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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19320 on: February 02, 2013, 05:30:58 PM »
Yarnspinner, your post reminded me of a woman I saw at the post office a few weeks ago.

We live in a very small town (~1800.) I was behind an older woman who had a package to go out. The post office worker is our local postmaster and rather new. Not sure where he's from though, but I've never seen him before. 

Woman: Do you know the address of Betty Lastname?
Postmater: No...
Woman: Can't you just look it up in your computer? (Not sure what magic kind of computer she thinks he has. Or why she couldn't have looked in the phone book before arriving...)
Postmaster: No, I' sorry.
Woman: Well, I know she lives by the, ah, the, you know, that place on the west side of town, um, oh yeah, she lives by the laundromat...:::ponders for several moments, muttering to herself about the exact location::: (Not sure why she couldn't just drop her letter off if she knows where this woman lives...it was only a couple blocks from the PO.)
Postmaster: Is there someone you can call to find out the address?
Woman: I suppose I could call her children when I get home to find out...I wonder where my address is...
Postmaster, sighing: I'll take it. MarySue will know who you mean.


There's always a good SS story to be had from the PO. Mostly because it is a small town. Probably 90% of the people in town leave their cars running while they run in to get their mail. (Most people in town have a PO Box, since we don't get offered home delivery.) Once I was there and the woman in front of me got a phone call. She stepped out of line and around the corner to take it. Which wasn't the  :o part. The  :o part was that she left her billfold on the desk (intentionally, as she had been about to start a transaction). It was a Coach billfold and had bills sticking out the sides. And her SUV was outside with the engine running. Only in a small town I guess!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19321 on: February 02, 2013, 08:04:10 PM »
I'm in this Mom and Pop pizza place because comcast can't get its act together. It is mostly take out.


This man and lady just came in with two teens. The teens spent some time yelling to the people in the kitchen - until their friends got them to understand the boss would be ticked off if he came in.


The man and woman sat down opposite me and began to argue. The man was her brother. His car had been repossessed - so he took her keys, "borrowed" her car, and got in a fender bender his fault. He isn't on her insurance and his doesn't cover him driving other cars. Poor lady was in tears. I got the impression she knows she either has to report him for stealing her car or she is going to be in trouble with her insurance company and the cops. He kept saying nothing was his fault and it was her job to make sure he had transportation so either she drives him or he gets to take her car.
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Piratelvr1121

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19322 on: February 02, 2013, 10:08:08 PM »
Poor woman, I think I'd be in tears as well.   
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19323 on: February 02, 2013, 10:17:40 PM »
Poor woman, I think I'd be in tears as well.

I would be too, but they'd be tears of frustration and anger.

I am curious though as to how he got her keys (and her car) in the first place if he was her brother.  And I would also like to know in what universe his brain lives in where it is his sister's responsibility to either drive him around or provide him with her car?  ???

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19324 on: February 02, 2013, 10:32:19 PM »
I would not be in tears, OR in a pizza joint with my brother, as he would be in jail.

Oh, that story ticks me off!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19325 on: February 02, 2013, 10:56:09 PM »
This is my favorite flash mob that I've seen yet.  And thankfully it's a song I know by heart so it's not a problem that I don't speak or understand Polish! LOL!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXgCrhIevwU

I love the way they did it.
I love the people who joined in and danced with the singers. :)
I once attended a performance of CATS where, when the Rum Tum Tugger came down off the stage to dance with someone in the audience, the woman would. not. dance. She wouldn't even stand up. I told someone about it and she cried out, 'No! You've gotta dance with the Rum Tum Tugger!'
That became a sort of motto for us, how you need to seize the moment and the experience, rather than worrying about whether you'll look foolish, or whatever else you were doing.

Jocelyn

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19326 on: February 02, 2013, 11:08:41 PM »


It made me sick to hear her talk to Bob like that - you could hear her voice over the receiver all the way to my cubicle because she was very loud- 
I once had a next-cubicle neighbor who- well, I could always tell when he was talking to his wife or son, because he got very loud and abrupt with them. It wasn't as if he was trying to discourage excessive calls at work; as a matter of fact, he called them more often than they called him (gee, I wonder why). All I could imagine was that he was so accustomed to speaking to them rudely, he didn't realize how his voice changed.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19327 on: February 03, 2013, 08:59:58 AM »
I love the people who joined in and danced with the singers. :)
I once attended a performance of CATS where, when the Rum Tum Tugger came down off the stage to dance with someone in the audience, the woman would. not. dance. She wouldn't even stand up. I told someone about it and she cried out, 'No! You've gotta dance with the Rum Tum Tugger!'
That became a sort of motto for us, how you need to seize the moment and the experience, rather than worrying about whether you'll look foolish, or whatever else you were doing.

Good positive advice, BUT if it happened to me I'd react the same way as that lady. I can't feel "free and easy" when suddenly (and by surprise) all eyes are on me. Neither am I happy when a musician belts out "Everybody, JOIN IN THE CHORUS, come on you can sing louder!" - Pal, I paid good money to  sit right here and watch YOU sing.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19328 on: February 03, 2013, 09:27:53 AM »
I love the people who joined in and danced with the singers. :)
I once attended a performance of CATS where, when the Rum Tum Tugger came down off the stage to dance with someone in the audience, the woman would. not. dance. She wouldn't even stand up. I told someone about it and she cried out, 'No! You've gotta dance with the Rum Tum Tugger!'
That became a sort of motto for us, how you need to seize the moment and the experience, rather than worrying about whether you'll look foolish, or whatever else you were doing.

Good positive advice, BUT if it happened to me I'd react the same way as that lady. I can't feel "free and easy" when suddenly (and by surprise) all eyes are on me. Neither am I happy when a musician belts out "Everybody, JOIN IN THE CHORUS, come on you can sing louder!" - Pal, I paid good money to  sit right here and watch YOU sing.

