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« Reply #27330 on: June 06, 2014, 11:06:01 AM »
If she's not racist, she would be calling him a jerk or creep or even swear words, not racial slurs. That word just don't rolls off the tongue unless it's already part of your normal everyday vocabulary. I can't even get myself to say it (as a test) alone in my own home.

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« Reply #27331 on: June 06, 2014, 11:15:11 AM »
I was cynically amused by her vehement defense last night on TV that " if you look the word up, it really isn't racial at all - it just means an ignorant person".

Now, I understand that words meanings can change greatly depending on the group using them, but I highly doubt she would have been throwing that word at someone who wasn't an African-American, if the rest of the situation were the same.
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« Reply #27332 on: June 06, 2014, 11:16:06 AM »


And the whole thing being started by someone starting their car and having music up loud, which is a normal parking lot occurrence! Seriously. If her kid was so scared, why isn't she comforting him? Instead, he's swinging around the posts and sign poles looking like he has not a care in the world while his mother is having an absolute fit. Shows to me that this must happen on a fairly regular basis for the kids to be so blasť about it.

Or, that he's trying to cover for being rattled.

I once saw a man in my nabe walking w/ his 4yo (maybe 5yo), and a car must have turned a corner and nearly hit them in the crosswalk (I'm guessing, I didn't see it--I only saw the argument afterward). The man was holding his son's hand and yelling, "You nearly hit my son!" He must have keyed the guy's car, because the driver was looking at the paintwork and yelling at the dad, threatening to call the cops or sue. And the dad was yelling back.
   The poor little boy was standing there, still, holding his daddy's hand, and when the nasty altercation finally ended and the car drove away, the poor child collapsed in sobs.
   I thought, "*You* were the one who scared your son!" If you'd modeled a calm behavior after the near-miss, he would have recovered from any fright pretty soon. Instead, you created this huge altercation that has completely undone him. He's frightened because of the nastiness -you- initiated."

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She's doing a fine job of raising a couple of racist special snowflakes... (am I right that one of the kids also called him the n-word???)

So either he hears this sort of thing a lot, or he was rattled and ended up having to choose to be on his mother's side as a way to cope with it.

At the beginning, the kids don't look too invested in their mother's tirade; they look like they're trying to find ways to occupy themselves while they ignore it.

But yeah, not good for them either way, whether she's unsettled them or whether she's teaching them to be argumentative, belligerent racists.

(That woman is lucky she did that w/ someone who isn't nasty-minded back.)


(Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

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« Reply #27333 on: June 06, 2014, 11:18:07 AM »
Pod.

I have heard cases of Alzheimer's patients spouting words off or acting rudely, but, you cannot say what you do not know.

And, in front of her kids??!?  And they were so casual- seeing mom go off is obviously a normal occurrence.   sad.

funny-

years ago, (2005/6) when a new shopping center nearby was being constructed, the smooth surfaces were too much for some graffiti "artists" to leave alone.  One slung out the F word, in simple lettering.

My DD, around 3rd/4th grade, asked dad at bedtime one night, what that word meant.  She had not heard it/read it before.  He hemmed and hawed, called it "an innapropriate act" and she asked finally him, exasperated, "Dad, do you even KNOW what it means??!?"

This same child, in 7th grade, asked me, "Mom, what is Mary Jew Anna?"  Turns out, she was reading a teen crime fighting book, and the "meddling kids" had found a marijuana production site. 

You cannot say what you do not know.

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those poor kids.  that poor driver.  our poor world. 

 
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« Reply #27334 on: June 06, 2014, 11:22:59 AM »

(That woman is lucky she did that w/ someone who isn't nasty-minded back.)


DH has a cousin who is a nasty, small minded bigot.  Anyone who is not a white Christian male is fair game.  He's also a drunk.  The two can create difficult situations - like wandering into a bar filled with persons of a race that you despise, and spouting those views loudly and profanely.

He was met by a few men in the parking lot.  It did not go well for Cousin.  While violence is not the answer, especially since he was just running his stupid mouth, I have to admit that no one was particularly sorry for him, and he didn't have a lot of visitors in the hospital.

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« Reply #27335 on: June 06, 2014, 11:28:15 AM »

...   (Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

I'm so glad you mentioned that.  Yes, the woman was horrible and rude and obnoxious and disgusting.  But what did he intend to prove by videotaping her?  Why didn't he just apologize briefly to the kids and then leave?  He was in many ways the one who kept this confrontation going!  Why?  What was his motivation in doing that?

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« Reply #27336 on: June 06, 2014, 11:30:34 AM »
I would be willing to believe that if she'd just said, "Hey, that scared my kids!" and left it at that he might have said, "Oh, sorry, kids!" and driven off, but that she was so nasty, and probably used the N word in her very first sentence. Or pretty quickly in a continuing harangue (because she's clearly clinging to that confrontation).

