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#### MommyPenguin

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« Reply #27945 on: July 15, 2014, 12:08:47 PM »
Speaking of grocery stores, the one that my husband and I patronized back in the day had a large bin set up in the front for donations to a soup kitchen.  (Still does, actually.)  My husband and I were on fairly good terms with the store's manager - until the day that Manager saw us buy some canned food and put it in the bin.  He started railing at us about how people who use soup kitchens are "freeloaders", and people like us were only "encouraging them to be lazy".

We still go to that store, but the manager is long gone.   I wonder if he mouthed off at the wrong person.

Wow, what a jerk!  It's really common in grocery stores anyway.  The Walmart I go to even has little prepared paper bags (stapled shut) that have food to donate, and you buy it and then drop it off in a box on the way out.

The only thing I don't like about donating through stores is that they get to claim that "they" donated whatever (time, money, food) when really their employees and customers did.  But I can see how it's really beneficial for charities anyway, because plenty of people might be willing to buy a $7 bag of food and drop it off on the way out the door than to take food by a church, soup kitchen, or other dropoff point, or try to figure out how to donate. Emily is 8 years old! 1/07 Jenny is 6 years old! 10/08 Charlotte is 5 years old! 8/10 Megan is 3 years old! 10/12 Lydia is 9 months old! 12/14 #### gramma dishes • Member • Posts: 8933 ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #27946 on: July 15, 2014, 01:01:12 PM » ... The only thing I don't like about donating through stores is that they get to claim that "they" donated whatever (time, money, food) when really their employees and customers did. ... Actually if you save the receipt you can certainly claim the donation as a tax deduction. (I'm assuming you're in the U.S.) #### siamesecat2965 • Member • Posts: 10073 ##### Re: Special Snowflake Stories « Reply #27947 on: July 15, 2014, 01:10:30 PM » The only thing I don't like about donating through stores is that they get to claim that "they" donated whatever (time, money, food) when really their employees and customers did. But I can see how it's really beneficial for charities anyway, because plenty of people might be willing to buy a$7 bag of food and drop it off on the way out the door than to take food by a church, soup kitchen, or other dropoff point, or try to figure out how to donate.

I've never really thought about this, but my favorite food drive was one a local group, boy scouts maybe?, held one time. They were at the local grocery store, and if you wanted, gave you a list of what was needed/appreciated as you went in, so if you chose to participate, you could shop off the list, or not, and they also had bins outside the exit, where you could drop your donations. They weren't pushy, and if you said no thanks, no big deal.

And I don't know if planned or not, but what they needed also coincided with what was on sale that week! I took the list, and bought some things and dropped them as I was leaving. The only work on my part was bagging them separately from my own stuff!

#### AngelicGamer

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« Reply #27948 on: July 15, 2014, 02:49:02 PM »
I'm going to nominate the two women who took up the massage chairs at the mall today.  They sat down at the same time I did, no money was put in (you can put in a dollar for 3 minutes and there's a 5 dollar and 10 dollar option), and took up their two chairs plus the two other on the other side of them by block with their kids in strollers.  When I sat down in the chair at the end, the only free one, I was given a glare and then they were talking in super fast Russian.  Well, what to me is super fast Russian and might be normal speed for them.

I get that people have to sit and sometimes it has to be now, but the glare was the icing on the SS cupcake for me.

#### tinkytinky

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« Reply #27949 on: July 15, 2014, 03:03:43 PM »
I'm going to nominate the two women who took up the massage chairs at the mall today.  They sat down at the same time I did, no money was put in (you can put in a dollar for 3 minutes and there's a 5 dollar and 10 dollar option), and took up their two chairs plus the two other on the other side of them by block with their kids in strollers.  When I sat down in the chair at the end, the only free one, I was given a glare and then they were talking in super fast Russian.  Well, what to me is super fast Russian and might be normal speed for them.

I get that people have to sit and sometimes it has to be now, but the glare was the icing on the SS cupcake for me.

I love those chairs! This was interesting to me, because at my local mall, you can't just sit in the chairs without a very loud voice requesting money "Please deposit bills now" every 5 seconds or so. Not very relaxing!

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#### nayberry

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« Reply #27950 on: July 15, 2014, 04:02:47 PM »
I saw a guy on TV yesterday while watching one of those criminal clip shows where they show various people breaking the law in a dumb or a unusual manner. He seemed like a bit of a special snowflake to me. But I wasn't sure.

He got pulled over for doing like fifty five in a thirty five zone. So cop pulls him over. He tells the cop he doesn't have a licence so cop goes to go look it up in the system. Cop then finds out it had expired in 1969!! So the cop goes over and calmly asks the man why he hadn't renewed his licence in thirty three years.

