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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25005 on: January 11, 2014, 05:57:12 PM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We had the opposite, we were at a stop sign going straight, and the person across from us was turning left.  When it was clear we started to go and almost hit her as she rushed a left.  She was at the intersection first, but the law says that you lose right of way if turning left, she should have deferred to us.  Oh well, the cursing and finger waving she did at us for having the audacity of almost hitting her will make her feel better I'm sure.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25006 on: January 11, 2014, 06:14:16 PM »
I get irritated by people not following right of way rules.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25007 on: January 11, 2014, 08:31:13 PM »
I get irritated by people not following right of way rules.

Me too especially when not following rules can cause accidents and back traffic up. 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25008 on: January 12, 2014, 09:08:04 AM »
Last night while leaving a restaurant, I came across three SS's.  They were walking three abreast down the sidewalk, taking up all available space, and refused to make room for my DH and I until the very last minute, with much grumbling about "people who won't move out of the way".

Ugh, people who completely block a path are infuriating. And when you try and get past, they "accidentally" manage to move so they're still blocking you, and if you ask them to move, they "mysteriously" develop the inability to hear you, in spite of the fact that you're right behind them. And somehow you're the rude one for not being willing to get stuck behind them for hours.

Another one that drives me batty is people who stop, either suddenly or for great lengths of time in doorways, and then get irritated when people need to get through. It's a door. There's a clue that it's a bad place to stop. MOVE.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25009 on: January 12, 2014, 09:30:33 AM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

Mine too! I had one of the most frightening "near miss" accidents when I was much younger, and much less assertive. Someone insistently waved me ahead, even though it wasn't my turn. I couldn't see around him, either, but he kept frantically gesturing for me to go. So I did, and almost collided with the car on his other side that I didn't see, making a right-of-way turn that would have been perfectly safe and legal had the regular rules of the road been in play. Now, I don't care how "nice" someone's being or how frantically they wave. If I can't see, I'm not going to just trust you that it's clear. And if it's not my turn, I'm not going FOR A REASON.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25010 on: January 12, 2014, 10:50:25 AM »
Last night while leaving a restaurant, I came across three SS's.  They were walking three abreast down the sidewalk, taking up all available space, and refused to make room for my DH and I until the very last minute, with much grumbling about "people who won't move out of the way".

It bothers me greatly when people come up out of the Subway and stop dead right at the head of the stairs.  There's plenty to move aside and let others get past.  Do it! 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25011 on: January 12, 2014, 11:15:07 AM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We had the opposite, we were at a stop sign going straight, and the person across from us was turning left.  When it was clear we started to go and almost hit her as she rushed a left.  She was at the intersection first, but the law says that you lose right of way if turning left, she should have deferred to us.  Oh well, the cursing and finger waving she did at us for having the audacity of almost hitting her will make her feel better I'm sure.

Actually, in my state the same right-of-way rules apply to a two-way stop for the cars with the stop signs (obviously, vehicles without the sign have the right-of-way first). So that person turning left would have had the right-of-way over you, by virtue of being there first. Otherwise, that poor person turning left could be stuck there all day if there was heavy traffic coming from the opposite direction, if they had to wait until there were no cars at all.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25012 on: January 12, 2014, 11:53:40 AM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We had the opposite, we were at a stop sign going straight, and the person across from us was turning left.  When it was clear we started to go and almost hit her as she rushed a left.  She was at the intersection first, but the law says that you lose right of way if turning left, she should have deferred to us.  Oh well, the cursing and finger waving she did at us for having the audacity of almost hitting her will make her feel better I'm sure.

Actually, in my state the same right-of-way rules apply to a two-way stop for the cars with the stop signs (obviously, vehicles without the sign have the right-of-way first). So that person turning left would have had the right-of-way over you, by virtue of being there first. Otherwise, that poor person turning left could be stuck there all day if there was heavy traffic coming from the opposite direction, if they had to wait until there were no cars at all.

In my state, the driver who's there first also goes first: "Always yield to any driver already at or in an intersection," from the official state site. I live in a high-density state (NJ), and if left-turners went last it would be a lot of traffic back-up!

