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Outdoor Girl

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25620 on: February 23, 2014, 10:29:23 AM »
Somebody causing me physical harm that won't back off?  You bet I'm getting management involved.

I look fine the vast majority of the time but if my fibro was flaring and some kid kept bumping into me?  I'd be in a lot of pain.  And if the parents won't take care of the kid, I'm going to looking for some help.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25621 on: February 23, 2014, 11:20:42 AM »
I actually agree with you, Outdoor Girl, but what would management do in that situation?

If they don't want to upset one customer by letting a kid bump into them, are they going to risk upsetting another (parents of the bumpy child) by telling them to knock it off? Which customer do they upset, if it's all about keeping corporate happy?

While we're on the subject: the 'let a staff member handle it' thing that I can't stand is when someone's child throws up in a restaurant or a shop and they parent expects some poor hapless minimum wage waitress kid to clean it up. I just think that's dreadful.

HoneyBee42

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25622 on: February 23, 2014, 11:29:10 AM »
Special Snowflake in the parking lot.

Now this is an angled lot (so there is a definite right and wrong way to go down each aisle ... it's obvious from the angle of the parked vehicles and the giant painted arrows on the pavement at each end of the row).  I am driving down one (correct direction), or in other words towards the store.  Then I see the SS's car.  I parked a bit further out so I wouldn't have to pass him in my car, because SS was about halfway out of the parking spot into the driving lane.  No one was in the vehicle.  When we walked in, we see that there is a second car which had apparently started to pull through, but quit with about three feet of the back end of their car still in the spot that is half-occupied by the SS.  So we have one person who apparently is angled to leave by driving the wrong way down the next aisle (because it's a drive up--or away from building--lane) who has half-occupied two parking places, with a half empty parking spot in front of *that* car.  Then we have the other half of the parking spot occupied by the SS, who has also effectively cut the driving area in half.

Yes, there are tons of other parking spots.  What was so special about *that* one that he had to have it even with it being half-occupied and not enough room for his full vehicle, I have not the slightest clue.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25623 on: February 23, 2014, 12:42:39 PM »
BG - Sis works for a hospital and is on call 1 weekend a month. BIL often has to do some work on Saturdays.

Sis and I were at Brett's basketball game. They are in kinder and play 2 games at a time on the court across the short end of the rectangle. The SS was on the other side of Sis. Now sis and I grew up going to both pro and University of Houston Cougar games and Sis played several sports. We are cheering the kids on. SS asks us to please be quiet she is trying to have a conversation - in a gym with two youth league Basketball games going on? Our reply was we are here to cheer the kids on.

Then sis who has her work phone out on her knee gets a work call. She takes the call and walks out of the gym to solve the problem (Most of the time she can solve the problems over the phone.) She had to call a doctor, left a message came back to the game. About 20 min later the doctor called back - she left and took care of what ever it was.

SS leaned over to me and said shame some people can't get off their phones to pay attention to their kids. I gave her my best icy smile and said, "She is dealing with a medical emergency at her job." woman huffed and turned back to her daughter. The funny part was I was on my phone more than sis taking pictures of the kids.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25624 on: February 23, 2014, 04:05:16 PM »
DH came home with one today. The church he attends is orthodox and, for the most part, men and women sit on opposite sides of the church. If there is a couple with kids, it's not unusual for the kids to move back and forth between mom and dad.

Today, DH got there a bit late and was sitting on the aisle. There was a dad further in the pew with two little girls about 4 and 5 who not only wouldn't keep quiet, but kept running back between mom and dad frequently. Everytime they moved out of DH's pew, they managed to step all over his feet. He finally stopped moving out of the kids' way so they had to squeeze behind him and therefore couldn't stomp on his stocking feet (he'd taken his boots off in preparation for communion) with their winter boots on.

They were also making enough noise, without any parental correction, that the priest had to stop mass not once, but twice. The first time, the priest actually interrupted a fairly important prayer to remind people that they do have a crying room in the back and to please use it. The second time, he just stopped speaking and let the silence speak for itself. The father finally took the youngest, and noisiest child, out.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25625 on: February 24, 2014, 04:28:12 AM »
SS at the parking garage.

I pulled into a garage near a tourist location, so lots of cars going entering and exiting.  I get two car lengths into the garage and notice a red car blocking the aisle.  Two women walk up and start talking to the driver of the red car.  Meantime, traffic is building up, because no one can get through the garage.  I honk and one of the women waves at us in a dismissive manner.  Fortunately, a security guard is in the area.  She walks over and tells the car to move, car pulls in and traffic proceeds.  The SS continues her conversation, while the red car is pulled into a handicap location.  I wonder how long before the security guard was ready to give the driver a citation.

