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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24930 on: January 02, 2014, 03:18:29 AM »
You might want to find a way to let your gracious hosts know that it won't happen again.  Can you encourage your husband to give them the apology that he owes them?
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24931 on: January 02, 2014, 07:33:55 AM »
You might want to find a way to let your gracious hosts know that it won't happen again.  Can you encourage your husband to give them the apology that he owes them?

Yeah, I'd encourage the husband to apologize. If I were the hosts, bringing a dog along to my party would put you on the "do not invite over again" list pretty quick, and if no explanation and apology were given for bringing the dog along it'd make things even worse.

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« Reply #24932 on: January 02, 2014, 07:55:05 AM »
And if your husband won't apologise, you should. While you were misled by him into thinking your dog had been invited, the two of you attended as a social unit so as far as the host is concerned, you were each equally rude by bringing the uninvited dog. TBH, I think one of you should have apologised and taken her straight home as soon as you realised she wasn't supposed to be there.

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« Reply #24933 on: January 02, 2014, 07:58:13 AM »
And if your husband won't apologise, you should. While you were misled by him into thinking your dog had been invited, the two of you attended as a social unit so as far as the host is concerned, you were each equally rude by bringing the uninvited dog. TBH, I think one of you should have apologised and taken her straight home as soon as you realised she wasn't supposed to be there.

Agreed. I'd have left with the dog as soon as I realized the hosts had not actually said it was OK to bring her.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24934 on: January 02, 2014, 09:05:44 AM »
I can't decide if I was the SS or the woman in the store today was.  We'd finished our food shopping and as we turned to leave I heard DH mutter "Oh you are kidding" and saw a woman setting up a potty for a child to use in the area beyond the checkouts, the area everyone with their full cart of shopping walks down.  As we walked past she picked up the child and said to him "Do you need to go for a wee?", without stopping I said to her "They've got toilets here, they're just over there" and pointed to where the toilets were.  DH thinks I was rude, I think she was disgusting for setting up a potty in the food store.  I dread to think what she was going to do with the contents because she'd need to go past the loose fruit and vegetables to get it to a toilet.  She didn't seem to be in a hurry and she wasn't on her own (there was another adult with the child) so getting him to the toilet shouldn't have been a problem.

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« Reply #24935 on: January 02, 2014, 09:29:43 AM »
I can't decide if I was the SS or the woman in the store today was.  We'd finished our food shopping and as we turned to leave I heard DH mutter "Oh you are kidding" and saw a woman setting up a potty for a child to use in the area beyond the checkouts, the area everyone with their full cart of shopping walks down.  As we walked past she picked up the child and said to him "Do you need to go for a wee?", without stopping I said to her "They've got toilets here, they're just over there" and pointed to where the toilets were.  DH thinks I was rude, I think she was disgusting for setting up a potty in the food store.  I dread to think what she was going to do with the contents because she'd need to go past the loose fruit and vegetables to get it to a toilet.  She didn't seem to be in a hurry and she wasn't on her own (there was another adult with the child) so getting him to the toilet shouldn't have been a problem.

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Accidents happen and with little kid you have to be prepared at all times (at least I guess so much without having kids myself) but if the kid wasn't even asking for it?  :o
Even if she was doing it inside the bathroom but not in a stall I would find it weird (unless the stalls were really small and not at all convenient).
I once saw a woman helping her young son (he was walking/standing but under 3 y/old I guess) go wee on the side of a pillar in the mall, on carpet!
(you know, the place where it's the most convenient to put your bags down if you have to tie your shoe, take a break, get your cellphone out..)
As I said, accidents happen, but when there is a non-carpeted area just 5 feets to your right the right course of action is to: 1) quickly get the kid to the less crowded and easy to clean area and 2) quickly tell anyone (a shopper, a security agent, the closest store worker) to call for clean-up - you created a slipping risk, it's best to stay so that you can alert people to be carefull and not leave a big puddle unattended.
I didn't stay, but someone letting a kid wee on carpet doesn't sound to be the best person to follow up and give notice to the cleaning crew...