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« Reply #25013 on: January 12, 2014, 12:34:04 PM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We had the opposite, we were at a stop sign going straight, and the person across from us was turning left.  When it was clear we started to go and almost hit her as she rushed a left.  She was at the intersection first, but the law says that you lose right of way if turning left, she should have deferred to us.  Oh well, the cursing and finger waving she did at us for having the audacity of almost hitting her will make her feel better I'm sure.

Actually, in my state the same right-of-way rules apply to a two-way stop for the cars with the stop signs (obviously, vehicles without the sign have the right-of-way first). So that person turning left would have had the right-of-way over you, by virtue of being there first. Otherwise, that poor person turning left could be stuck there all day if there was heavy traffic coming from the opposite direction, if they had to wait until there were no cars at all.

In my state, the driver who's there first also goes first: "Always yield to any driver already at or in an intersection," from the official state site. I live in a high-density state (NJ), and if left-turners went last it would be a lot of traffic back-up!

That's how it is in my state too: the car that gets there first has right of way.  If two cars arrive at the same time, THEN the one going straight has right of way.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25014 on: January 12, 2014, 12:53:49 PM »


That's how it is in my state too: the car that gets there first has right of way.  If two cars arrive at the same time, THEN the one going straight has right of way.

I thought it was that way everywhere.  I guess when I drive in other states, I may be disobeying the local laws! 

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« Reply #25015 on: January 12, 2014, 01:45:42 PM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

Mine too! I had one of the most frightening "near miss" accidents when I was much younger, and much less assertive. Someone insistently waved me ahead, even though it wasn't my turn. I couldn't see around him, either, but he kept frantically gesturing for me to go. So I did, and almost collided with the car on his other side that I didn't see, making a right-of-way turn that would have been perfectly safe and legal had the regular rules of the road been in play. Now, I don't care how "nice" someone's being or how frantically they wave. If I can't see, I'm not going to just trust you that it's clear. And if it's not my turn, I'm not going FOR A REASON.

Definitely a good policy to have. I had just bought my new car 4 months earlier when I drove it to a event at the local high school. There are 2 lanes going east on the road toward the school, and 1 lane going west, away from it. Very popular event at the school, so traffic was backed up solid in the right lane. I was going past all that traffic in the left lane, because I was going to go past the school and then park in the far parking lot.

Since there was no one going the opposite direction at the time, a driver in the right lane waved a young girl out so she could make a left turn. Right in front of me - bam! Nothing I could do, and I think I left maybe 10 feet of skidmarks from trying to brake. I nailed her front driver's side quarter panel and left her car undrivable, now blocking both lanes and part of the opposite direction lane. Police were called, but the young girl actually left the scene of the accident, to go down the street to get her dad. She's lucky she got back by the time the police made it to our location.

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« Reply #25016 on: January 12, 2014, 02:14:10 PM »
I don't know if this would be considered a special snowflake, but it certainly irritated me! Today I was stopped at a regular stop sign (not a 4-way) and I had my blinker on to turn left. The car stopped across from me was going straight. He tried to wave me on through the intersection! I just shook my head and waited until he went across. I know people think they are being nice, but that is incredibly dangerous. Just because I got there first, does not mean it's my "turn". It's not a 4-way stop, people! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

We had the opposite, we were at a stop sign going straight, and the person across from us was turning left.  When it was clear we started to go and almost hit her as she rushed a left.  She was at the intersection first, but the law says that you lose right of way if turning left, she should have deferred to us.  Oh well, the cursing and finger waving she did at us for having the audacity of almost hitting her will make her feel better I'm sure.

Actually, in my state the same right-of-way rules apply to a two-way stop for the cars with the stop signs (obviously, vehicles without the sign have the right-of-way first). So that person turning left would have had the right-of-way over you, by virtue of being there first. Otherwise, that poor person turning left could be stuck there all day if there was heavy traffic coming from the opposite direction, if they had to wait until there were no cars at all.

In my state, the driver who's there first also goes first: "Always yield to any driver already at or in an intersection," from the official state site. I live in a high-density state (NJ), and if left-turners went last it would be a lot of traffic back-up!