A second SS.  I am driving through Old Town Sacramento with cobbled streets, hundreds of pedestrians and a few on street parking spaces.  SS driver in front of me, pulls half past a car that is attempting to back out.  She expects me to back up with cars behind me and pedestrians jaywalking everywhere.  I do back up a few feet and then sit there waiting for the SS to realize she cannot get into the space.  Once again, security guards to the rescue.  They walk over and insist that the driver get moving, they allow her to park in a handicap space and I escape before I have to wait for the other driver to pull out.  I have no idea if the SS was able to get back to the space she wanted.

Mediancat

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25626 on: February 24, 2014, 07:20:29 AM »
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Sounds like our idiot neighbors (2 different houses) that always wanted me punished for stopping their bully sons from beating up kids younger than them. The fact the victims and I were female meant we had no right to stop them.

Huh?

Because you're a woman you need to let men beat you up?

That's a horrendous mindset, going beyond Special Snowflake and into simply "evil."

Rob
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ladyknight1

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25627 on: February 24, 2014, 08:37:59 AM »
We were waiting at the customer service desk, while someone was in front of us. The couple in line ahead of us had a very young child, and they stood with their backs to her, which was a little odd, then didn't notice that she kept twirling in circles and stepped on my feet and my son's feet. All that time (10 minutes), the parents paid no attention to her.
I think under those circumstances, you are entitled to say "Honey, please be careful.  If you step on our feet again you could fall and hurt yourself."  And if you spoke a little louder than usual, well, the parents MIGHT get the message.

We kept moving back, but I did not feel it was my job to remind the parents to parent their child.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25628 on: February 24, 2014, 11:14:54 AM »
Quote from: kherbert
Sounds like our idiot neighbors (2 different houses) that always wanted me punished for stopping their bully sons from beating up kids younger than them. The fact the victims and I were female meant we had no right to stop them.

Huh?

Because you're a woman you need to let men beat you up?

That's a horrendous mindset, going beyond Special Snowflake and into simply "evil."

Rob
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Shalamar

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25629 on: February 24, 2014, 11:52:30 AM »
Not sure if this counts as SS, but it sure annoyed me.

My husband and I wanted to buy a few things from Safeway.  Their express line asked for "15 items or less."  We counted - we had 14.  Great!  So we got in the line.

Cashier:  This is the EXPRESS line.
Me:  Yes, we know.
Cashier:  You're only allowed up to 15 ITEMS.
Me:  That's okay; we have 14 items.
Cashier:  I said 15 ITEMS OR LESS!
Me:  But ... 14 IS less than 15 ... oh, never mind.

We got into a different line.  I'm now sorry that I didn't complain to the manager.
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GlitterIsMyDrug

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25630 on: February 24, 2014, 11:52:45 AM »
Quote from: kherbert
Sounds like our idiot neighbors (2 different houses) that always wanted me punished for stopping their bully sons from beating up kids younger than them. The fact the victims and I were female meant we had no right to stop them.

Huh?

Because you're a woman you need to let men beat you up?

That's a horrendous mindset, going beyond Special Snowflake and into simply "evil."

Rob
Ever heard the phrase "boys will be boys?"  That's exactly what it means.  Boys/men can do whatever they please, because that's what being a boy/man is about.   ::)   And girls just need to learn to accept that, even if they ARE hobbling into the house crying and bleeding from scraped knees and hands because they've pushed her down.

To quote Reba "Oh I've heard it, just never met anyone stupid enough to believe it" except for I actually have.

Piratelvr1121

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25631 on: February 24, 2014, 12:06:43 PM »
Quote from: kherbert
Sounds like our idiot neighbors (2 different houses) that always wanted me punished for stopping their bully sons from beating up kids younger than them. The fact the victims and I were female meant we had no right to stop them.

Huh?

Because you're a woman you need to let men beat you up?

That's a horrendous mindset, going beyond Special Snowflake and into simply "evil."

Rob
Ever heard the phrase "boys will be boys?"  That's exactly what it means.  Boys/men can do whatever they please, because that's what being a boy/man is about.   ::)   And girls just need to learn to accept that, even if they ARE hobbling into the house crying and bleeding from scraped knees and hands because they've pushed her down.

To quote Reba "Oh I've heard it, just never met anyone stupid enough to believe it" except for I actually have.

