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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26085 on: April 01, 2014, 06:40:53 PM »
That reminds me of when my daughter was a baby, and I wanted to use the "family bathroom" at our local mall.  This was a large room with the usual bathroom stuff (toilet and sink) as well as a changing table and a chair for breastfeeding.  As it so happened, I needed all of it.  Trouble was, the room was occupied.  I waited for a good ten minutes for the people inside to be done, but I didn't really mind, because I know how long it takes to deal with babies and small children ...

... except that, when the door opened, one person emerged.  A man, who had no children with him.  I stared at him in disbelief and he gave me an insolent "What are YOU looking at?" expression.

I wouldn't call him a special snowflake. It's still just a bathroom and I think it falls under the same etiquette as a handicapped stall. It's there for when certain people need it, but it isn't rude for anyone else to use it if it's available.

I have always thought of the family/unisex bathroom as one that is available to whoever needs it. 

I am not a parent and I don't have kinds, but I have used the family/unisex bathroom before because it was what was available.

Agree, the family bathroom is a bathroom.  If it's empty and the other bathrooms are full, then it doesn't make any sense to not use it if there are no families waiting in line for it. 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26086 on: April 01, 2014, 07:20:20 PM »
But, like the handicapped stall, it's not too polite to take a long time in there and force the people who *have* to use it, no other options, wait for you.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26087 on: April 01, 2014, 07:48:39 PM »
Doing errands today, we were almost cut off by a motorcyclist, as he tried to turn on a red to get in front of us, as we were progressing straight through a green. Then, at the next light, of *course* he drives the bike between the line of cars waiting at the light, to become first of the line.  He then proceeds to drive through the intersection at what I call a pedestrian green (that moment when the opposing side has just turned red, but you're not green yet).

I know not all motorcyclists are like that, but the ones that are sour pubic opinion.  I personally think they're the adult version of the SS that thinks "I'm a kid on a bike, traffic laws aren't for me!"
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26088 on: April 01, 2014, 08:09:22 PM »
But, like the handicapped stall, it's not too polite to take a long time in there and force the people who *have* to use it, no other options, wait for you.

But, sometimes, people don't have "business" that can be taken care of quickly.  Sometimes when I've got to go, I've GOT to GO, and will take the first available bathroom.  I may be in there for a little bit. It happens.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26089 on: April 01, 2014, 08:19:36 PM »
I was the SS once upon a time...  I was backpacking up in Canada, and to get home again, we flew a teeny sea plane down from our base into Victoria.  I had gotten a kidney/bladder infection while on this trip.  While out in the woods, it wasn't a problem - lots of bushes available to me!   ;)  Flying back down into Seattle, the plane trip was a nightmare for me.  10 seater plane, not even a bucket, which I was PERFECTLY willing to use.  I was in dire straights.  I had hot flashes, cold sweats, and was honestly not sure I wasn't going to wet myself before we landed.  As we pulled up to the building at the airport in Victoria, everybody let me get off first.  I race walked (too full to run) through the terminal to the first toilet I saw - a handicapped toilet.  So sorry, not getting any further at the moment, and in I dived!  A few minutes later, I walked out feeling infinitely better.  My entire group was right there, waiting quietly for me, knowing there wasn't a chance I'd go one inch past that toilet....  I felt really bad for using the handicapped toilet, but oh boy, did I NEED it!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26090 on: April 01, 2014, 08:22:14 PM »
Minmom3, you were not an SS.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26091 on: April 01, 2014, 08:32:10 PM »
Not at all.

My example for the family restrooms. My husband took care of his grandmother, who was nearly paralyzed and in a wheelchair. He frequently took her places in his teens and twenties and having one of the family restrooms was helpful for both of them. Otherwise, he had to go into the women's restroom with her and would get glares and comments.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26092 on: April 01, 2014, 09:21:17 PM »
I've had to use the handicapped stall myself on several occasions, either because I had the littlest pirate with me in his stroller and there was no way I'd leave him outside the stall so he had to come in with me and that was the only one with enough room for us both.

Also often the changing station will be placed in the handicapped stall to offer privacy for the little one and so that others won't have to see the child be changed while waiting in line.  Least I imagine that's the thought behind the placement.