The man's reasoning. He couldn't pass the vision test. So the man was driving legally blind for all that time. Holy cow. I am thinking he was a bit of a special snowflake for endangering people like that. You can not drive if you can't pass the vision test for safety reasons I am guessing. But  maybe the guy really needed his car and figured if he didn't get pull over it wouldn't matter. He did end up getting arrested.

i'm jsut rereading the thread for some entertainment, and saw this one,  i just watched the very same show yesterday

#### AngelicGamer

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« Reply #27951 on: July 15, 2014, 04:16:43 PM »
I'm going to nominate the two women who took up the massage chairs at the mall today.  They sat down at the same time I did, no money was put in (you can put in a dollar for 3 minutes and there's a 5 dollar and 10 dollar option), and took up their two chairs plus the two other on the other side of them by block with their kids in strollers.  When I sat down in the chair at the end, the only free one, I was given a glare and then they were talking in super fast Russian.  Well, what to me is super fast Russian and might be normal speed for them.

I get that people have to sit and sometimes it has to be now, but the glare was the icing on the SS cupcake for me.

I love those chairs! This was interesting to me, because at my local mall, you can't just sit in the chairs without a very loud voice requesting money "Please deposit bills now" every 5 seconds or so. Not very relaxing!

Huh... ours don't.  I doubt the moms would have sat if they did that.  I would be okay with doing that because I get out my money before butt hits the chair.

#### MommyPenguin

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« Reply #27952 on: July 15, 2014, 07:43:03 PM »

The only thing I don't like about donating through stores is that they get to claim that "they" donated whatever (time, money, food) when really their employees and customers did.  But I can see how it's really beneficial for charities anyway, because plenty of people might be willing to buy a \$7 bag of food and drop it off on the way out the door than to take food by a church, soup kitchen, or other dropoff point, or try to figure out how to donate.

I've never really thought about this, but my favorite food drive was one a local group, boy scouts maybe?, held one time. They were at the local grocery store, and if you wanted, gave you a list of what was needed/appreciated as you went in, so if you chose to participate, you could shop off the list, or not, and they also had bins outside the exit, where you could drop your donations. They weren't pushy, and if you said no thanks, no big deal.

And I don't know if planned or not, but what they needed also coincided with what was on sale that week! I took the list, and bought some things and dropped them as I was leaving. The only work on my part was bagging them separately from my own stuff!

My kids just finished a VBS program that was collecting for a food bank.  They had a theme each day, based on the food bank's urgent needs (breakfast, pasta, kid-friendly, etc.) and if the kids brought in 200 a day they got to throw a pie in the face of a pastor, which seemed a popular incentive.  . The total ended up being about 1800 items in the 5 says, not bad!

Gramma dishes, I didn't know that.  How would you show that you'd donated the items?
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#### gramma dishes

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« Reply #27953 on: July 15, 2014, 08:28:13 PM »
...   Gramma dishes, I didn't know that.  How would you show that you'd donated the items?

You itemize.

Keep the applicable receipts.  It should indicate on the receipt which amount was for the charity.  Circle it and either copy them (you can put several on a single sheet of paper) or staple them together.  You are unlikely to be asked for proof, but just in case you are you will have it ready to go.
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#### jedikaiti

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« Reply #27954 on: July 15, 2014, 08:34:46 PM »
I've never seen a store receipt that differentiates between what you buy to place in a collection box at the store, and what you buy to take home. I mean, you can split the transactions, but even then the receipt doesn't say that the items in that order were donated to XYZ Charity.
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#### gramma dishes

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« Reply #27955 on: July 15, 2014, 08:46:29 PM »
I've never seen a store receipt that differentiates between what you buy to place in a collection box at the store, and what you buy to take home. I mean, you can split the transactions, but even then the receipt doesn't say that the items in that order were donated to XYZ Charity.

That's a good point!

I was thinking of something someone said up thread about some stores having prepackaged charity bags that you can purchase and leave at the appropriate place in the store and those would definitely (or should at least) be clearly stated as such on your receipt.

If you are just purchasing items in the "I'll buy a loaf of bread, a bunch of bananas and three cans of fruit for my donation" mode, then I think you can simply separate those things out, get a second receipt for those items and then mark it when you get home as being what you donated to the Hungry Babies of Mycity, USA.  Again, unless the amounts you donate are outrageously overly generous to such an extent that they seem questionable, you are unlikely to be asked for proof but usually the receipts will be accepted as such -- or you can ask someone affiliated with the store to initial the receipt for you that you did actually donate those products to charity.

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« Reply #27956 on: July 15, 2014, 08:48:59 PM »
I've never seen a store receipt that differentiates between what you buy to place in a collection box at the store, and what you buy to take home. I mean, you can split the transactions, but even then the receipt doesn't say that the items in that order were donated to XYZ Charity.

