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Twik

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12510 on: November 25, 2011, 11:51:31 AM »
nutraxfornerves, I certainly hope that child was taken away to a safe place until the time his father grew some sense (or child reached age of majority, which is likely to happen first).
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12511 on: November 25, 2011, 12:13:21 PM »
POD with twik. That poor kid.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12512 on: November 25, 2011, 12:21:30 PM »
Had a set of parent snowflakes at the movies yesterday.  Went to see Breaking Dawn.  Noticed halfway through the movie that a hispanic couple had brought their two small children, boy looked to be about 6 and the girl 4.  Both children were allowed to climb out of their seats, the boy moved to my row where the dad then sat there and only told him to move back.  Then the little girl ran down their entire aisle as well.  With the entire theatre giving them looks each time we had no more incidents.  There were no ushers in the theatre and going to get one would have cost me 10-15 minutes of the movie as I would have had to walk all the way to the desk since I was in one of the farest theatre they had.

The thing that seem especially snowflakey was when after the movie I came out of the restroom only to find the mother blocking half of the only entrance/exit to the restroom creating a bottleneck just so she could take a picture of her girl against the tile in the entrance way and had to get the picture just so.

Why is the fact that they're Hispanic relevant ? Whether it was your intention or not, pointing out  race in a story generally comes across as "Of course Hispanic people would do that, what can you expect from those people"

*ETA: Was reading an article that explained what to donate and not to donate to food banks (rice, peanut butter, plain cereal, tuna vs ramen, sugar cereal, chips, soda). Some special snowflakes basically complained about "They should take whatever donation I give and like it.  Or maybe I won't donate at all, if they don't like my donations of ramen."  ::)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12513 on: November 25, 2011, 12:53:28 PM »
I'm sorry that my comment on their race was taken that way I only meant to describe them as non natives (I probably should have said that instead) because it seemed really odd to me to take a picture of a child against tile in the bathroom entrance/exit, granted it is unusal because it is three colors of red, black, and white and a unique design only seen in this line of theatres.  I meant no disrespect.

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« Reply #12514 on: November 25, 2011, 12:57:56 PM »
...I only meant to describe them as non natives ...

Just pure curiosity now on my part.  What does non native mean (in this context)?
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12515 on: November 25, 2011, 01:04:19 PM »
Non native as not born in the US or not native to the area.

Ruelz

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« Reply #12516 on: November 25, 2011, 01:06:16 PM »
Non native as not born in the US or not native to the area.

Thanks!  That clears it up!  ;D
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Steve

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12517 on: November 25, 2011, 01:11:22 PM »


Please don't judge us too harshly from this incident.  I am not sure how long ago this was, but I would say this was probably a massive cultural misunderstanding. 

It was a LONG time ago :). Also, you are right I think. I have spent a year in the US after this. Did not drink a drop of alcohol ofcourse, as it is illegal. I understand the laws involved.

The only thing I could not get my head around is: why would they think it was okay for them to berate my mother like that, at a dining table.  That is the only rude item here I think.



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« Reply #12518 on: November 25, 2011, 03:11:24 PM »
At the Children's Hospital.

My nephew was in the ICU on Thanksgiving, following surgery the day before. I was bringing his younger brother and sister to see him. As you approach the ICU, there are several large signs telling you that you can't use your cell phone, or asking you to turn your cell phone off in the ICU. To me, it doesn't matter *why* the hospital has this rule. The rule is there, it is most likely to help in the care of the children in the unit and you have the choice to follow the rule or leave. There are also several signs pointing out areas where cell phone use is allowed--two waiting rooms right outside the ICU, part of the hall, the rec room down the hall, the hospital lobby, etc. Cell reception in the hospital is pretty bad anyway, so the rule doesn't cause a lot of problems for people anyway.

There was a man who insisted on using his cell phone in the middle of the ICU main hallway. The staff at the desk asked him nicely to stop. A nurse told him to stop. A doctor yelled at him. The security guards ordered him to give up his phone. The police officers handcuffed him and led him away. What phone call could be that important? And more important than the kid he was there to visit?

On the other hand, the nice family next door to my nephew brought in a complete turkey dinner and offered to share with my SIL, who stayed in the room while my brother and the ambulatory kids all went to Uncle Ned's house for Thanksgiving dinner. SIL had two Thanksgiving dinners, because we sent my brother back with a plate of her favorites later in the day.
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Twik

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12519 on: November 25, 2011, 04:03:11 PM »
I understand that cellphones and other "wireless" devices can affect some of the equipment, leading to difficulties in the readings.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12520 on: November 25, 2011, 05:19:28 PM »
I don't think I shared this one on here before - probably because I didn't handle it well etiquette-wise. :-[ (Back in college, I did not hold my tongue when people offended me or were rude to me, so I know I was partially at fault for escalating this.)