That's how it is in my state too: the car that gets there first has right of way.  If two cars arrive at the same time, THEN the one going straight has right of way.
My too ( first car has right of way) you are suppose to stop fully for 3 full seconds so a person who arrived first should be either done turning or well into the intersection before you are actually suppose to start to move.    IF 2 people arrive less then a second apart I'm a little more leery  turning left even if its is my right of way.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25017 on: January 12, 2014, 02:39:10 PM »
This may not be true everywhere - depending on local laws.

But in training as an insurance adjuster in the USA, we were firmly told that whoever waved someone into the road could be held legally responsible for any ensuing accident, if they could be tracked down.

I've heard of one guy who was asked by the police at the scene of an accident about why he waved someone in front of him when traffic was NOT clear - he said that he was trying to get fresher air in front of his face after a "gas leak" (the kind some people try to blame on the dog)...he hadn't been waving at anyone!

I've also been an adjuster where someone claimed to have been waved into traffic while they were trying to make a left turn at a similar situation.  But since I had driven by that high school before moving to the place where I got the job as an adjuster, I knew that the left turn lane had been cemented in with a raised "hump", the hump painted yellow, and "No Left Turn" signs posted on the hump and the exit from the parking lot to the highway - because it just wasn't safe to try to make left turns out of the high school.  The name of that road was "the Dieway" - so making right turns wasn't much safer.  There was a LOT of traffic there....

 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25018 on: January 12, 2014, 04:08:25 PM »
This may not be true everywhere - depending on local laws.

But in training as an insurance adjuster in the USA, we were firmly told that whoever waved someone into the road could be held legally responsible for any ensuing accident, if they could be tracked down.

I've heard of one guy who was asked by the police at the scene of an accident about why he waved someone in front of him when traffic was NOT clear - he said that he was trying to get fresher air in front of his face after a "gas leak" (the kind some people try to blame on the dog)...he hadn't been waving at anyone!

I've also been an adjuster where someone claimed to have been waved into traffic while they were trying to make a left turn at a similar situation.  But since I had driven by that high school before moving to the place where I got the job as an adjuster, I knew that the left turn lane had been cemented in with a raised "hump", the hump painted yellow, and "No Left Turn" signs posted on the hump and the exit from the parking lot to the highway - because it just wasn't safe to try to make left turns out of the high school.  The name of that road was "the Dieway" - so making right turns wasn't much safer.  There was a LOT of traffic there....

I shouldn't laugh at that, but I couldn't help it. My late MIL once had an accident like that. She was turning left and swore the other driver "waved" to her to go. Thing is, it was a busy road, and I find it very difficult to believe that. Also, she was a horrible driver. They used to live in the panhandle of FL (AKA, "Floribama"). Once she took a wrong turn and ended up in the middle of Alabama! And the worst: she drove straight through a construction zone, through traffic cones and those flashing lights, and the workers dove in all directions to avoid being hit. Yeah, she was a menace on the road!  :o

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25019 on: January 12, 2014, 05:07:58 PM »
I've been reading ehell for years but never ran across a movie theater SS--until yesterday.

I took DD to Frozen for the second time. The theater was surprisingly busy, considering how long the film has been out. Anyhow, it was pretty packed. A couple with three kids sat behind us. The mom bickered with the two older kids about passing popcorn, getting situated, etc., which was a little annoying as they'd arrived right as the previews started to roll. Then she and the husband discussed some of the movie previews, loud enough for me to hear them. But ok, the movie hadn't started yet.

Their youngest was older than a baby, but not quite a toddler--probably 18 months or so. He sat on Dad's knee for the first half of the movie, and was kind of noisy. Again, ok, it's a kid's movie, and happy baby noises are fine. But both his parents started asking him questions that they expected him to respond to, and cooed at him when he did..."What noise do horsies make?" "Oooh, isn't her dress pretty?" "Can you say snow? Yes, snow! Aww, so cute!"

So about 2/3 of the way through the movie, I heard the mom say, "Someone has poopy pants!" My first thought was, "Great! I'll get a few minutes of quiet." Then I heard velcro ripping, and look over to see the baby standing with his face 5 inches from my DD's head. This made him extra excited, and he started squealing and shouting. Yup. Mom is changing his diaper in the middle of the packed movie theater.  :o

When the movie ended, the mom burst in to song during the credits. I couldn't help but think of the poster with the tap-dancing MIL.