Hi, still kind of new and on page 1010 but would like to share a SS story about my mom with you.
This is Special Makusyourhouseahotelus.....
My mom is Japanese, important to the story, and I was reared in Hawaii, my Dad was in the Navy. Growing up, we always had visitors from Japan staying with us. Either relatives or people my mom meet in Wakiki at her job and brought home that then came to visit every year. She is very social and likes to help and be the generous "lady of the manor".
So, she meet this crafty woman (CW) from Japan that came to Hawaii and bought crafts and stuff to sell in her store in Japan. My mom let her stay with her to save on her hotel room. CW would come every few months on her shopping trips and on one she asked my mom if a friend of hers could come and stay also. My mom said sure the more the merrier. My mom worked full time as a barber and it was understood that they were on their own for entertainment and transportation but could eat anything in the house. My mom would sometimes take them places but it depended on her schedule. So, CW started to bring a couple of people each time to stay and this went on for a few trips. Till the hammer fell, one couple that came asked my mom if their breakfast was included in the price of their stay. My mom was like . She found out that CW was charging people to stay at my mom's house and pocketing the money. My mom kicked her out (she did let the nice couple stay and made sure that they told all their friends in Japan about CW).
What makes CW extra snowflakey is she asked my mom what she was going to tell the other couples she had lined up to stay at my moms house that had already paid. And she offered my mom $100 for the other couples that had stayed previously. My mom said she tried calling many times and each time hung up on her.
If you had repeated in front of your Japanese grandmother what your mother said to CW - would your grandmother have washed out YOUR mouth with soap and then washed out your mother's mouth with soap, too? For using those words in front of her grandchild?
I know that my German grandmother had her three sons trained - none of them (even the one who'd been in the Navy) ever used "military language" in front of his mother or his nieces & nephews or his own kids. (One of whom went into the Navy & retired a while back.)
Even after I went into the Air Force and learned "military language" - I never used those words around Grandma...
ETA - I have three cousins, an uncle by marriage, and an aunt who know at least SOME Japanese (girl cousin taught English in Japan for a year or so and Uncle was of Japanese descent but born in the USA and grew up speaking Japanese "at home", at least to his Japanese born grandparents).
I do not know more than three or four words in Japanese (goodby, thankyou, and that -sama means lord & -san means much the same as Mr., while -sensei could be used for teacher or other honored profession [ a doctor, in the context where I saw it]).
My "mental movie" seemed to cry out for a scene relating to one from my very young childhood - when I repeated something my grandfather had said in German...and got told that since I didn't know what it meant, I would NOT be getting into trouble - but Grandpa was going to be in trouble for saying that in front of me...Grandma did not like people talking like that in her house...and if I ever said it again, then I would be the one in trouble.
Big trouble...lye soap and peach switch trouble...