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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18855 on: January 11, 2013, 02:10:45 PM »
How not to get a date:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57563264-504083/jason-earl-dean-taco-bell-employee-sentenced-to-4-years-in-prison-for-handcuffing-self-to-female-co-worker/

Don't handcuff yourself to someone you're trying to ask out on a date.

Ugh. This seems like one of those "romantic gestures" that wins over the girl in the movies, but is creepy and even criminal in real life.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought that. My first thought was "I  wonder if he got that idea from a movie?" Not that that excuses his behaviour, the poor girl must have been terrified.

I also think it's whack that he article says that he handcuffed HIMSELF to HER.  That wording insinuates that he is voluntarily putting himself in captivity. Kind of like - "See I'm helpless with love for her!"

Why does the headline not say, "Man handcuffs co-worker who wanted to get away from him."?  That is much more accurate.  He obviously was not really restrained because he fled when the police were called.

I hate it when someone does something that is manipulative and sort of kidnappy and it gets re-told as if the person is just intense and persevering.  And I don't want this to get political, but I hate it when the same newscasters wonder aloud why violence is accepted on our society.  Um, you just kind of accepted it!


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18856 on: January 11, 2013, 03:11:51 PM »
How not to get a date:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57563264-504083/jason-earl-dean-taco-bell-employee-sentenced-to-4-years-in-prison-for-handcuffing-self-to-female-co-worker/

Don't handcuff yourself to someone you're trying to ask out on a date.

Ugh. This seems like one of those "romantic gestures" that wins over the girl in the movies, but is creepy and even criminal in real life.

One of the comments for the article is saying that it could have been a cute "how we met" story! Yeah! It's totally adorable when a creeper approaches you in a dark parking lot and handcuffs himself to you!  ::)

A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18857 on: January 11, 2013, 03:14:52 PM »
A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

Awwwww.  :)  This goes to my patented "Dozen Roses" analogy.  It is the relationship between the people and not the act that matters.  Getting a dozen roses from someone I like, regardless of how long I've known them?  Awesome!  Getting a dozen roses from someone I am not interested in, regardless of how awesome that person is and how well I know him?  Feelings range from creeped out to stressed out.  It's not the giving of a dozen roses that is the determining factor, it's whether I wanted roses from that person.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18858 on: January 11, 2013, 03:44:46 PM »
A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

Awwwww.  :)  This goes to my patented "Dozen Roses" analogy.  It is the relationship between the people and not the act that matters.  Getting a dozen roses from someone I like, regardless of how long I've known them?  Awesome!  Getting a dozen roses from someone I am not interested in, regardless of how awesome that person is and how well I know him?  Feelings range from creeped out to stressed out.  It's not the giving of a dozen roses that is the determining factor, it's whether I wanted roses from that person.

It's funny how you make one tiny change (say, rabid weasels instead of roses), and an analogy just falls apart.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18859 on: January 11, 2013, 03:55:42 PM »
A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

Awwwww.  :)  This goes to my patented "Dozen Roses" analogy.  It is the relationship between the people and not the act that matters.  Getting a dozen roses from someone I like, regardless of how long I've known them?  Awesome!  Getting a dozen roses from someone I am not interested in, regardless of how awesome that person is and how well I know him?  Feelings range from creeped out to stressed out.  It's not the giving of a dozen roses that is the determining factor, it's whether I wanted roses from that person.

It's funny how you make one tiny change (say, rabid weasels instead of roses), and an analogy just falls apart.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18860 on: January 11, 2013, 04:13:18 PM »
A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

Awwwww.  :)  This goes to my patented "Dozen Roses" analogy.  It is the relationship between the people and not the act that matters.  Getting a dozen roses from someone I like, regardless of how long I've known them?  Awesome!  Getting a dozen roses from someone I am not interested in, regardless of how awesome that person is and how well I know him?  Feelings range from creeped out to stressed out.  It's not the giving of a dozen roses that is the determining factor, it's whether I wanted roses from that person.

It's funny how you make one tiny change (say, rabid weasels instead of roses), and an analogy just falls apart.

I would certainly pay more attention to the rabid-weasel giver.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18861 on: January 11, 2013, 05:13:25 PM »
Yes, as you are chasing the rabid weasels out of your house!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18862 on: January 11, 2013, 05:55:11 PM »
A bit over a hundred years ago (after 1865 but I'm not sure of exactly which decade, other than before 1899) - Great-Great Grandpa left the East Coast for Texas.  He met a young lady - saw her breaking a horse, apparently - and admired her spirit (and probably at least her ankles - depending on how much of her limbs got flashed while she was being tossed around by the horse).

She had two suitors - both took her out riding with a mare they'd broken to saddle to "suit her" (apparently which horse she accepted would tell the world, and her beaus which young man she was going to be marrying).  One mare had a bright eye and a lively disposition - but was quite calm with a lady in the saddle - kind of "flirted" with her rider and Great-Great(Great?) Grandma was sure that the mare was enjoying being ridden to all the interesting places around town as much as she was enjoying riding her.

