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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26265 on: April 10, 2014, 01:26:29 AM »

First day at Army boot camp, our platoon sergeant commented that one of the things he liked about having a female platoon was not having to do "the hygiene lecture". Apparently the male platoons had to be taught quite a lot of things, including how to wash properly and how to clean their clothes. It was so much they were incompetent, more that a lot of them didn't know the fundamentals. 
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« Reply #26266 on: April 10, 2014, 03:43:44 AM »
The above tallies with what I was told about National Servicemen in the 50s. Some didn't know how to wash (had never had a shower and were used to cat lick baths), hadn't regularly worn shoes, had a bed with a blanket, eaten food regularly...... It was the job of their hut mates and the NCOs to teach them the basics.  Not so much SS but definitely a reflection of their socio-economic position.

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« Reply #26267 on: April 10, 2014, 04:11:37 AM »
One thing I noticed about Mr "I won't lower myself to make a sandwich"- his wife is working as well. So she's expected to have a job and keep house too?
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« Reply #26268 on: April 10, 2014, 06:03:35 AM »
One thing I noticed about Mr "I won't lower myself to make a sandwich"- his wife is working as well. So she's expected to have a job and keep house too?

I have a co-worker who has this kind of attitude. He was grumpy for weeks when he realised on moving offices that (shock! Horror!) we are all responsible for washing up our own mugs. i'm not sure how he had managed to get away without until then. He boasts of not knowing how to cook / iron etc. 

I always find it a little odd to find men who can't cook, as my parents always shared the cooking, so while I grew up associating certain tasks with one gender (my dad always mowed the lawn, my mum always did the ironing), cooking wasn't one of them. (and I knew, even then, that my dad *could* iron, and my mum *could* mow lawns, they just chose to split the jobs that way)

My parents have told me that when they married, my dad was actually far better and more experienced at cooking than my mum. His father died when he was 10, and his mother was ill a great deal, so he and his brother both learned to cook and do  other household tasks as she was not well enough to.

My mum, on the other hand, went to a boarding school as she lived in a very rural area, and as a girls grammar school it was determined to train girls for careers, not to be housewives, so they didn't teach home economics or cookery,then when she was at university she lived in catered lodgings to start with, and then shared a flat with two other young women both of whom were engaged and wanted to 'practice' their housewifely skills, so she did very little in the way of cooking. As she said, she could could a Sunday roast for 6, as that was what she normally did /helped with when she was home, but was not so hot at economical meals for 2!

It was one of the things which my parents were determined we should all be able to do, so we all learned to cook when we were children, we were also all expected to help you with other household jobs such as laundry and cleaning, and from the age of about 11 or 12 we were all my brother included) expected to do our own ironing. We were required to iron our school uniforms, the rest of our clothes it was optional - we didn't have to iron them, but no-one else would.

I'm sure we all grumbled at times at being expected to help out, but I'm very glad I was taught to look after myself - I met one or two Special Snowflakes when I was sharing accommodation, inlcuding one girls in my hall of residence in my first year at university who was outraged that I (and the other people sharing the kitchen) would not only not do her washing up for her but were even mean enough to start locking our crockery away out of her reach so she was forced to either wash her own, or reuse it dirty..

She tried to convince me to wash up for her on the basis that I knew how to o it and she didn't. I told her she was welcome to watch and learn, and that as someone who was bright enough to get into university she was undoubtably bright enough to learn how to wash up. I was not her favourite person for a while.

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« Reply #26269 on: April 10, 2014, 06:49:53 AM »
I wonder what will happen if my father outlives my mother.  My mother handles the money matters & bills even though they are in his name but he knows how to gather the tax documents & make the year appointment to the tax place. 

Back to snowflakes:

My mother wanted to watch a certain program on tv Sunday evening.  I live in 1 town, she in another - the same cable company but some of my channel listings are different than hers.  I told her to simply turn to channel y at 7pm.  She spent more time ringing my phone to say I cannot find the program and missed half of it because she did not wait long enough.  Apparently, I should have driven over (but I did not), then turned on the channel and made her wait a minute as the tv guide on the tv did not describe the program to the point that she knew that it was the right thing!

