Don't know how SS this is or if it's just clueless....my brother and SIL are at it again.
I posted last year about how they didn't get a direct invitation to a cousin's wedding and instead of calling the cousin (who is, herself, a flake) they called ME instead to find out why they weren't invited. I gave them cousin's phone number, her family's phone number and even called cousin's father myself to find out that, yes, they were invited. But because they didn't receive the actual physical invite, their feelings were hurt and they wouldn't attend.
The kicker to that? The bride's uncles and their families didn't receive invites either. None of them made a production number about being hurt, etc, etc,....(One of them said to me "We may get kicked out...we never were actually invited....")
So now, we come to my father who they think should live with me half the year in spite of them complaining when he isn't with THEM so he can run errands for them.....
My father lives with them. My father told all of us he was going to stay with me June through the beginning of September. I asked him every day when he was going to be visiting, had he booked a flight, etc....and he keeps making excuses, then he had one of his famous episodes where what he had was probably indigestion but he thought it was a heart attack, so that meant a stay in the hospital and follow ups with his doctors. I ask every single night when he is flying and every single night he tells me about follow up doctor appointments and "when they are done" and so on....THAT is annoying enough....but....
My SIL, who lives in the same house with him, who sees him a couple of times a day, who has no problem asking him to run errands for her, to bring things to her at her job and so on....emails me to ask why he hasn't left to come up here yet. I hope I wasn't too snowflake-y myself when I wrote back, said everything I said above and finished up with "It's a crazy idea but why don't you ask him?"
I'm planning on moving to where they are by summer of next year so I can "take over Dad"--he's going to live with me, period, and I will take him to and from the hospital if need be and then they can stop moaning about how much it costs to keep him (when he's not there they moan about how much they miss the extra money)...when Dad passes away (which could be years from now), I plan on packing myself up and moving wherever I bloody well please. I love these people, I really do, but their continued PA where other family members are concerned drives me nuts!