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weeblewobble

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18975 on: January 16, 2013, 07:09:22 AM »
Re: the kids in the gym issue

I've been a member of my gym for almost ten years.  They have an absolutely WONDERFUL childcare program there, with a separate room for 7-12 year old kids (with a climbing wall, giant video display for wii games, mini-library and afterschool homework helpers). My kids BEG me to go work out so they can go play in the childcare room.

Yet every January means a sudden blooming of neon yellow signs all around the gym, reminding members that children under 16 are not allowed past the reception area/juice bar into any of the weight rooms, cardio areas or classrooms. Under no circumstances.  No even a little bit. No. No. No. 

Because every January, SS parents make resolutions to lose weight, and apparently, the only way they can do that is if their kids are within five feet of them.  So every January, there is a period where these parents try to completely ignore the policies and get their way.

The poor staff has to corral these kids out of the free weight area, where they could get seriously hurt.  They have to be chased off of the cardio equipment, which could be just as dangerous.  And some of the parents try to sneak them into the exercise classes, insisting that they'll just sit in the back of the room and won't bother anyone.  Yes, because nothing says, "yoga relaxation" like an eight year old chattering, "Mom?  Mooom?  I'm bored and this music is stupid, when are we going to goooooo?"

In some of these cases, I suspect that the parents are trying to get free membership benefits for the kids. A few days ago, an 10-11 year old girl pitched a loud screaming fit because she was asked to get off of an elliptical machine. The minimum age for membership is 16.   The mom insisted that the girl wasn't hurting anybody and we (meaning the members exercising around her) didn't care if she was there.  But we did, because the gym was very busy and more than one person had walked into the cardio area only to turn around when they couldn't find a free machine.  If your child is underage and not a member, it is extremely unfair for her to take up equipment, preventing someone else who is a paying member from legitimately using it.

Typical excuses for not putting their children in the childcare room include:

"But he has to go to the bathroom!" (meaning walk through the weight area to the ladies locker room)
There are bathroom facilities (that do not include grown women changing their clothes) in the childcare center.  And generally, these kids use the bathroom and then run through the weight room, right into the nearby indoor basketball court to try to get the adults playing pick-up games to let them play, too.

"There's nothing for the kids to do in there!"
See the above description of pre-teen paradise.  The kids room is just as well-stocked with indoor playground equipment, a mini-library, and art supplies.

"I never put MY children in the care of strangers."
OK then, leave them in the care of someone you trust, but don't bring them here.

These people  READ and SIGNED the childcare policies when they joined the gym.  And yet, every year this happens, and every year, these people try to quit the gym and get their membership fee back because they can't get their way.  It usually calms down by March or so.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18976 on: January 16, 2013, 09:28:26 AM »
Greencat - your thiscarisabus story reminded me of an incident when I was a student. (not snowflakey, I don't think)   A group I was a member of had hired a minibus from the university, and travelled to another city for a competition related to our hobby. WE weren't familiar with the city and, in trying to get to the hall we were supposed to be staying at, accidentally ended up in a bus lane with no immediate way out. As a chorus of back-seat drivers pointed this out to our friend who was driving, she immediately replied "In that case - Quick, everybody - think big and green!" (The local buses were green)

It must have worked. We didn't get stopped. (and we didn't stop and ask direction until we could do so OUT of the bus lane, so we didn't hold anyone up)

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« Reply #18977 on: January 16, 2013, 10:35:20 AM »
A plethera of excellent stories lately.  I almost wish I had something to share (but glad that I don't).
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18978 on: January 16, 2013, 10:56:29 AM »
How Special Snowflakes are born:

I'm sitting in the minor procedures waiting room at a major children's hospital.  I had to drive my mother and sister here for a minor plastic surgery procedure.  I've been in the waiting room for 2.5 hours. We should be done.  We're not.  Why are we not done?  Well, my mother is raising my sister to be an SS.

