But does wanting to have blue napkins make someone a bridezilla? It might make them victims of consumerism or really detail-oriented but if that's bridezilla then anyone who cares about any detail of their wedding would be one.
I didn't think she was suggesting that having a colour preference - or in fact any preferences about your wedding day - made a person a bridezilla, it was just another example of how the costing works and that being less flexible / more customised means more money. It's not bridezilla to want a specific napkin type. It would be bridezilla to have a 100% definite view on how each and every specific detail of the wedding should be AND be willing to bankrupt yourself/fiancť/parents or throw a gigantic tantrum to create the exact vision you had pictured. I think her point was that for *most* other events there would be more compromise, but the whole "it's myyyy daaaay" mentality means that they can charge more, because they convince people that because it's your wedding you should spend double to get the perfect shade of blue instead of just everyday blue. Even though most of us don't feel that way at all - we have ideas about how our wedding should be, but we end up compromising on *some* details. I say this as somebody who had many very specific views on my wedding, and sadly had to compromise on some details - although it was still an amazing church wedding, formal sit down dinner for 180 guests, and a very Cinderella gown that I flew internationally to purchase! It was big budget and great. So I'm certainly not one of those people who enjoys mocking big weddings. I had one, loved it, and don't regret a cent we spent
But I wasn't a bridezilla, I accepted that there were some tiny things that I had to compromise on to keep the budget under control. (And free up more money for the things that were *really* important to me - and which cost more than they should because wedding costs are inflated.
I shopped around but it is true that some things cost more just because they're for a wedding!)
I can see how that connection could be made from what she wrote (between napkin choice and bridezillas), I just interpreted it very differently. I honestly had to come back and double check the link after I read the article as I thought I must have read the wrong article!