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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #27315 on: June 06, 2014, 10:42:00 AM »
So she objects to the guy's stereo scaring her kids, she objects to him talking to her kids (saying stuff like, "It's ok, buddy"), she objects to him having her on video--but she doesn't just walk away.

You know, out of range.

Yeah, I'd want custody of my kids too. They don't need someone showing them that winning an argument is so important that they should prolong an unpleasant interaction. (even if the unpleasantness is all theirs)

If I were her husband, I would have come down there, but only to apologize to the poor fellow.

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« Reply #27316 on: June 06, 2014, 10:42:10 AM »
I noticed that when he mentioned her keeping an eye on her kids, she said, "I know where MY kids are," which sounded (to me) like because he's black he doesn't care about where any of his kids are or how many he has. I may be reading more into that though.

And yeah, you don't use that kind of racist language unless you are very comfortable with it.
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« Reply #27317 on: June 06, 2014, 10:44:30 AM »
I noticed that when he mentioned her keeping an eye on her kids, she said, "I know where MY kids are," which sounded (to me) like because he's black he doesn't care about where any of his kids are or how many he has. I may be reading more into that though.

And yeah, you don't use that kind of racist language unless you are very comfortable with it.

That's how I heard it, too.

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« Reply #27318 on: June 06, 2014, 10:45:55 AM »
I noticed that when he mentioned her keeping an eye on her kids, she said, "I know where MY kids are," which sounded (to me) like because he's black he doesn't care about where any of his kids are or how many he has. I may be reading more into that though.

And yeah, you don't use that kind of racist language unless you are very comfortable with it.

That's how I heard it, too.

Interesting. I heard it as "they're *my* kids, not yours, and you don't need to concern yourself with them."

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« Reply #27319 on: June 06, 2014, 10:48:29 AM »
I noticed that when he mentioned her keeping an eye on her kids, she said, "I know where MY kids are," which sounded (to me) like because he's black he doesn't care about where any of his kids are or how many he has. I may be reading more into that though.

And yeah, you don't use that kind of racist language unless you are very comfortable with it.

That's how I heard it, too.

Interesting. I heard it as "they're *my* kids, not yours, and you don't need to concern yourself with them."

I think if she hadn't been racist already, my mind probably would have gone where yours did.  If she had put the emphasis on "I" instead of "my", again, I probably would have read it your way. 

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« Reply #27320 on: June 06, 2014, 10:56:20 AM »
I noticed that when he mentioned her keeping an eye on her kids, she said, "I know where MY kids are," which sounded (to me) like because he's black he doesn't care about where any of his kids are or how many he has. I may be reading more into that though.

And yeah, you don't use that kind of racist language unless you are very comfortable with it.

That's how I heard it, too.

Interesting. I heard it as "they're *my* kids, not yours, and you don't need to concern yourself with them."

I think if she hadn't been racist already, my mind probably would have gone where yours did.  If she had put the emphasis on "I" instead of "my", again, I probably would have read it your way.

I think the non-racist version would have been "I KNOW where my kids are."  By putting the emphasis on the word 'my' it does make it sound like she's implying the interpretation suggested by *AfleetAlex*.

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« Reply #27321 on: June 06, 2014, 10:59:58 AM »
I can totally see her starting out with a simple "I know where" without any emphasis, and right about the word "know" think, "these are *my* kids, not yours, you're not the boss of them, I am, and what *I* think is what matters," and then emphasizing "my."

We'll never know--what she meant was locked in her head, and I don't think it's fair to assume that you know.

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« Reply #27322 on: June 06, 2014, 11:02:02 AM »
So she objects to the guy's stereo scaring her kids, she objects to him talking to her kids (saying stuff like, "It's ok, buddy"), she objects to him having her on video--but she doesn't just walk away.

You know, out of range.

Yeah, I'd want custody of my kids too. They don't need someone showing them that winning an argument is so important that they should prolong an unpleasant interaction. (even if the unpleasantness is all theirs)

If I were her husband, I would have come down there, but only to apologize to the poor fellow.

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Honestly, this "lady" has serious problems, and she's teaching her kids this lovely attitude as well. How can you call someone a "racist ******* n*****" with perfect sincerity and not a thought as to how that is a completely racist thing to say unless you have lived and breathed that attitude your whole life?

And the whole thing being started by someone starting their car and having music up loud, which is a normal parking lot occurrence! Seriously. If her kid was so scared, why isn't she comforting him? Instead, he's swinging around the posts and sign poles looking like he has not a care in the world while his mother is having an absolute fit. Shows to me that this must happen on a fairly regular basis for the kids to be so blasť about it.

She's doing a fine job of raising a couple of racist special snowflakes... (am I right that one of the kids also called him the n-word???) Apparently, the world must stop when she and her precious babies are walking by...