That's a good point!

I was thinking of something someone said up thread about some stores having prepackaged charity bags that you can purchase and leave at the appropriate place in the store and those would definitely (or should at least) be clearly stated as such on your receipt.

If you are just purchasing items in the "I'll buy a loaf of bread, a bunch of bananas and three cans of fruit for my donation" mode, then I think you can simply separate those things out, get a second receipt for those items and then mark it when you get home as being what you donated to the Hungry Babies of Mycity, USA.  Again, unless the amounts you donate are outrageously overly generous to such an extent that they seem questionable, you are unlikely to be asked for proof but usually the receipts will be accepted as such -- or you can ask someone affiliated with the store to initial the receipt for you that you did actually donate those products to charity.

I just highlight the items on my receipt and make a note of the charity, no separate receipt needed.
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#### gramma dishes

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« Reply #27957 on: July 15, 2014, 08:53:43 PM »
I've never seen a store receipt that differentiates between what you buy to place in a collection box at the store, and what you buy to take home. I mean, you can split the transactions, but even then the receipt doesn't say that the items in that order were donated to XYZ Charity.

That's a good point!

I was thinking of something someone said up thread about some stores having prepackaged charity bags that you can purchase and leave at the appropriate place in the store and those would definitely (or should at least) be clearly stated as such on your receipt.

If you are just purchasing items in the "I'll buy a loaf of bread, a bunch of bananas and three cans of fruit for my donation" mode, then I think you can simply separate those things out, get a second receipt for those items and then mark it when you get home as being what you donated to the Hungry Babies of Mycity, USA.  Again, unless the amounts you donate are outrageously overly generous to such an extent that they seem questionable, you are unlikely to be asked for proof but usually the receipts will be accepted as such -- or you can ask someone affiliated with the store to initial the receipt for you that you did actually donate those products to charity.

I just highlight the items on my receipt and make a note of the charity, no separate receipt needed.

That's what we usually do too.  Some charities themselves will give you a receipt at the time you hand over the stuff, but the grocery store type charity tables/bins usually don't seem to be manned.

#### Ceallach

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« Reply #27958 on: July 15, 2014, 10:18:10 PM »
In keeping with a recent theme apparently!  On the news here last night there was a story about how some kids treehouse got pulled down for safety reasons and how terrible that was.   The kid and mother were interviewed.

Except.... it wasn't their land.   They were complaining publicly that the landowners had removed the treehouse, even though the landowners were still happy for them to ride their bikes through the paths.   The landowners were apparently worried about snakes, and also the tree climbing etc.   But even if they weren't - it's their freakin' land!  If the reason was "Because we don't want you to have fun" that still would have been acceptable because it's their land.    It blew my mind that the SSs thought it was reasonable to complain about that or get airtime for it.

I don't want to live in a litigious culture in terms of excessive safety worries, but at the same time people publicly whinging because somebody else won't let them use their land the way they want to is incredibly SS.  Very reminiscent of watching my toddler interact with his buddies actually... they're still learning about possessions and ownership.
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#### kherbert05

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« Reply #27959 on: July 15, 2014, 10:42:25 PM »
In keeping with a recent theme apparently!  On the news here last night there was a story about how some kids treehouse got pulled down for safety reasons and how terrible that was.   The kid and mother were interviewed.

Except.... it wasn't their land.   They were complaining publicly that the landowners had removed the treehouse, even though the landowners were still happy for them to ride their bikes through the paths.   The landowners were apparently worried about snakes, and also the tree climbing etc.   But even if they weren't - it's their freakin' land!  If the reason was "Because we don't want you to have fun" that still would have been acceptable because it's their land.    It blew my mind that the SSs thought it was reasonable to complain about that or get airtime for it.

I don't want to live in a litigious culture in terms of excessive safety worries, but at the same time people publicly whinging because somebody else won't let them use their land the way they want to is incredibly SS.  Very reminiscent of watching my toddler interact with his buddies actually... they're still learning about possessions and ownership.
They have relatives near my family's farm. Called the cops because the man who had a cattle lease on our land told them to stay off the land. That running around someone else's land during hunting season in camo was a bad idea. (Their story was Lewis threatened to shoot them)

One of the Dad kept arguing that we had abandoned the land because no one lived on it. We have owned it since sometime in the lat 50's and except for a couple of months in the early 80's no one has ever lived on it. But the taxes have been paid and it has been a hobby farm, cattle lease, and now a wildlife refuge.

There was some back and forth while the deputies got the whole story. Finally they told the "parents" keep your kids off other people's property. If they are tresspassing  and get shot - they will be the ones facing charges not the landowner. (Note we wouldn't deliberately shoot a simple trespasser -but after the incident with the bank robbers hiding out on our land we tend to be a little wary)

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