And well this is at our church, and I haven't really seen it elsewhere, but the handicapped stall is the only one with a little stool so a little one can use it when using the toilet.

But I've never had anyone complain and wouldn't think that was SS'y.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26093 on: April 01, 2014, 09:34:27 PM »
I was the SS once upon a time...  I was backpacking up in Canada, and to get home again, we flew a teeny sea plane down from our base into Victoria.  I had gotten a kidney/bladder infection while on this trip.  While out in the woods, it wasn't a problem - lots of bushes available to me!   ;)  Flying back down into Seattle, the plane trip was a nightmare for me.  10 seater plane, not even a bucket, which I was PERFECTLY willing to use.  I was in dire straights.  I had hot flashes, cold sweats, and was honestly not sure I wasn't going to wet myself before we landed.  As we pulled up to the building at the airport in Victoria, everybody let me get off first.  I race walked (too full to run) through the terminal to the first toilet I saw - a handicapped toilet.  So sorry, not getting any further at the moment, and in I dived!  A few minutes later, I walked out feeling infinitely better.  My entire group was right there, waiting quietly for me, knowing there wasn't a chance I'd go one inch past that toilet....  I felt really bad for using the handicapped toilet, but oh boy, did I NEED it!

That's not even close to being a SS: it sounds as though your kidney/bladder infection was bad enough to constitute a temporary disability, and one that specifically meant you really needed that bathroom.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26094 on: April 01, 2014, 09:39:12 PM »
...   That's not even close to being a SS: it sounds as though your kidney/bladder infection was bad enough to constitute a temporary disability, and one that specifically meant you really needed that bathroom.

Exactly!  That was an EMERGENCY! 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26095 on: April 01, 2014, 10:07:18 PM »
Thing is, the family bathroom is supposed to be reserved for parents with small children.  That guy could've used the men's room.

Sorry, but he has just as much right to that room as you do. That room is not restricted merely to those who have children, they simply contain objects helpful for those with children. It's the same with disabled toilets. People without children/disabilities are not forbidden from using them. For all you know (as happened to me this morning) the men's toilet was closed for cleaning or out of order when he arrived and he was directed to use that toilet instead. You don't know his situation so it's not fair to judge him.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26096 on: April 02, 2014, 01:31:08 AM »
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I know not all motorcyclists are like that, but the ones that are sour pubic opinion.
Within 6 months, he won't be riding - or, at least, not like that. He'll either get hurt and quit, be dead, or have a learning experience that will teach him that it's not a bicycle!*

6 months is the "break in" time for a new rider.

*I'm bacon-fed knave-u-ming that he's "moved up" from being a rude cyclist, since he's doing the same stuff. I'm not disrespecting bicyclists in general!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26097 on: April 02, 2014, 05:46:01 AM »
Thing is, the family bathroom is supposed to be reserved for parents with small children.  That guy could've used the men's room.

Sorry, but he has just as much right to that room as you do. That room is not restricted merely to those who have children, they simply contain objects helpful for those with children. It's the same with disabled toilets. People without children/disabilities are not forbidden from using them. For all you know (as happened to me this morning) the men's toilet was closed for cleaning or out of order when he arrived and he was directed to use that toilet instead. You don't know his situation so it's not fair to judge him.

I concur, though like crossing a street when one is able bodied and cars are waiting, it is polite to cross as quickly as possible.  Shalamar said he took a while and as none of us have x ray vision, we have no way of knowing why he took so long (I frankly don't really want to know) it could be he was having some trouble, perhaps not feeling well or he could have been just taking his time for the heck of it. 

The latter would have been rude if that were the case.  But I also tend to feel that if people are waiting on you to finish, it's not polite to dally and make them wait longer than necessary.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26098 on: April 02, 2014, 06:30:22 AM »
I'm hoping the thread doesn't get locked due to the bathroom debate. 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26099 on: April 02, 2014, 06:58:37 AM »
Back to Snowflake stories....

Last week, one of our managers brought in a bag of fresh bagels.  The moment that email was received that we could help ourselves, half the floor was lined up to get their bagel.  Of course, I waited til the line went away and by then all of the bagels had been picked over.  The Snowflakey thing: all of those in my department who got up left only a few people to man the phones and we got a large queue.  Apparently some people did not read the email carefully to have a few at a time to ensure coverage.