The other mare had been "broken" to the saddle and had her spirit broken as well.  That suitor was told that she was sure that she didn't think that they were suited for marriage to each other. 

I understand that they have a very good relationship until one of them died in their seventies back before I was born.  I seem to remember that she was one of the women in the family with the same first name as my own - but being as it is a Biblical name that was popular for two thousand years or so....there are probably a lot of women in the family tree with the same name.  (It was NOT Mary, though.)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18863 on: January 11, 2013, 11:31:50 PM »
How not to get a date:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57563264-504083/jason-earl-dean-taco-bell-employee-sentenced-to-4-years-in-prison-for-handcuffing-self-to-female-co-worker/

Don't handcuff yourself to someone you're trying to ask out on a date.

Ugh. This seems like one of those "romantic gestures" that wins over the girl in the movies, but is creepy and even criminal in real life.

One of the comments for the article is saying that it could have been a cute "how we met" story! Yeah! It's totally adorable when a creeper approaches you in a dark parking lot and handcuffs himself to you!  ::)

I really shouldn't read the comments- being ragey after midnight isn't good for my nerves.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18864 on: January 11, 2013, 11:48:19 PM »
There's a disturbing Hallmark Christmas movie in which a young woman handcuffs herself to a guy to force him into pretending to be her boyfriend over the holidays.  I think it's called "Holiday in Handcuffs" or simlar. 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18865 on: January 12, 2013, 12:10:02 AM »
About asking for a supervisor. There are times when that is what you need.


1. 4th time I called Dell about a problem I kept getting "accidently" disconnected. My warranty was literally 1 day from running out. Of course the supervisor said she couldn't understand me because my accent was to strong. Uhmm? I live less than 3 hours from Dell's home - and I have a fairly neutral accent.


2. When I first move back to Houston and had my cable/internet put in. The installers tried to remove my TIVO because it was "illegal" to digitally record cable. They also didn't know how to set the wifi up. Said I should just use ethernet for my laptop. After they turned on the connection to the apartment - I put everything together.


3. WHen I moved and had cable and internet moved to my new house. I was physically backed into a corner while the installer "offered" to install additional connections in the other rooms if I paid him - I am 1 person how many TV's would I need. Then he threatened to report me for stealing internet. The previous owners had had the same company's internet -but used Dish for TV. So it was possible for the company to just switch the internet to my account and it was on. He had come put in the connections for the TV. I actually was on the phone with Sis - and told her that if the connection went dead to call the cops - that got him to leave.


3. I had a series of power surges due to a storm (Transformer blew up in neighbor's yard too). Fried the surge protector and the modem. I wanted authorization to just bring in the modem and have it switched out. Lady was insisting i had to  have service call. Explained I had been threatened 2x by their service people and didn't want them in my house. Supervisor let me take the modem in - still was confused why I wanted to take it to there storefront in Fort Bend rather than one in Harris county. I explained 5 times I work in Fort Bend and that store front was on my way home. The one near my house is a hassle to get to due to traffic construction at the time.


Why don't I go with another company - none with similar speeds or caps and I burn up bandwidth.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18866 on: January 12, 2013, 06:41:13 PM »
How not to get a date:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57563264-504083/jason-earl-dean-taco-bell-employee-sentenced-to-4-years-in-prison-for-handcuffing-self-to-female-co-worker/

Don't handcuff yourself to someone you're trying to ask out on a date.

Ugh. This seems like one of those "romantic gestures" that wins over the girl in the movies, but is creepy and even criminal in real life.

Exactly. There was a case not so long ago where a guy decided to sail his yacht across from somewhere in Europe (France maybe?) to find a girl who had served him a meal in a restaurant one time because he had decided she was 'The One'

He sent messages on Facebook telling her that he was coming, she told him not to come, her family told him not to come, they told him she was happily engaged to someone else... he came anyway. Unfortunately (or fortunately for her) he didn't get the correct visa to enter the UK and he was turned back at the border.

I'm sure in his mind it was a grand romantic gesture, but in reality it was more than a little weird, especially that he kept ignoring the constant 'No' he was getting from this woman and everyone associated with her.


Onward.

Last weekend my boyfriend and I went with some friends to a Tapas restaurant. We quite like these kinds of places as we like to try small helpings of the various different foods on offer so I went to the bar and we ordered four or five small dishes to share.

The waiter came around with our food and set it on the table after asking 'who ordered the...' and naming the dishes we ordered. We identified ourselves and he placed the food on the middle of he table in front of us. We took our soft shell crab burritos (delicious) however before we can reach over and take the other dishes, SSGrabbyhands goes ahead and helps himself to one of the two cheese and corn croquettes sitting in the middle of the table and bites into it. J and I looked at each other going 'did that just happen?' and I politely (through gritted teeth) said to the SS "Did you order the croquettes too? They look delicious." 