I like Reba. :)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25632 on: February 24, 2014, 12:30:11 PM »
Quote from: kherbert
Sounds like our idiot neighbors (2 different houses) that always wanted me punished for stopping their bully sons from beating up kids younger than them. The fact the victims and I were female meant we had no right to stop them.

Huh?

Because you're a woman you need to let men beat you up?

That's a horrendous mindset, going beyond Special Snowflake and into simply "evil."

Rob
Ever heard the phrase "boys will be boys?"  That's exactly what it means.  Boys/men can do whatever they please, because that's what being a boy/man is about.   ::)   And girls just need to learn to accept that, even if they ARE hobbling into the house crying and bleeding from scraped knees and hands because they've pushed her down.

To quote Reba "Oh I've heard it, just never met anyone stupid enough to believe it" except for I actually have.

I like Reba. :)

A neighbour once tried the "Boys will be boys" excuse on my mother after her son tried to push me off my bike while we were on a very solid driveway (if he'd managed to tip me, it would have seriously hurt).

My mother replied "And mother's will be mothers, and they will defend their children from harm from boys who should know better, as harshly as they have to."
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Diane AKA Traska

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25633 on: February 24, 2014, 12:37:47 PM »
Not sure if this counts as SS, but it sure annoyed me.

My husband and I wanted to buy a few things from Safeway.  Their express line asked for "15 items or less."  We counted - we had 14.  Great!  So we got in the line.

Cashier:  This is the EXPRESS line.
Me:  Yes, we know.
Cashier:  You're only allowed up to 15 ITEMS.
Me:  That's okay; we have 14 items.
Cashier:  I said 15 ITEMS OR LESS!
Me:  But ... 14 IS less than 15 ... oh, never mind.

We got into a different line.  I'm now sorry that I didn't complain to the manager.

i WOULD love to unleash Snarky on this cashier.

"Okay, stop me when I get to fifteen then.  ::First item goes on belt:: One... ::Second item goes on belt::  Two... (fast forward)  ...fourteen.  How about that?  I guess we have LESS than FIFTEEN.  Wow, huh?"

I wouldn't (because I'm a scaredy-cat when it comes to confrontation), but this is one time I would gladly let Snarky out of her cage!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #25634 on: February 24, 2014, 01:57:20 PM »
I am going to nominate my cousin for this SS section.  She hosted a baby shower on Saturday for her son's gf.  We all received beautiful imprinted invitations a month ago and RSVP'd to an email account.  There was no registry information listed and the invite stated parents-to-be were not going to find out gender ahead of time.  The shower was billed as a luncheon at a really nice, newly renovated Grange hall not too far from my home.  Great.  Sounds like a pleasant afternoon.
This is cousin's 1st grandchild and to she really outdid herself, to say the least.
Lunch was served immediately upon arrival and it was an impressive spread of sandwiches, meatballs, all manner of veggies, fruit, dips, crackers, chips..you name it, it was there.  There was enough food on the buffet to easily feed an army.
Then the mother to be arrived and was given a tiara and Mom-To-Be sash to wear and cousin plated her lunch and served her.  We then discovered that Mom-to-Be is only about 5 months along.  You really could not tell she was pregnant to be honest, she was wearing a slightly loose fitting top and a long skirt.  Seemed awfully early to have a baby shower to me, most showers I've been to the Mom is much further along - 7-9 months usually but, I figured, maybe they just want to start getting prepared and being this is their first they were just eager and excited or wanted to plan accordingly for what they would need to purchase?
Next came games - 7 in all.  1.) How well do you know Mom  2.)  How well do you know Dad  3.)  Guess circumference of pregnant belly.  4.)  A word scramble  5.)  A Find-A-Word game  6.)  A diaper the stuffed bear "race"  7.)  Bingo 
Then came the "money grab" portion of the afternoon - $1 to buy a raffle ticket.  money to parents and a small door prize to winnner.  $1 to guess gender of baby.  You put your $ in a blue bank or a pink bank.  Winner to be determined later.  $1 to guess baby's date of birth.  Again, winner to be determined later.  The parents would keep the money and the winners were promised a small prize - after the actual birth.  It did not appear too many people were up for these raffles.
Then a basket of blank envelopes were passed around and everyone was asked to - you guessed it - address your own!  An envelope was selected and the winner got a small prize.
Gifts were then opened.  This wasn't too painful, there was only about 20 people in attendance so it moved along pretty smoothly.
3 hours later the cake was cut and those left standing went home - exhausted.   :D
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