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24936 on: January 02, 2014, 09:40:01 AM »
I can't decide if I was the SS or the woman in the store today was.  We'd finished our food shopping and as we turned to leave I heard DH mutter "Oh you are kidding" and saw a woman setting up a potty for a child to use in the area beyond the checkouts, the area everyone with their full cart of shopping walks down.  As we walked past she picked up the child and said to him "Do you need to go for a wee?", without stopping I said to her "They've got toilets here, they're just over there" and pointed to where the toilets were.  DH thinks I was rude, I think she was disgusting for setting up a potty in the food store.  I dread to think what she was going to do with the contents because she'd need to go past the loose fruit and vegetables to get it to a toilet.  She didn't seem to be in a hurry and she wasn't on her own (there was another adult with the child) so getting him to the toilet shouldn't have been a problem.

You were fine.  She?  Not so much.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24937 on: January 02, 2014, 09:49:29 AM »
I can't decide if I was the SS or the woman in the store today was.  We'd finished our food shopping and as we turned to leave I heard DH mutter "Oh you are kidding" and saw a woman setting up a potty for a child to use in the area beyond the checkouts, the area everyone with their full cart of shopping walks down.  As we walked past she picked up the child and said to him "Do you need to go for a wee?", without stopping I said to her "They've got toilets here, they're just over there" and pointed to where the toilets were.  DH thinks I was rude, I think she was disgusting for setting up a potty in the food store.  I dread to think what she was going to do with the contents because she'd need to go past the loose fruit and vegetables to get it to a toilet.  She didn't seem to be in a hurry and she wasn't on her own (there was another adult with the child) so getting him to the toilet shouldn't have been a problem.
You were fine
The woman was horrid
The store management should have at least kicked her out and banned her from the store

Honestly you should write a complaint to corporate and report this to the health department.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24938 on: January 02, 2014, 10:35:11 AM »
Oh that's just disgusting. And correct me if I'm wrong, although I know sometimes you can't help it, and there isn't always time to prevent an accident, but isn't part of the potty training teaching your kids where its APPROPRIATE to go, i.e. IN the bathroom? And not peeing on carpet in the mall, or bringing a potty along with you on a shopping trip? To me, that seems like your're sending the message its ok to just do your business anywhere you like, anytime.

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« Reply #24939 on: January 02, 2014, 11:09:43 AM »
In a previous job, we once had a client squat down and wee on the carpeted floor of our reception area. In front of a large plate glass window onto the street, and in front of 2 or 3 other clients. had she asked, she could have used our WC.

I cannot understand, now or then, how anyone would think that was remotely acceptable.

In your situation, I think you were absolutely fine, and I hope you also alerted a ember of staff.

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« Reply #24940 on: January 02, 2014, 11:23:58 AM »
And if your husband won't apologise, you should. While you were misled by him into thinking your dog had been invited, the two of you attended as a social unit so as far as the host is concerned, you were each equally rude by bringing the uninvited dog. TBH, I think one of you should have apologised and taken her straight home as soon as you realised she wasn't supposed to be there.
I did apologize; I just didn't include that in my long narrative.  I apologized to our host, who greeted us, when I realized he had not invited the dog.  My husband had already left me (gr-r-r-r >:().  I felt it would be rude to leave then because our host was playing with the dog, saying she was very cute and welcome to stay.

I apologized to our hostess also: Once when I greeted her and realized that she did not invite the dog either and again when we were leaving, although by then I was apologizing for the barking dog, leaving abruptly (& not staying to meet the person she wanted me to meet), and bringing the dog in the first place.  I told our hostess that the dog would have been happier at home with her cat, Buddy, and would be staying there in the future.  We discussed meeting soon for dinner, which will be my treat.

I planned all along to keep the dog outside because the white carpet made me nervous.  The party is held in the back yard, inside, and on the front patio.  When we arrived, after the host played with the dog, I took her into the back yard for awhile.  I thought DH would at least take responsibility for the dog he wanted to bring long enough for me to put food on my plate, but I misjudged.  I thought he would take responsibility for this fiasco, but he is blaming the dog.