Honestly, the guy taking the video is a class act. He never raises his voice. It makes me sad how resigned he sounds as he says "this is where I live".

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« Reply #27323 on: June 06, 2014, 11:06:01 AM »
If she's not racist, she would be calling him a jerk or creep or even swear words, not racial slurs. That word just don't rolls off the tongue unless it's already part of your normal everyday vocabulary. I can't even get myself to say it (as a test) alone in my own home.

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« Reply #27324 on: June 06, 2014, 11:15:11 AM »
I was cynically amused by her vehement defense last night on TV that " if you look the word up, it really isn't racial at all - it just means an ignorant person".

Now, I understand that words meanings can change greatly depending on the group using them, but I highly doubt she would have been throwing that word at someone who wasn't an African-American, if the rest of the situation were the same.
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« Reply #27325 on: June 06, 2014, 11:16:06 AM »


And the whole thing being started by someone starting their car and having music up loud, which is a normal parking lot occurrence! Seriously. If her kid was so scared, why isn't she comforting him? Instead, he's swinging around the posts and sign poles looking like he has not a care in the world while his mother is having an absolute fit. Shows to me that this must happen on a fairly regular basis for the kids to be so blasť about it.

Or, that he's trying to cover for being rattled.

I once saw a man in my nabe walking w/ his 4yo (maybe 5yo), and a car must have turned a corner and nearly hit them in the crosswalk (I'm guessing, I didn't see it--I only saw the argument afterward). The man was holding his son's hand and yelling, "You nearly hit my son!" He must have keyed the guy's car, because the driver was looking at the paintwork and yelling at the dad, threatening to call the cops or sue. And the dad was yelling back.
   The poor little boy was standing there, still, holding his daddy's hand, and when the nasty altercation finally ended and the car drove away, the poor child collapsed in sobs.
   I thought, "*You* were the one who scared your son!" If you'd modeled a calm behavior after the near-miss, he would have recovered from any fright pretty soon. Instead, you created this huge altercation that has completely undone him. He's frightened because of the nastiness -you- initiated."

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She's doing a fine job of raising a couple of racist special snowflakes... (am I right that one of the kids also called him the n-word???)

So either he hears this sort of thing a lot, or he was rattled and ended up having to choose to be on his mother's side as a way to cope with it.

At the beginning, the kids don't look too invested in their mother's tirade; they look like they're trying to find ways to occupy themselves while they ignore it.

But yeah, not good for them either way, whether she's unsettled them or whether she's teaching them to be argumentative, belligerent racists.

(That woman is lucky she did that w/ someone who isn't nasty-minded back.)


(Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

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« Reply #27326 on: June 06, 2014, 11:18:07 AM »
Pod.

I have heard cases of Alzheimer's patients spouting words off or acting rudely, but, you cannot say what you do not know.

And, in front of her kids??!?  And they were so casual- seeing mom go off is obviously a normal occurrence.   sad.

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years ago, (2005/6) when a new shopping center nearby was being constructed, the smooth surfaces were too much for some graffiti "artists" to leave alone.  One slung out the F word, in simple lettering.

My DD, around 3rd/4th grade, asked dad at bedtime one night, what that word meant.  She had not heard it/read it before.  He hemmed and hawed, called it "an innapropriate act" and she asked finally him, exasperated, "Dad, do you even KNOW what it means??!?"

This same child, in 7th grade, asked me, "Mom, what is Mary Jew Anna?"  Turns out, she was reading a teen crime fighting book, and the "meddling kids" had found a marijuana production site. 

You cannot say what you do not know.

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« Reply #27327 on: June 06, 2014, 11:22:59 AM »

(That woman is lucky she did that w/ someone who isn't nasty-minded back.)


DH has a cousin who is a nasty, small minded bigot.  Anyone who is not a white Christian male is fair game.  He's also a drunk.  The two can create difficult situations - like wandering into a bar filled with persons of a race that you despise, and spouting those views loudly and profanely.

He was met by a few men in the parking lot.  It did not go well for Cousin.  While violence is not the answer, especially since he was just running his stupid mouth, I have to admit that no one was particularly sorry for him, and he didn't have a lot of visitors in the hospital.

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« Reply #27328 on: June 06, 2014, 11:28:15 AM »

...   (Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

I'm so glad you mentioned that.  Yes, the woman was horrible and rude and obnoxious and disgusting.  But what did he intend to prove by videotaping her?  Why didn't he just apologize briefly to the kids and then leave?  He was in many ways the one who kept this confrontation going!  Why?  What was his motivation in doing that?

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« Reply #27329 on: June 06, 2014, 11:30:34 AM »
I would be willing to believe that if she'd just said, "Hey, that scared my kids!" and left it at that he might have said, "Oh, sorry, kids!" and driven off, but that she was so nasty, and probably used the N word in her very first sentence. Or pretty quickly in a continuing harangue (because she's clearly clinging to that confrontation).