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« Reply #26270 on: April 10, 2014, 07:03:37 AM »
DB is spoiled rotten.  Lived at home all thru college - never lifted a finger to do anything.

After graduating, moved 8 hours away and rented an apartment.

First night there, called Mom.  She spent 1/2 hour long distance teaching him how to boil pasta, and use jarred sauce.  DB has a really high IQ but is a duck.

To this day over 30 years later, he doesn't do any "housework".

That's why DS started learning at a very young age to take care of himself.


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26271 on: April 10, 2014, 07:15:43 AM »
I wonder what will happen if my father outlives my mother.  My mother handles the money matters & bills even though they are in his name but he knows how to gather the tax documents & make the year appointment to the tax place. 


You might be surprised.

My mom usually handled all the money stuff, but after her death, my dad is doing fine. He's even made some decisions in direct opposition to my mom's (signing up for paycheck-deduction savings, stock purchase, and company matching, even though he's in his 80s) that have him w/ extra money.
   She also spent them into bankruptcy,and 1.5 years after her death, he paid cash for a used car. So...

It's really all in the attitude, which makes this relevant on Special Snowflakes.

"Can I learn this? Should I have to learn this?" When the answer is yes, it doesn't matter what the previous experience has been. None of these things are terribly difficult, nor to they require tons of experience or insider knowledge. You just have to -want- to do it, and you have to pay attention.

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« Reply #26272 on: April 10, 2014, 07:44:30 AM »
Years ago I saw a bit of a tv reality program with the pinnacle of the SS kid (think young adult who acts like a bratty 3 y/old) who never had to lift a finger and thought everything was owned to her.
I myself was still a teenager, it made me shudder.
I think the only time a kid is too young to help out is before they can crawl. Of course the 2 y/old won't put away all his toys and vacuum the mess he made, but (at least I hope so) he can gather the blocs and playfully wave a sponge at the smeared jelly he dropped. A few years down the line and he'll think it's natural to tidy up and can clean after himself.
The parent would have to re-do everything and it might take more time at first, but better than a clueless or downward SS at the end of the line.

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« Reply #26273 on: April 10, 2014, 07:48:45 AM »
My dad, when he retired, volunteered for AARP doing tax prep for seniors. He did it in an area where there was a large concentration of people from a certain country, one which  was very man-centric. Where the norm was the man worked, handled the finances and everything else, and the woman took care of the house and kids. He said he had a lot of little old ladies coming in, after their husbands were gone, who had no clue about ANY of their financial stuff. They'd come wiht bags and boxes of "stuff" for their tax returns.

My parents were pretty equal; my mom lived on her own, had a job and company car in the late 1950s, and then drove from NJ to CA with two friends, and lived there, where she met my dad. So she's pretty independent. And now that he's gone, she does just fine. you'll never hear about her getting swindled like many seniors sadly do.

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« Reply #26274 on: April 10, 2014, 07:55:10 AM »


What did these men do for food prior to being married? Did they just go hungry? Call up mom for dinner delivery?

 
Or ate a lot of cereal or sandwiches.   Or pizza.

This was a classic problem with men of my parents' generation. 

These were men who lived at home until they were drafted during WW II and married soon after the
 war. At home, their mother saw to all their needs.  In the Army, the army took care of all their needs.  Once they got married, new wives were schooled by the man's family to take care of all their needs.  It was pathetic. 

My father and many of his friends weren't exactly sure how much money they were bringing home
because the pay envelope went directly into the hands of the women and the men were given a weekly allowance.

When the wives of these men died, they were at a complete loss.  Many of them didn't know what size clothes they wore or how many spoons of sugar they liked in their tea because there was always a woman to do it for them.  Heck, my mother had to teach some of them how to balance a
checkbook and write a check to pay a bill.     

My grandmother was a formidable woman. Divorced my grandfather in the 1950's because they weren't compatible and raised my mom and aunt. She remarried and was widowed, then remarried again. She took care of all the business of her cattle ranches, the paperwork and taxes for her land and oil royalty ownership, paid all the bills.