I get that the child is scared, but the hospital has rules and procedures.  I might not agree with those rules, but they have them, and as much as they might stink, we have to follow them. I've been in this position 1000 times at least with my boys. So, the problem is that my mother is not allowed to follow my sister back to the procedure room.  Lil sis is refusing to go without her.  If she were my kid, I would calmly tell her that I loved her and that I understood that it was scary, but these are the rules and she simply had no choice.  This is not what my mother is doing.  My mother is wasting time trying to convince the hospital staff to make an exception, holding up not just me, but everybody else who's waiting for procedures.

Oh, and I have Thing 2 and Thing 1 with me (my 10 year old son and my 10 year old brother), as I had to drive my mother and had nobody to watch them.  My 13yo is with my father, but he's doing some repair work that involves tools like blowtorches and wasn't comfortable having the littler kids with him.  Kids are homeschooled, so there's no school to send them to.
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« Reply #18979 on: January 16, 2013, 11:14:30 AM »
Foodie SS Version 3.0:

In my pre-library days, I worked in an office with Betsy.  Betsy was originally from another country and justified everything she did or said with "Well, that's how it IS in my country.  Americans are just so uptight."  This applied to everything from her suddenly throwing her arms about you and resting her head on your shoulder while you took a walk to grabbing hold of a buxom coworker's bllouse, pulling the top open and announcing "I am curious about what you HAVE down there."

Our office ate out quite often as a group and it got to where no matter what Betsy ordered, we ordered the same thing whether we liked it or not.  It was the only way to assure ourselves of getting most of our meal. 

Betsy would usually wait until everyone else ordered, order something she liked and no one else could stand and then gobble up her meal and spend the rest of the dinner wandering about the table trying to pick food off of others' plates.  We got to the point we were all hunched over our plates trying to protect our pathetic little spaghetti dinners or burgers because Betsy had absolutely no compunction about picking up your burger and taking a bite. 

We were all thrilled when she got a job across the country.  I wonder how they feel about her wherever she's eating/walking/feeling people up these days.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18980 on: January 16, 2013, 11:35:30 AM »
How Special Snowflakes are born:

I'm sitting in the minor procedures waiting room at a major children's hospital.  I had to drive my mother and sister here for a minor plastic surgery procedure.  I've been in the waiting room for 2.5 hours. We should be done.  We're not.  Why are we not done?  Well, my mother is raising my sister to be an SS.

I get that the child is scared, but the hospital has rules and procedures.  I might not agree with those rules, but they have them, and as much as they might stink, we have to follow them. I've been in this position 1000 times at least with my boys. So, the problem is that my mother is not allowed to follow my sister back to the procedure room.  Lil sis is refusing to go without her.  If she were my kid, I would calmly tell her that I loved her and that I understood that it was scary, but these are the rules and she simply had no choice.  This is not what my mother is doing.  My mother is wasting time trying to convince the hospital staff to make an exception, holding up not just me, but everybody else who's waiting for procedures.

Oh, and I have Thing 2 and Thing 1 with me (my 10 year old son and my 10 year old brother), as I had to drive my mother and had nobody to watch them.  My 13yo is with my father, but he's doing some repair work that involves tools like blowtorches and wasn't comfortable having the littler kids with him.  Kids are homeschooled, so there's no school to send them to.

Hasn't the medical staff told her by now that her appointment time is over, so she should leave?  I would think at this time, they would be done with dealing with her.  Sorry you're in that position.

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« Reply #18981 on: January 16, 2013, 11:46:35 AM »
Yarnie, I'm assuming that all attempts to tell her that this behavior was inappropriate went right in one ear and out the other?

re: the surgical procedure  for the young sister  - how old is this kid?  A friend's daughter, who's barely 3, was able to have surgery for sleep apnea.  Mom was not allowed in the actual room, but was with her in the "pre op" room.  When I had my surgeries, (over the age of 18) my mother was allowed into the pre-op room (although I wonder if that was because I'm deaf and they wanted to be sure they had a translator until the 'real' one arrived) and then left as I headed into the surgery itself.  Are they not allowing her into the pre-op room, or did they do that and she's insisting that Mom go into the ACTUAL surgery room??  This is the one for the cosmetic work relating to falling and hitting her forehead, right?   