"Encouraging" my husband to apologize is guaranteed to backfire.  Trust me.  After 24 years, I know this about him.  I have yet to hear a sincere apology from him for anything, nor have I heard him take responsibility for the unpleasant consequences of his actions.  His opinion, which I do not share, is that he is only responsible for intentional consequences, not stuff that happened because of his actions, but which he did not plan. :-\
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24941 on: January 02, 2014, 11:50:45 AM »
Oh that's just disgusting. And correct me if I'm wrong, although I know sometimes you can't help it, and there isn't always time to prevent an accident, but isn't part of the potty training teaching your kids where its APPROPRIATE to go, i.e. IN the bathroom? And not peeing on carpet in the mall, or bringing a potty along with you on a shopping trip? To me, that seems like your're sending the message its ok to just do your business anywhere you like, anytime.
That's the part that gobsmacked me: Isn't it inconvenient to carry a potty around?  Isn't that why public restrooms are provided?
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« Reply #24942 on: January 02, 2014, 11:52:23 AM »
In a previous job, we once had a client squat down and wee on the carpeted floor of our reception area. In front of a large plate glass window onto the street, and in front of 2 or 3 other clients. had she asked, she could have used our WC.

I cannot understand, now or then, how anyone would think that was remotely acceptable.
I was waiting at the bus stop when a woman lifted her long skirts and peed on the sidewalk in front of the bus stop.  I don't think the concept of "acceptable" existed in her mind; She seemed addled.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #24943 on: January 02, 2014, 01:56:31 PM »
Oh that's just disgusting. And correct me if I'm wrong, although I know sometimes you can't help it, and there isn't always time to prevent an accident, but isn't part of the potty training teaching your kids where its APPROPRIATE to go, i.e. IN the bathroom? And not peeing on carpet in the mall, or bringing a potty along with you on a shopping trip? To me, that seems like your're sending the message its ok to just do your business anywhere you like, anytime.
That's the part that gobsmacked me: Isn't it inconvenient to carry a potty around?  Isn't that why public restrooms are provided?

Or, if you're in that potty training stage, you get one of those fold-up potty lids you can stick in the diaper bag or a large purse.  Portable, doesn't get gross, and helps little bottoms sit on those big commercial toilet seats.

(We got stuck on the highway for several hours once when Babybartfast was potty training.  Power was out in the city for a week and we - along with everyone else - were evacuating the tornadoes.  Babybartfast had to go, and the floodwater was literally up to about ten feet from the edge of the highway, so couldn't go down among the trees . . . DH ended up having to hold the potty seat up while she sat on it, in full view of a zillion other people.  And then she wouldn't go because there was grass tickling her bottom   ::)  It was memorable, at least . . .) 

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« Reply #24944 on: January 02, 2014, 04:30:15 PM »
And if your husband won't apologise, you should. While you were misled by him into thinking your dog had been invited, the two of you attended as a social unit so as far as the host is concerned, you were each equally rude by bringing the uninvited dog. TBH, I think one of you should have apologised and taken her straight home as soon as you realised she wasn't supposed to be there.
I did apologize; I just didn't include that in my long narrative.  I apologized to our host, who greeted us, when I realized he had not invited the dog.  My husband had already left me (gr-r-r-r >:().  I felt it would be rude to leave then because our host was playing with the dog, saying she was very cute and welcome to stay.

I apologized to our hostess also: Once when I greeted her and realized that she did not invite the dog either and again when we were leaving, although by then I was apologizing for the barking dog, leaving abruptly (& not staying to meet the person she wanted me to meet), and bringing the dog in the first place.  I told our hostess that the dog would have been happier at home with her cat, Buddy, and would be staying there in the future.  We discussed meeting soon for dinner, which will be my treat.

I planned all along to keep the dog outside because the white carpet made me nervous.  The party is held in the back yard, inside, and on the front patio.  When we arrived, after the host played with the dog, I took her into the back yard for awhile.  I thought DH would at least take responsibility for the dog he wanted to bring long enough for me to put food on my plate, but I misjudged.  I thought he would take responsibility for this fiasco, but he is blaming the dog.

"Encouraging" my husband to apologize is guaranteed to backfire.  Trust me.  After 24 years, I know this about him.  I have yet to hear a sincere apology from him for anything, nor have I heard him take responsibility for the unpleasant consequences of his actions.  His opinion, which I do not share, is that he is only responsible for intentional consequences, not stuff that happened because of his actions, but which he did not plan. :-\

Midknight, may I ask what prompted you and your DH to bring the dog to the party? It would just seem so odd to me to take a dog to a party at a home.