Once, while attempting to find a place to park at the grocery store, I got stuck for about 5-10 minutes, just waiting for the lady in front of me to move her car or park so I could find a spot of my own. There was a car behind me, no room to pull a U turn, and there was no room to go around the woman. She wanted this spot where a man was unloading a cart full of groceries and his wife was strapping in their kids. (They were definitely not in a rush to leave that spot.)

After a while (5 minutes?) I honked and yelled out my window at the lady to move. She got out of her car, walked up to my window and screamed in my face for being impatient. I was already pretty freaked out that she didn't take the clue-by-four when she heard me honk. I told her that she'd parked in the middle, making it impossible to get around her, so she needed to move.

By the time she walked back to her car to move it barely to the side, the people behind me had all backed themselves out, and I was able to back out and find a different lane / spot to park. She was just getting ready to pull in by the time I made it to the door.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12521 on: November 25, 2011, 06:05:58 PM »
Non native as not born in the US or not native to the area.

 I still don't know why it was relevant. IMO if it's not relevant to know their race/nationality, then it's racism.

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« Reply #12522 on: November 25, 2011, 07:10:13 PM »
Non native as not born in the US or not native to the area.

 I still don't know why it was relevant. IMO if it's not relevant to know their race/nationality, then it's racism.

I think it was relevant that they weren't native only because the mother was taking pictures of her little girl in the very outre bathroom area and so blocking people.  IMHO, I can sort of understand:  it would seem strange for a native born person to be taking pictures in a movie theater bathroom, but if, perhaps, that person lived in a more rural area/country where such things don't exist or are on a much smaller scale, they would be more inclined to take pictures.

On several occasions I have taken pictures of couples and families from all around the world who want their photo taken in front of our massive library, or on the stairwell or in front of a stack of books.  I've obliged foreign families who wanted their pictures taken in front of WalMart or Target.  I can pretty much imagine that lots of Americans get their pictures taken in front of...can't remember the name now...famous upscale department store in London.  We'd never think to have our picture taken in front of Target, but Famous Store Whose Name I Have Forgotten is exotic!

I've even BEEN the foreign customer taking pictures in the bathroom of an otherwise rundown Irish pub.  The pub and the food were in pretty bad shape...but I had never seen such an exquisite bathroom, complete with rose tiling and rolls of toilet paper the size of a car tire.  I was young and easily impressed.

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hollasa

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #12523 on: November 25, 2011, 08:07:31 PM »
I'm sorry that my comment on their race was taken that way I only meant to describe them as non natives (I probably should have said that instead) because it seemed really odd to me to take a picture of a child against tile in the bathroom entrance/exit, granted it is unusal because it is three colors of red, black, and white and a unique design only seen in this line of theatres.  I meant no disrespect.

Seeking clarification, as I'm from Canada, and I'm not sure where the OP is from - when I read non-native, I think non-aboriginal people. I had understand that the phrase hispanic is primarily associated with people from Latin America in the United States. I'm kind of confused over how hispanic = non-native, or even what non-native is meant to mean, I guess.

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« Reply #12524 on: November 25, 2011, 11:45:58 PM »
Funny SS story  :P

A guy came in and told me that he wanted his phone unlocked - I told him we don't do that sort of thing in store, sorry. He tells me customer service said that we do (and I believe him on that point .. customer service loves to lie about what sort of things we can do in store.. a huge peeve of mine.) but once again, I tell him that we do not and never have unlocked phones. He doesn't believe me, so I shout over to coworker "Hey, CW. We don't unlock phones, right?"

He then asks just how to get it unlocked. I tell him he has to call customer service back, and get them to do it as they are the only ones OR he can take his chances and look on Kijiji for unlock codes. Customer service charges $50 to do so, because it's basically hacking the phone in a way.

Now, here's where he gets SSy.

He insists that the phone should be unlocked free of charge, because he's such a loyal customer. CW says "You're taking a phone from us and switching providers. CS won't see that as loyal." He responds "Well, I've been with you for this long, haven't I?" Yes, because you had a contract.  ::) He goes on and on trying to convince us he's a loyal customer, and I'm trying to hold back my laughter  :P He leaves, eventually, but I had a hard time holding back my laughter at his logic.