And honestly, yes, the hospital should simply say "You can't follow the rules, you've overrun your time, you need to leave and reschedule."

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18982 on: January 16, 2013, 11:59:35 AM »
The child just turned 11 and yes she was having a minor cosmetic procedure. My own kids have been in surgery for non trivial procedures dozens of times and I have never allowed them to hold up a procedure room like that, even when they were much younger. Heck, my mother would have never tolerated that behavior when I was growing up do I am even more flustered than I would be normally.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18983 on: January 16, 2013, 12:04:13 PM »
Foodie SS Version 3.0:

In my pre-library days, I worked in an office with Betsy.  Betsy was originally from another country and justified everything she did or said with "Well, that's how it IS in my country.  Americans are just so uptight."  This applied to everything from her suddenly throwing her arms about you and resting her head on your shoulder while you took a walk to grabbing hold of a buxom coworker's bllouse, pulling the top open and announcing "I am curious about what you HAVE down there."

Our office ate out quite often as a group and it got to where no matter what Betsy ordered, we ordered the same thing whether we liked it or not.  It was the only way to assure ourselves of getting most of our meal. 

Betsy would usually wait until everyone else ordered, order something she liked and no one else could stand and then gobble up her meal and spend the rest of the dinner wandering about the table trying to pick food off of others' plates.  We got to the point we were all hunched over our plates trying to protect our pathetic little spaghetti dinners or burgers because Betsy had absolutely no compunction about picking up your burger and taking a bite. 

We were all thrilled when she got a job across the country.  I wonder how they feel about her wherever she's eating/walking/feeling people up these days.

 :o Okay, for the blouse thing, that's sexual harassment even though it's another woman.  As for the food theft (yes, theft), the first time I might be too stunned to do anything, but she would eventually be told off but good.  "Well, this isn't your country.  This is America, uptight or not.  Please don't touch me/take food off my plate."  Maybe not the best way to handle the situation, but I'm territorial about my personal space, and this includes what is on my plate.  On a side note, I wonder how she would have responded to someone doing the same things to her?  Hmm...

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18984 on: January 16, 2013, 12:23:26 PM »
I remember a SS incident that happened while I was in college.  I was visiting a friend of mine who worked for a neighboring city's fire department (he was giving me a tour of the department) when a call came in.

I immediately got out of the truck and jogged over to the public lobby of the building (so I would be out of my friend's way as he was getting the truck ready to pull out).

SS was in the lobby arguing a ticket he received for watering on the wrong day during a summer drought, but his car was parked on the apron in front of the fire station, blocking the exit door for the engine, which would be the first vehicle to pull out of the station.

My friend came into the lobby and told the guy to move his vehicle "now."  The guy refused.  Friend said that they needed to get the truck to an emergency and SS needs to move the vehicle "now, or we'll move it for you."  SS told him to "F off."

In the end, the guy received a ticket for being illegally parked, charged with a felony for willfully obstructing an emergency vehicle, his car was totalled when my friend pushed it out of the way with the fire truck, he was billed tens of thousands of dollars to replace the damaged chrome bumper on the fire truck, and his insurance company refused to cover any of the repairs to either vehicle since the damage occurred while he was committing a felony.

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« Reply #18985 on: January 16, 2013, 12:29:38 PM »
I remember a SS incident that happened while I was in college.  I was visiting a friend of mine who worked for a neighboring city's fire department (he was giving me a tour of the department) when a call came in.

I immediately got out of the truck and jogged over to the public lobby of the building (so I would be out of my friend's way as he was getting the truck ready to pull out).

SS was in the lobby arguing a ticket he received for watering on the wrong day during a summer drought, but his car was parked on the apron in front of the fire station, blocking the exit door for the engine, which would be the first vehicle to pull out of the station.

