I need to nominate a family member. I need to be vague, but, two stories. BG: said family member, I'll call Joan, is active duty military. Joan's SIL, who we will call Mary, works in the medical field at the local military hospital, but as a civilian. Joan's brother, and Mary's DH, is Peter. End BG
First one: Joan needed a routine medical procedure, but one for which anesthesia is given. She asked Mary if she could drive her home afterward. Mary, who is one of the nicest people I know, but sadly a pushover too, told her of course, but please make your appt for the end of the day as she couldn't leave or take Joan home until then. Night before, Joan calls Mary and tells her, hey, my procedure is at noon tomorrow. Mary says, Joan, I told you that won't work for me; you need to try and change it. Next day, around noonish, Mary is being paged to that unit. They wouldn't start Joan's procedure until they confirmed she had a ride home, but nor could they do it then, and simply let her wait unti
Mary was free. So after a bunch of phone calls, and inconvenience to everyone else, Joan was moved to the end of the day, causing the staff to work late, and so on. Joan's reaction? "Oh they just moved me to later on"
Second one: Joan also needed a major surgical procedure. Took 9 hours and she was supposed to go home one day. Since.mary works in the same hospital, she visited Joan every day. Cue crying and carrying on about how she's scared and not ready to go home. Again, Mary goes to work, calling in favors, and so on, trying to get the med service to accept her once she was released by the surgical team. So she does, and al is well, or so Mary thought. Midday, Joan calls her and Peter, saying hey, I'm going home today...in the meantime, huge winter storm is coming. They both have to drop everything, drive her and her multiple bags home, and barely made it before it began to snow.
Needless to say Peter isn't speaking to her, and Mary has vowed never to do anything else for her in that regard. Joan is a user, and never stops to think how her requests or actions will either affect or inconvenience others. It's all about her