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« Reply #27337 on: June 06, 2014, 11:33:30 AM »

...   (Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

I'm so glad you mentioned that.  Yes, the woman was horrible and rude and obnoxious and disgusting.  But what did he intend to prove by videotaping her?  Why didn't he just apologize briefly to the kids and then leave?  He was in many ways the one who kept this confrontation going!  Why?  What was his motivation in doing that?

 i think its more of a cya move by him, so he can show he is in his car not swearing or being racist to her.
she's just so bankers i wouldn't have put it past her to have tried to get him arrested for something.

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« Reply #27338 on: June 06, 2014, 11:42:56 AM »
I just enjoyed the bit when she tells the kids she's calling their father to come get them and the little boy goes "Yay Daddy!" And starts dancing around.

The rest of it is a couple adults acting stupid. Including the phone operator who had to press the lady to start talking again after she'd apparently disengaged.

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« Reply #27339 on: June 06, 2014, 12:04:53 PM »
I'd like to nominate the several drivers who tried to follow an ambulance through a red light..despite two traffic cops motioning them to stop.

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« Reply #27340 on: June 06, 2014, 12:14:30 PM »
I'd like to nominate the several drivers who tried to follow an ambulance through a red light..despite two traffic cops motioning them to stop.

I'd like to nominate the cop following the ambulance through very heavy rush hour traffic (letting it clear traffic), then shutting off his lights and turning into the doughnut store.

Yea buddy, I saw you. Pity I didn't get your vehicle number. But we all know nothing will happen...

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« Reply #27341 on: June 06, 2014, 12:16:16 PM »
I'd like to nominate the several drivers who tried to follow an ambulance through a red light..despite two traffic cops motioning them to stop.

I'd like to nominate the cop following the ambulance through very heavy rush hour traffic (letting it clear traffic), then shutting off his lights and turning into the doughnut store.

Yea buddy, I saw you. Pity I didn't get your vehicle number. But we all know nothing will happen...

Perhaps there was an emergency at the doughnut shop?   ???

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« Reply #27342 on: June 06, 2014, 12:16:32 PM »

...   (Though I wouldn't argue that the guy is a class act. A class act would have put his car in reverse and back out, then driven away, after saying to the kids (ignoring the mom), "Sorry to scare you, guys! Bye!")

I'm so glad you mentioned that.  Yes, the woman was horrible and rude and obnoxious and disgusting.  But what did he intend to prove by videotaping her?  Why didn't he just apologize briefly to the kids and then leave?  He was in many ways the one who kept this confrontation going!  Why?  What was his motivation in doing that?

to be quite honest I'm going to say it was so she could later call the police after he was gone an accuse him of something he didn't do.

Actually I went and look and she has already changed her story to say that  she got upset because he almost ran over her child. so again  I can understand why  he would want to tape it.  Without the tape it would be her word against his
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« Reply #27343 on: June 06, 2014, 12:19:09 PM »
I'd like to nominate the several drivers who tried to follow an ambulance through a red light..despite two traffic cops motioning them to stop.

I'd like to nominate the cop following the ambulance through very heavy rush hour traffic (letting it clear traffic), then shutting off his lights and turning into the doughnut store.

Yea buddy, I saw you. Pity I didn't get your vehicle number. But we all know nothing will happen...

Perhaps there was an emergency at the doughnut shop?   ???

Today is doughnut day. Free doughnuts! And we all know the insanity free food can bring.

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« Reply #27344 on: June 06, 2014, 01:08:19 PM »
My 6 y.o. granddaughter is a SS!  ;D I usually take her home with me after church (she loves spending alone time with grandma) but she requires a lot of one-on-one attention. I love to do that, like playing pretend, taking a walk, etc; but if I try to direct her to do something solo (like watch cartoons, or color, so grandma can have some alone time for a couple of minutes), she starts to pout.

So I've learned to say, "OK, you don't want to do X, or Y, or Z, then I'll take you home." That usually fixes things! I've learned from being on this site to have a polite spine and "call" people, even loved ones, on their issues. And while I'm certainly willing to cater and spoil a grandchild to a certain degree, if grandma tells you to do something, you need to do it. We'll all get along much better. I've been seeing less pouting since I started doing this.


You are doing her a big favor! (And making the coming years easier for you, too!)

This makes me laugh because my son is getting to that stage where he recognizes his own emotions, (which is good) and thinks that he's the only one in the world having them. (which is bad.) He's going through this bargaining phase where he says, "If you don't let me do/have X, then I'll be really upset or I'll be really mad."

He finds is absolutely dumbfounding when I say, "Well, you'll get over it eventually."