This is a story about a former friend, her blanket assumptions, and hosting. She felt that there were no "true" vegetarians, and those who professed to be veg were actually forced into it and were always looking for an excuse to not be vegetarian. She told me this on more than one occasion. "I really know them better than they know themselves."
She volunteered to host a dinner meeting where over half the attendees would be vegetarian. She told them there would be a meat entree, a vegetarian entree, a salad, and rice. Before the event, she restated her beliefs to me. I told her, "I'm not sure what you are planning here, but I don't think it sounds like a good idea. You need to respect people's choices for their lives." She stopped discussing it beyond saying "I want to give them the excuse they really want."
A couple of weeks later, she told me about the gathering. She decided that since "everyone is really looking for an excuse not to be vegetarian", she would give them one. When everyone sat down for dinner, she placed the salad on the table (family style) and had added "lots and lots" of bacon bits. The only dressing contained anchovy. She announced that the vegetarian lasagna "didn't make it" but that she had ordered extra meat. The rice had been prepared with chicken broth. She said she announced all of this because she wanted them to understand what she had done for them.
She said that they stared at their empty plates, looked at each other, looked at the food, looked at her, but wouldn't take any of the food. The meat eaters must have felt bad, because she said they did the same thing as the vegetarians. After a few minutes, and a verification that there was no vegetarian food available, they all got up and left.
She was perplexed. "I gave them what they really wanted, and they just sat there. And then left. How rude!"