He's an adult. He can't be told the consequences of his actions?
I don't think it would be rude to tell him the consequences of his own behavior. I do think it would be rude to lie to him - especially a lie that is so easily caught out.
It's not rude to fix it so that he suffers the consequences of his behavior (i.e., not stopping by the OP's when he's with her). But to tell him would be rude. Absolutely.
No it wouldn't be rude to lie to him.
Etiquette sanctions lying all the time.
And leaving out the *reason* for her "stopping by to pick up a costume" plans is not lying.
So to include it ever would be rude and unnecessarily hurtful.
"Sorry, you really put her off with the candy thing. I'm just going to come get you after from now on" is a lot better in my mind than an obvious lie.
Perhaps this would be better in a spin off thread though.
Not out of the blue no. So no Lia showing up to his house and deliberately mentioning that she's just come from from Celany's house or is going to Celany's house and he can't come because he was really rude to her the last time. That is rude and uncalled for
However, if Lia simply goes and visit's Eric before or after and doesn't mention it, that's fine. There is no need for him to know he's not welcome, because he never goes to Celany's house without Lia.
If he asks Lia about going to Celany's house and she tells him the reason, that's fine. But not just arbitrarily announcing he's never invited back because Celany doesn't like him and he's rude, etc. That's drama llama behavior.
I absolutely agree with this, but it sounds like Toots was saying it would be rude to tell him under any circumstance.
"Sorry, you really put her off with the candy thing and when you made it clear that you have no interest in visiting if there is no candy
. I'm just going to come get you after from now on"
Believe me, I knew that Eric & I both weren't fond of each other & it was pretty clear that neither of us would just hang out the two of us. However, the way he acted sort of inferred to me that, without candy, he doesn't even want to spend 10-15 minutes in my apartment...for me, that was the icky icing on the rude cake.
Lia doesn't have a problem speaking her mind to people, and she was embarrassed and steamed by how he left, so I wouldn't be surprised if she lit in to him for herself when she met him at the park & told him that she wasn't bringing him back because *she* was upset because of his behavior too. I honestly don't understand why they hang out together. But, not my dog.