2013, 07:52:48 PM »
Getting back to the kid that was hurt, this confused me...

"He will be spending months regaining his muscles. He is a sporty kid and will have to be out of contact sport for a few months."

Uh, he got stitches?  What does that have to do with regaining his muscles?  I did a face plant into our fireplace and got stitches above my eye and in the middle of the forehead.  I was back in action pretty much as soon as we got home from the ER. 

Am I missing something?  Did he injure something else?

My guess is that he probably also suffered a concussion and has been ordered to stay way from a lot of sports for a while. Therefore, he will lose muscle condition that he will have to work to regain.

A concussion will keep you out of contact sports for a week maybe two.  If he has that serious of a brain contusion that he can't do contact sports for months and months, then yeah that's different.  However, had he not been up there in the first place, it wouldn't have happened

Not to mention there are lots of exercises he can do (swimming, aerobics, stationary biking) that are not contact sports.

It sounds like it was a nasty accident, and I feel sorry for the boy. But I think that when the mother ("He may have headaches for the rest of his life! We won't know until then, will we?") heard him go "thunk" she also heard "ka-ching!"

Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

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« Reply #24561 on: November 27, 2013, 09:40:37 PM »
Thanks curious party :)  I have personally left the contact sports part of my life, however, I have plenty of relatives who still take part through schools.

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« Reply #24562 on: November 28, 2013, 02:45:55 AM »
Wasn't there a thread about this woman?  Or her twin?  LOL

http://notalwaysworking.com/someones-having-a-beef-part-2/32585

When I read that one my jaw dropped.
Huh? What? Really? What the ...
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24563 on: November 28, 2013, 09:19:17 AM »
Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

Yes, but you're a normal parent, not a scammer.

I'm sure this woman was upset and frightened at the time her child was hurt (at least I hope she was!), but she seems to have quickly moved into "what can I get for this?" territory. I didn't mean to imply it was instantaneous.
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« Reply #24564 on: November 28, 2013, 09:35:10 AM »
Wasn't there a thread about this woman?  Or her twin?  LOL

http://notalwaysworking.com/someones-having-a-beef-part-2/32585

When I read that one my jaw dropped.
Huh? What? Really? What the ...
I've got nothing.

The only thing I can say I hope she would have been fired for throwing out everyone's lunches not that "everyone lunch deserves a reprimand and my purse deserves firing" I hate that lunches are considers so much less when it comes to stealing (in this case throwing away) then anything else.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24565 on: November 28, 2013, 02:02:50 PM »
Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

Yes, but you're a normal parent, not a scammer.

I'm sure this woman was upset and frightened at the time her child was hurt (at least I hope she was!), but she seems to have quickly moved into "what can I get for this?" territory. I didn't mean to imply it was instantaneous.

Unfortunately, this is possible. And there are some truly horrendous people out there. I was once in line at a bank, and the two women in front of me were chatting. It came up that one of them had a child with some genetic disorder, and (among many more pertinent things) she got a small sum of money every month or so from the government to help manage it. From what she said, it sounded like a rather unpleasant thing for any child to have. The other woman simply said, "I wish my son had [awful disorder]. You're so lucky--you get free money! Is it contagious? He should come over to play!"

There are people out there who view children's illnesses and injury as potential money, with no thought whatsoever for the children involved. It's absolutely sickening. I don't know about the woman in this story, but it's important to remember that just because something is unthinkable to a normal, caring person, it doesn't mean that it isn't a standard train of thought for others.

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« Reply #24566 on: November 28, 2013, 02:47:38 PM »
I encountered Ms. Special I'm-taking-over-the-management-of-this-store Snowflake.

I was shopping at a Ross store last Saturday where there are separate checkouts each with their own line.  Ms. Snowflake loudly declared that there was only one line and that everyone needed to stand in the one line before walking up to an individual checkout.

She was so obnoxious to others (people who had the audacity to skirt the one line) that people stood in her one line until she went to her register whereupon the whole line broke up and people went to stand in individual lines.