My friend came into the lobby and told the guy to move his vehicle "now."  The guy refused.  Friend said that they needed to get the truck to an emergency and SS needs to move the vehicle "now, or we'll move it for you."  SS told him to "F off."

In the end, the guy received a ticket for being illegally parked, charged with a felony for willfully obstructing an emergency vehicle, his car was totalled when my friend pushed it out of the way with the fire truck, he was billed tens of thousands of dollars to replace the damaged chrome bumper on the fire truck, and his insurance company refused to cover any of the repairs to either vehicle since the damage occurred while he was committing a felony.

My BIL is a fireman and he once drove a fire truck, as he said, "through" a car that the owner refused to move. Best part was that the owner was a brother of another fireman and he had come to the firehouse to visit with the brother and parked right in front of the large, transparent doors for the fire truck. So not only did he end up with a totaled car and all of the other consequences, his brother also never talked to him again.

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« Reply #18986 on: January 16, 2013, 12:33:25 PM »
I remember a SS incident that happened while I was in college.  I was visiting a friend of mine who worked for a neighboring city's fire department (he was giving me a tour of the department) when a call came in.

I immediately got out of the truck and jogged over to the public lobby of the building (so I would be out of my friend's way as he was getting the truck ready to pull out).

SS was in the lobby arguing a ticket he received for watering on the wrong day during a summer drought, but his car was parked on the apron in front of the fire station, blocking the exit door for the engine, which would be the first vehicle to pull out of the station.

My friend came into the lobby and told the guy to move his vehicle "now."  The guy refused.  Friend said that they needed to get the truck to an emergency and SS needs to move the vehicle "now, or we'll move it for you."  SS told him to "F off."

In the end, the guy received a ticket for being illegally parked, charged with a felony for willfully obstructing an emergency vehicle, his car was totalled when my friend pushed it out of the way with the fire truck, he was billed tens of thousands of dollars to replace the damaged chrome bumper on the fire truck, and his insurance company refused to cover any of the repairs to either vehicle since the damage occurred while he was committing a felony.

My BIL is a fireman and he once drove a fire truck, as he said, "through" a car that the owner refused to move. Best part was that the owner was a brother of another fireman and he had come to the firehouse to visit with the brother and parked right in front of the large, transparent doors for the fire truck. So not only did he end up with a totaled car and all of the other consequences, his brother also never talked to him again.

The thing I still don't understand: I was parked in one of several (clearly-marked) "Visitor" parking spots, all of which were closer to the public entrance than where this guy decided to park.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #18987 on: January 16, 2013, 12:35:28 PM »
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Okay, for the blouse thing, that's sexual harassment even though it's another woman. 

Agreed.  I had a male co-worker do something like that to me when he'd had a bit too much to drink at a company barbeque.  I didn't handle it very well (I slapped his face, albeit not hard).  It turned out later that he'd done something similar to other female employees at that event, and they all complained about him to the boss the following day.  He got an official reprimand.

The kicker - and what made him a Special Snowflake - is that he honestly had no idea that what he'd done could be considered offensive.   ::)

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« Reply #18988 on: January 16, 2013, 12:56:52 PM »
The child just turned 11 and yes she was having a minor cosmetic procedure. My own kids have been in surgery for non trivial procedures dozens of times and I have never allowed them to hold up a procedure room like that, even when they were much younger. Heck, my mother would have never tolerated that behavior when I was growing up do I am even more flustered than I would be normally.

My 7YO grandaughter had to have rather major dental surgery.   Her mother was upset that she couldn't go back with her, but didn't make a fuss.  I pointed out that this rule was probably in place due to people who go back with their kids and then create such a scene that the kid is more scared than they were in the first place!

7YO handled it like a trouper.  They did let her take her lovey.

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« Reply #18989 on: January 16, 2013, 12:59:48 PM »
I have always been allowed to accompany my child whenever she's had something done in a hospital, doctor's office, dentist's office .... anywhere.  I would not be happy to be told I couldn't go with her into the procedure room.