She passed away and my step GF had no idea how to do any of these things because he was illiterate. He couldn't read or write.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26275 on: April 10, 2014, 08:04:44 AM »
I wonder what will happen if my father outlives my mother.  My mother handles the money matters & bills even though they are in his name but he knows how to gather the tax documents & make the year appointment to the tax place. 

Back to snowflakes:

My mother wanted to watch a certain program on tv Sunday evening.  I live in 1 town, she in another - the same cable company but some of my channel listings are different than hers.  I told her to simply turn to channel y at 7pm.  She spent more time ringing my phone to say I cannot find the program and missed half of it because she did not wait long enough.  Apparently, I should have driven over (but I did not), then turned on the channel and made her wait a minute as the tv guide on the tv did not describe the program to the point that she knew that it was the right thing!

I am still in shock that my father has managed ten since since my mother died. She was sick for a long time so he finally had to learn how to use the microwave and the vacuum. Yet he will try and act helpless if I let him (I don;t). He was famous for calling me at work freaking out that his remote stopped working. He really expected me to leave work to go and fix it (often it would have to be reporgrammed). Or at least stop by after work...you know when I was racing home to make it to daycare in time. I finally wrote down detailed instructions on how to fix the remote. He would still want me to do it. Once he was left high and dry with out a remote (and access to the tv) for days  since I could not stop by he finally learned how to fix it himself.

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« Reply #26276 on: April 10, 2014, 08:07:39 AM »
I keep trying to get my husband on board with learning how to handle finances or at least know what is what.  He finds it easier to just get an allowance and then ask me if we have enough money to get things if he wants something that costs more than he has in cash.  I'm mentally going  ::) because he's going to need to know these things when/if I die before him.

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« Reply #26277 on: April 10, 2014, 08:31:12 AM »
Yet another SS driver who was putting on makeup while driving down the road and swerving 2 feet in either direction while looking in the vanity mirror.

Another SS driver, a young man, combing and putting gel in his hair while driving down the street. He wasn't looking forward, but in the mirror.

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« Reply #26278 on: April 10, 2014, 08:36:35 AM »
I know a guy who was diagnosed at age 9 with diabetes type 1.  He was always babied by his mother and when he once went to Disney with his best friend and no parents when they were in their early 20's, this guy ended up collapsing due to low blood sugar cause he hadn't learned how to manage it despite having it for at least 10 years up to that point.   And from what his friend told us, it wasn't a case of something affecting him differently than he'd expected (my brother's also diabetic and some foods cause his bs to spike more than others)

Well he married and suddenly monitoring his diabetes became wifey's job, not his, but he'd fight her whenever she'd try to look out for him.  ::) He'd give himself the shots but she had to remind him to check his blood sugar and eat good food, not the junk food that sent his bs on a roller coaster ride.

Now they're divorcing and he works about 10 hrs a week so he brings in money but she makes more.  He makes enough to buy himself food but he spends it on junk and toys and copius amounts of alcohol.  She once said that she would just buy food for herself and lock it up to attempt to force some responsibility for his care on him and he told her that if he died of insulin shock she'd be found guilty of murder. 

He's also refusing to sign the papers because he doesn't want to have to be left to learn to take care of himself.  ::)
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« Reply #26279 on: April 10, 2014, 08:46:21 AM »
My dad once commented on his coworkers always complaining about their lunches and how awful they were. One asked my dad why he never complained about his. My dad told them he always makes his lunch himself. It was like the thought never occurred to these guys to make their own.

My mom is kind of no-nonsense, she was a SAH mom, but she and dad shared cooking duties. My mom hated cooking, even though she was good at it. The 3 of us kids were more or less self taught on cooking and laundry. My sister and I were also taught not to nag, if we couldn't get a response to just do it ourselves.

My sister could not get her DH to help her around the house, so after having enough, she took a pile of her DH clean clothes and made a pile in their closet. Needless to say, he was not amused. She  told him, until he starts helping her, that is where his clothes would be. It worked. They've been together 27 years now.

SS driver... On my way to work yesterday morning I get behind a car weaving in the lane, and going way under the speed limit. When I had a chance, I went around, I didn't want to be involved in an accident. Driver was texting.