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MommyPenguin

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26325 on: April 15, 2014, 10:39:40 PM »
My homeschool co-op was off today, so one mom invited us all to her house for brunch instead.  She lives in a townhouse in a long row of townhouses.  At one point, all the kids from the group were outside playing games on her little piece of front lawn and the sidewalk in front of her house.  Most of the kids were kindergarten/early elementary, with a few babies and two preschoolers.

Well, we saw the next door neighbor watching us for a few minutes from her window, with her toddler daughter.  Then she came out onto her front stoop with her daughter, still watching.  Then she brought her daughter (2) over to our group, got her involved a little bit in one of the activities (although she was too young to really understand anything), and then... disappeared inside!  Yes, she basically saw a large group of kids being overseen by several parents, and decided to have a few minutes to herself.

When we all finally went inside, one of the moms had to walk the little girl back to her door so she wouldn't be left outside alone.  Oy.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26326 on: April 16, 2014, 12:11:20 AM »
My homeschool co-op was off today, so one mom invited us all to her house for brunch instead.  She lives in a townhouse in a long row of townhouses.  At one point, all the kids from the group were outside playing games on her little piece of front lawn and the sidewalk in front of her house.  Most of the kids were kindergarten/early elementary, with a few babies and two preschoolers.

Well, we saw the next door neighbor watching us for a few minutes from her window, with her toddler daughter.  Then she came out onto her front stoop with her daughter, still watching.  Then she brought her daughter (2) over to our group, got her involved a little bit in one of the activities (although she was too young to really understand anything), and then... disappeared inside!  Yes, she basically saw a large group of kids being overseen by several parents, and decided to have a few minutes to herself.

When we all finally went inside, one of the moms had to walk the little girl back to her door so she wouldn't be left outside alone.  Oy.

That is incredibly disturbing.    "Hmm there are kids... I have a kid... I'll just leave my kid with theirs".    I wouldn't be leaving my kid anywhere unless I knew somebody was specifically taking responsibility for his wellbeing! 
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26327 on: April 16, 2014, 06:40:35 AM »
Yeah, that is some really odd thinking. I could see if mom needed to pop into the house to grab something and came back out, as I've found myself doing that. "Ooh, need my phone!" or "Oooh, child needs a jacket/hat!" but I'd be saying "Do you mind terribly looking after her for a quick second so I can grab something?"
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26328 on: April 16, 2014, 07:38:23 AM »
Along those lines, there were two groups of Cub Scouts camping. Our group and another group. We were (as leaders) always very big on following all the rules and being good examples to our youth. We were at a campground out in the country, an hour from any sort of civilization. No pay phones, cell towers or fire stations within 15 miles of this campground.

The other group were not so big on following rules, whether major rules (every kid has to have a buddy, fires have to be manageable size) to minor rules (clean up after yourselves). They had a bonfire. They poured lighter fluid and gasoline on their very large bonfire. There were fireballs going into the sky.

The biggest thing they did wrong? Sunday morning, packed their stuff away, left a very messy camp and a 7-year old Cub Scout behind. For an hour and a half. We kept an eye on him and some of our kids spent the waiting time with him so he didn't feel alone.

We did get their information and we did report them to their Council, but who does that?
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26329 on: April 16, 2014, 08:25:51 AM »
I am incredibly sleep deprived this morning and had to re-read MommyPenguin and ladyknight1's posts!!!!!! Who does that and who does not do a head count of the children they brought?!!?!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26330 on: April 16, 2014, 08:33:01 AM »
Also, Cub Scouts camp as families. So the childs' own parents left him behind.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26331 on: April 16, 2014, 10:03:47 AM »
One thing I like as a Scout mom is the Leave No Trace walk at the end- line up and walk through the space you camped, picking up anything your group, or previous groups, may have left. 
It is amazing how a visual, "Yup, looks good," will then reveal, after the Trace walk, a bread bag full of random trash items.  Let alone, "oh, there is my (random item I did not realize I had lost!)"

And you feel good about taking care of things and being responsible.

Maybe I am just weird.  But I like teaching that to kids.  "Look what you can find when you clean up!"

And the fire?  I bet half the kids had not yet earned the right to "do" fire, let alone abuse it like that group did.

And for leaving the kid, NO comment, or I would get in trouble.   >:(
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26332 on: April 16, 2014, 10:13:09 AM »
It was the adults who were pouring gas and squirting lighter fluid on the already very large fire.

Yeah, I have no words.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26333 on: April 16, 2014, 10:13:25 AM »
Wow.  Just...wow...
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26334 on: April 16, 2014, 10:13:39 AM »
Dh J is a Boy Scout leader.  Their troop was camped next to another troop one weekend that did all the above as well as all the adults were drinking alcohol which is a huge no no in scouting.
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MommyPenguin

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26335 on: April 16, 2014, 10:33:25 AM »
Yeah, that is some really odd thinking. I could see if mom needed to pop into the house to grab something and came back out, as I've found myself doing that. "Ooh, need my phone!" or "Oooh, child needs a jacket/hat!" but I'd be saying "Do you mind terribly looking after her for a quick second so I can grab something?"

Yeah, it was pretty odd.  She got her little girl talking to the neighbor's son (he was the youngest kid who wasn't a baby, and he knew her slightly since they were neighbors), then she actually jogged back to her house, the way that mothers will get their children involved in an activity when they're dropping them off somewhere, wave good-bye, then jog to the door.  There were also two women home there, presumably the mother and grandmother (basing this on age), so it wasn't like there was only the one person.

I sort of saw this on the periphery, as my 18-month-old had decided that her main goal in life was to play in the parking lot, or eat mud, and she was going to throw a dramatic tantrum (but silent, as young ones often do) every time I kept her from doing one of those two.  Finally I discovered that, while she didn't want to be held, she'd behave in the Ergo.  I love the Ergo.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26336 on: April 16, 2014, 11:02:58 AM »
^^^  What is "the Ergo" for those of us who are ignorant of such things?   :)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26337 on: April 16, 2014, 11:21:10 AM »
I'm assuming a child carrier. :)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26338 on: April 16, 2014, 11:26:59 AM »
I'm assuming a child carrier. :)

Yep, basically the best carrier known to man.  ;) a lifesaver.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #26339 on: April 16, 2014, 11:31:58 AM »
We close at 9pm. We are suppose to leave at 9pm, but because we were extremely short staffed that night, we were not going to be done with our closing duties till well after 9.

Customer walks in at exactly 9 and asks for a service. I tell her we just closed and wouldn't be able to provide her with that service. she points out that her watch says its two minutes till 9. I tell her my clock says 9 and offer to show it to her. She points out that customers are still being rung up at the registers and that i should be able to take the 5 min to help her with her service. No. She says a few things about speaking to my manager and bad customer service....etc.

My coworker and I didn't get out of work till almost 10 that night. I went back to work at 7am and the same customer came in an hour later. I don't think she expected the same person as the night before. She did write a complaint in though.