The whole thing was pretty comical.

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« Reply #24567 on: November 28, 2013, 07:17:47 PM »
Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

Yes, but you're a normal parent, not a scammer.

I'm sure this woman was upset and frightened at the time her child was hurt (at least I hope she was!), but she seems to have quickly moved into "what can I get for this?" territory. I didn't mean to imply it was instantaneous.

Unfortunately, this is possible. And there are some truly horrendous people out there. I was once in line at a bank, and the two women in front of me were chatting. It came up that one of them had a child with some genetic disorder, and (among many more pertinent things) she got a small sum of money every month or so from the government to help manage it. From what she said, it sounded like a rather unpleasant thing for any child to have. The other woman simply said, "I wish my son had [awful disorder]. You're so lucky--you get free money! Is it contagious? He should come over to play!"

There are people out there who view children's illnesses and injury as potential money, with no thought whatsoever for the children involved. It's absolutely sickening. I don't know about the woman in this story, but it's important to remember that just because something is unthinkable to a normal, caring person, it doesn't mean that it isn't a standard train of thought for others.

While it may be possible, I think ascribing that motivation to a stranger based on nothing more than an online news article reporting on a single event in the woman's life is, at a minimum, impolite.

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« Reply #24568 on: November 28, 2013, 10:13:43 PM »
Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

Yes, but you're a normal parent, not a scammer.

I'm sure this woman was upset and frightened at the time her child was hurt (at least I hope she was!), but she seems to have quickly moved into "what can I get for this?" territory. I didn't mean to imply it was instantaneous.

Unfortunately, this is possible. And there are some truly horrendous people out there. I was once in line at a bank, and the two women in front of me were chatting. It came up that one of them had a child with some genetic disorder, and (among many more pertinent things) she got a small sum of money every month or so from the government to help manage it. From what she said, it sounded like a rather unpleasant thing for any child to have. The other woman simply said, "I wish my son had [awful disorder]. You're so lucky--you get free money! Is it contagious? He should come over to play!"

There are people out there who view children's illnesses and injury as potential money, with no thought whatsoever for the children involved. It's absolutely sickening. I don't know about the woman in this story, but it's important to remember that just because something is unthinkable to a normal, caring person, it doesn't mean that it isn't a standard train of thought for others.

I had someone tell me I should try to get disability for my ADD so I wouldn't have to work and could get money from the government.  I told her "But I COULD work, I just choose not to."
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« Reply #24569 on: November 29, 2013, 12:04:18 AM »
Whoa, I know this story is raising ire, but I think that's taking it a step too far, Twik. Never once when I have heard the sound of any of my kids heads hitting anything have I ever thought anything other than "Oh my God please let him/her be okay." Whatever her motivation might or might now be now, I think your statement just...goes too far.

Yes, but you're a normal parent, not a scammer.

I'm sure this woman was upset and frightened at the time her child was hurt (at least I hope she was!), but she seems to have quickly moved into "what can I get for this?" territory. I didn't mean to imply it was instantaneous.

Unfortunately, this is possible. And there are some truly horrendous people out there. I was once in line at a bank, and the two women in front of me were chatting. It came up that one of them had a child with some genetic disorder, and (among many more pertinent things) she got a small sum of money every month or so from the government to help manage it. From what she said, it sounded like a rather unpleasant thing for any child to have. The other woman simply said, "I wish my son had [awful disorder]. You're so lucky--you get free money! Is it contagious? He should come over to play!"

There are people out there who view children's illnesses and injury as potential money, with no thought whatsoever for the children involved. It's absolutely sickening. I don't know about the woman in this story, but it's important to remember that just because something is unthinkable to a normal, caring person, it doesn't mean that it isn't a standard train of thought for others.

I had someone tell me I should try to get disability for my ADD so I wouldn't have to work and could get money from the government.  I told her "But I COULD work, I just choose not to."

We've been told that DD1 is probably entitled to disability because of her severe depression and agrophobia and refuse to look into it because we're worried that if she gets income when she's not leaving the house, she never will
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