SS chews for a few moments and then goes to the bar and looks at the menu, when he returns he is highly apologetic, he did not order the croquettes, and he has ordered us a replacement dish. He then ruins his gesture of apology by leaning over and grabbing a handful of our handcut french fries, shoving them in his mouth and offering the bowl down the table. Left with the burritos and some moroccan lamb pastries (also delicious!) J and I eat while SSgrabbyhands hoes into our chips.

Lo and behold the waiter appears again, with SSGrabbyhands goat bistecca and another bowl of chips which had been ordered especially with aioli. J and I appropriate the chips to replace the ones SSgrabbyhands is now finishing and he immediately tries to snatch the aioli because 'he ordered it'. Graciously we place it in the middle of the table to be shared. He also takes one bite of his correct meal and decides he doesn't like it (I could have told him, if asked, that goat meat has a very strong gamey flavour, which is not to everyone's liking), leaving it to cool in the middle of the table and telling the waiter when he came back that there was nothing wrong with it, he just didn't like it. Immediately SSgrabbyhands friend (SSHungryboy) grabs it and scarfs it down, following it up with our second (now cold) croquette, of course he didn't ask if he might have it, just grabbed it off the plate and stuffed it into his mouth.

The waiter finally brings our replacement croquettes (delicious, and worth the wait) but we had to go to the bar and request plates and napkins as ours had been taken away when we finished the handcut chips and not replaced.

So the restaurant gets the big thumbs up, but SSGrabbyhands and SSHungryboy (who was talking over the top of people and butting into conversations when he wasn't stuffing his face) get the thumbs down for boorish SS behavior.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18867 on: January 12, 2013, 06:49:08 PM »
How not to get a date:

http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-57563264-504083/jason-earl-dean-taco-bell-employee-sentenced-to-4-years-in-prison-for-handcuffing-self-to-female-co-worker/

Don't handcuff yourself to someone you're trying to ask out on a date.

Ugh. This seems like one of those "romantic gestures" that wins over the girl in the movies, but is creepy and even criminal in real life.

Exactly. There was a case not so long ago where a guy decided to sail his yacht across from somewhere in Europe (France maybe?) to find a girl who had served him a meal in a restaurant one time because he had decided she was 'The One'

He sent messages on Facebook telling her that he was coming, she told him not to come, her family told him not to come, they told him she was happily engaged to someone else... he came anyway. Unfortunately (or fortunately for her) he didn't get the correct visa to enter the UK and he was turned back at the border.

I'm sure in his mind it was a grand romantic gesture, but in reality it was more than a little weird, especially that he kept ignoring the constant 'No' he was getting from this woman and everyone associated with her.

Yikes! That poor girl.

Well, at least she knows she made the right choice to avoid him. Someone who ignores your no is not a good prospect in my book.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18868 on: January 12, 2013, 10:33:28 PM »
A touch off topic but my Dad could have been considered an SS if he was doing these things to anyone other than my Mom.

My parents entire time dating would be perfect for a "how we met" rom-com.

- October: Met at a bar. Mom and her friends were being harnessed by some guys and my Dad chased them off by quoting Monty Python insults at them. Dad breaks up with girlfriend of 4 years to pursue Mom.
- December: Mom works nights and takes classes, a very busy woman. Doesn't have time to decorate for Christmas. Dad is astounded. Breaks into her home (after not even 3 months of knowing her) and decorates her place for Christmas. Telling the story 20+ years later, Mom refers to this action as "sweet". I am slightly terrified a man she barely knew broke into her home and she didn't bat an eye.
- April-June: Dad basically begs Mom to marry him for literally months. Mom finally caves and plans the wedding in 30 days.

They're still together 28 years later.

Awwwww.  :)  This goes to my patented "Dozen Roses" analogy.  It is the relationship between the people and not the act that matters.  Getting a dozen roses from someone I like, regardless of how long I've known them?  Awesome!  Getting a dozen roses from someone I am not interested in, regardless of how awesome that person is and how well I know him?  Feelings range from creeped out to stressed out.  It's not the giving of a dozen roses that is the determining factor, it's whether I wanted roses from that person.

It's funny how you make one tiny change (say, rabid weasels instead of roses), and an analogy just falls apart.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18869 on: January 12, 2013, 10:39:19 PM »
There was a woman in the "7 Items or Less" lane today at Wegman's who had at least 20 items. At this store there are regular lanes, "15 Items or Less" lanes, and "7 Items or Less" lanes. She was directly in front of me but I bit my tongue and didn't say anything, even when she started scolding the cashier for being too slow. By the time I actually got to check out I had all sorts of lines I wanted to say, commenting on the fact that she had heaps of groceries in an express lane, but I didn't. The two men behind me, who had one item, were grumbling about the woman ahead but didn't say anything either-and it's not like anything we said could have done any good . ::)