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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25050 on: January 15, 2014, 10:10:50 AM »
So the bride picked her attendants based on whether or not they'd make her look skinny???  Wow....  Just.  wow.  I don't blame Friend for being upset, and that is one friendship I'd end rightquickfast and in a BIG hurry.


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25051 on: January 15, 2014, 10:12:33 AM »
It boggles my mind, the way some brides react about their friends' appearances. If I were getting married, I'd be quite content to have friends to walk with me. Not thinner friends, fatter friends, more presentable friends. If you want to be the cynosure of all eyes, do away with the bridesmaids completely.
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« Reply #25052 on: January 15, 2014, 10:14:43 AM »
Good grief.  That reminds me of when my friend got engaged, and her mother said "But you can't get married yet - I'm still fat!"

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« Reply #25053 on: January 15, 2014, 10:21:11 AM »
It boggles my mind, the way some brides react about their friends' appearances. If I were getting married, I'd be quite content to have friends to walk with me. Not thinner friends, fatter friends, more presentable friends. If you want to be the cynosure of all eyes, do away with the bridesmaids completely.

I know, right? When I got married, I had my three best friends and my husband's sister as attendants. My MOH was (and is) a bigger girl and if I had to estimate, was probably 50 pounds heavier than she "should have been." Another attendant was chubby, I guess (I feel weird even talking about them this way), another was "normal," as am I, and my SIL was skinny as a rail.

We've been married 26 years, we're still close to everyone in the wedding party, people still talk about what a wonderful time they had, I still look at the pictures and think "that was a terrific day." This may, in fact, be the first time I ever thought about anyone in the bridal party's weight/appearance.

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« Reply #25054 on: January 15, 2014, 11:57:37 AM »
Friend is now 65lbs lighter and smaller then Bride. This upsets Bride.

Bride has taken to Facebook to whine about how friend should have waited to get WLS, or should have slowed down her weight loss, and how awful it is that she's going to look like a fat bride now!!!!

Funny - usually a Bridezilla expects her bridesmaids to lose weight before the wedding so they'll look good in the photos.

"Bride" is going to look like a "fat bride" no matter what if that's how she thinks.

Hopefully "Friend" quickly realizes how shallow Bride is and drops out of both the wedding and the friendship.  A true friend would be happy for her weight loss and subsequent health benefits.

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« Reply #25055 on: January 15, 2014, 12:22:29 PM »
Both times my sister has been married (she is now divorced), all of us girl attendants were a variety of different sizes and heights.  It did not matter to her one bit.  Not sure why some brides are bent up on appearances of their bridal party.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25056 on: January 15, 2014, 12:46:31 PM »
It boggles my mind, the way some brides react about their friends' appearances. If I were getting married, I'd be quite content to have friends to walk with me. Not thinner friends, fatter friends, more presentable friends. If you want to be the cynosure of all eyes, do away with the bridesmaids completely.

My MOH was 8 months pregnant and still smaller than me. I didn't care!
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« Reply #25057 on: January 15, 2014, 12:58:41 PM »
Someone needs to start an agency that supplies attendants to bridezillas who are only concerned about the look of their bridal party.  You know, maybe a set of matched blondes between 5'6" and 5'8", all size 6.  Don't let your fiance insist on his bald, 5'8" 300-lb brother for best man -- rent a 6' 195-lb dark-haired man.
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« Reply #25058 on: January 15, 2014, 01:16:24 PM »
Regarding the escalator - I live on an island with no escalators.  I must admit to stopping at the top of the one in the Miami airport.  It had been 20 years since I had seen one and honestly had to take a minute to remember how to get on one.  Silly I know but it seemed so foreign.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25059 on: January 15, 2014, 01:18:28 PM »
Someone needs to start an agency that supplies attendants to bridezillas who are only concerned about the look of their bridal party.  You know, maybe a set of matched blondes between 5'6" and 5'8", all size 6.  Don't let your fiance insist on his bald, 5'8" 300-lb brother for best man -- rent a 6' 195-lb dark-haired man.

I've written two ads...

Do you have what it takes to be a professional bridal party member? We're looking for people of all shapes and sizes, as brides whims are quite dramatic. Must be able to put in long nights of crafts, reassure bride that she's beautiful, agree it's her magic special princess day, and cheerfully accept all abuse hurled at you. You also must agree to not get engaged, married, pregnant, or have any other life altering changes occur during the engagement and wedding. And most important, take her side in all disagreements, even if she obviously wrong/crazy because she's not see above about the magic special princess day.

Brides, we know it's your special day! It's your day to be a princess and have the world at your feet! But how do you deal with those who disagree? We say don't! We can provide you with a well trained bridal party whose appearances fit the theme and feel of your wedding! Hire and fire without worrying about hurt feelings and resentful friends! Guaranteed to never steal the spot light from you! Call for appointments!

Heck I say we expand the business, rent out guests, MOB and MOG, maybe even the groom! And finally, finally, you'll be able to actually cast your wedding so it's the wedding of your dreams!!!!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25060 on: January 15, 2014, 01:28:05 PM »
 ;D  Perfect!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25061 on: January 15, 2014, 01:33:04 PM »
Someone needs to start an agency that supplies attendants to bridezillas who are only concerned about the look of their bridal party.  You know, maybe a set of matched blondes between 5'6" and 5'8", all size 6.  Don't let your fiance insist on his bald, 5'8" 300-lb brother for best man -- rent a 6' 195-lb dark-haired man.

Agency based in Stepford, of course.

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« Reply #25062 on: January 15, 2014, 01:37:39 PM »
It boggles my mind, the way some brides react about their friends' appearances. If I were getting married, I'd be quite content to have friends to walk with me. Not thinner friends, fatter friends, more presentable friends. If you want to be the cynosure of all eyes, do away with the bridesmaids completely.

I know, right? When I got married, I had my three best friends and my husband's sister as attendants. My MOH was (and is) a bigger girl and if I had to estimate, was probably 50 pounds heavier than she "should have been." Another attendant was chubby, I guess (I feel weird even talking about them this way), another was "normal," as am I, and my SIL was skinny as a rail.

We've been married 26 years, we're still close to everyone in the wedding party, people still talk about what a wonderful time they had, I still look at the pictures and think "that was a terrific day." This may, in fact, be the first time I ever thought about anyone in the bridal party's weight/appearance.

This whole thing just boggles my mind. What if Friend hadn't had surgery, but just went on a diet? I lost a lot of weight in the last year, and I was in a wedding. I ended up being lighter than the bride, who was having a lot of weight issues. She didn't care, she was proud of what I'd done. And she was gorgeous, no matter what the relative weights were!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25063 on: January 15, 2014, 01:42:28 PM »
Pippa was rocking that bridesmaid dress, but I didn't think that she detracted in any way how lovely Kate Middleton looked at her wedding!
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« Reply #25064 on: January 15, 2014, 02:03:54 PM »
Someone needs to start an agency that supplies attendants to bridezillas who are only concerned about the look of their bridal party.  You know, maybe a set of matched blondes between 5'6" and 5'8", all size 6.  Don't let your fiance insist on his bald, 5'8" 300-lb brother for best man -- rent a 6' 195-lb dark-haired man.

I have an ex-friend who used to insist that when she got married, all of her bridesmaids had to be fatter and/or uglier than she was, so that she would look better by comparison.