I've never seen Cat's live and didn't know they do that.  I would be like that lady too.  I don't think that makes people like us SS.  The actor should have moved on.

Margo

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19329 on: February 03, 2013, 09:42:38 AM »
I love the people who joined in and danced with the singers. :)
I once attended a performance of CATS where, when the Rum Tum Tugger came down off the stage to dance with someone in the audience, the woman would. not. dance. She wouldn't even stand up. I told someone about it and she cried out, 'No! You've gotta dance with the Rum Tum Tugger!'
That became a sort of motto for us, how you need to seize the moment and the experience, rather than worrying about whether you'll look foolish, or whatever else you were doing.

Good positive advice, BUT if it happened to me I'd react the same way as that lady. I can't feel "free and easy" when suddenly (and by surprise) all eyes are on me. Neither am I happy when a musician belts out "Everybody, JOIN IN THE CHORUS, come on you can sing louder!" - Pal, I paid good money to  sit right here and watch YOU sing.
Yup. and while being willing to try new experiences and not be too worried about whether you'll look foolish is fine, I don't think that trying to force someone to 'go with the flow' is appropriate. In the 'Cats' scenario, if the actor was trying to get the woman to dance for long enough that it became really noticeable to the audience as a whole that she was resisting, then I think he was pushing too hard - he should have quickly moved on to someone else rather than put her in an unwelcome spotlight once she had made it clear she didn't want to dance.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19330 on: February 03, 2013, 09:45:48 AM »
Neither am I happy when a musician belts out "Everybody, JOIN IN THE CHORUS, come on you can sing louder!" - Pal, I paid good money to  sit right here and watch YOU sing.

Getting the audience to join in is a skill, and it doesn't consist of yelling at them. Doing it right can range from gesturing to indicate that singing along would be welcome, to Pete Seeger's style of encouragement and teaching the lyrics. But if the musician is good at it, s/he isn't yelling at you, because s/he doesn't have to, and because s/he realizes that not everyone wants to sing.

Done right, it also doesn't feel like the musician is being lazy: it was clearly more work for Pete to teach the audience a chorus or two than it would have been for him to just sing it. But equally clearly, he liked that work just as he liked the work of singing and playing an instrument. (I went to a concert by a different folk musician a few years ago, and I liked it, but it was also clear that this guy had wanted to be Pete Seeger when he grew up, and wasn't, and not just because Pete Seeger was still being Pete Seeger.)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19331 on: February 03, 2013, 11:11:42 AM »
Poor woman, I think I'd be in tears as well.

I would be too, but they'd be tears of frustration and anger.

I am curious though as to how he got her keys (and her car) in the first place if he was her brother.  And I would also like to know in what universe his brain lives in where it is his sister's responsibility to either drive him around or provide him with her car?  ???

I suspect that brother was the **special** golden child in his family, and that sister has spent her whole life in his service.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19332 on: February 03, 2013, 11:36:51 AM »
I love the people who joined in and danced with the singers. :)
I once attended a performance of CATS where, when the Rum Tum Tugger came down off the stage to dance with someone in the audience, the woman would. not. dance. She wouldn't even stand up. I told someone about it and she cried out, 'No! You've gotta dance with the Rum Tum Tugger!'
That became a sort of motto for us, how you need to seize the moment and the experience, rather than worrying about whether you'll look foolish, or whatever else you were doing.

Good positive advice, BUT if it happened to me I'd react the same way as that lady. I can't feel "free and easy" when suddenly (and by surprise) all eyes are on me. Neither am I happy when a musician belts out "Everybody, JOIN IN THE CHORUS, come on you can sing louder!" - Pal, I paid good money to  sit right here and watch YOU sing.

On the CATS thing - even if I wanted to,  I could not and If I got yanked out of my seat it would put me in a LOT of pain. I'd be unamused at best and no I don't think not dancing is SS , even with  RumTum Tiger.
  On the Singing thing, it's expected at certain concerts that you will sing, particularly folk type concerts....it's part of the culture of genre. As mentioned Pete Seeger does this and several others I know - as away of teaching the songs to the next generation of listeners, so they may in turn teach it as so on. Others do it because the fans expect it or even as away of gaining crowd "control".  Also no matter what the genre, I know of no musician who does it to be lazy, their might be that one, but I've never met them, preforming is hard work - getting people to connect enough to  join in even harder.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19333 on: February 03, 2013, 11:41:58 AM »
Poor woman, I think I'd be in tears as well.

I would be too, but they'd be tears of frustration and anger.

I am curious though as to how he got her keys (and her car) in the first place if he was her brother.  And I would also like to know in what universe his brain lives in where it is his sister's responsibility to either drive him around or provide him with her car?  ???

  He could be visiting or even live with her and have taken them out of her purse or he could simply live close enough to go to her home and take them. My brother is the golden child who thinks everyone is responsible for and to him.,,,at 40 something mom still backs this up. If he is in I sleep with my keys tied to my wrist because Golden Child is not above taking them and using my car. 

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« Reply #19334 on: February 03, 2013, 12:19:31 PM »
I would not be in tears, OR in a pizza joint with my brother, as he would be in jail.

Oh, that story ticks me off!

I do feel bad for the sister, and I'm sure she was frustrated and angry as well.  I know there are times when I get so angry that I do cry so it's possible they were tears of anger.

But I feel bad for her mostly because I get the impression that her brother's always been a SS that she was expected to cater to, based on his attitude.  And if he was catered too, possibly the tears of frustration and fury were because she knows that if she turned him in she'd hear hell from their mother. 

Or maybe it's all the ehell SS stories. *chuckle*
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