Special Snowflake Stories

[LadyDyani]

I'm only up to page 55 on this thread, and I'm obsessively trying to catch up.  I figure I'll get up there in a year or two.  I'm at the point where there are several posts about people going too slow on the highway and impeding traffic, which reminded me of a post I had read years ago, and was in my favorites folder. 

It took about 15 minutes to slog through all the dead links (I really need to clean out that favorites folder), but I found it.

http://researchgrrrl.livejournal.com/60084.html

My question is, does Kimberley go straight to e*hell?  Was this rude?

[afbluebelle]

I'd be lying if I said that I was never tempted to do that. Legality of using a phone while driving aside, I giggled a little.  I vote SS however, only because it could have caused an accident.

[snowdragon]

The bathroom SS stories reminded me of mine:

BG/ when I am asleep and have to go to the bathroom, a lot of the time I will dream that I'm trying desperately to find a bathroom, but the only ones available have men in them! So I'm trying to find a stall with a door, etc. /BG

Imagine my discomfort when I walked into the bathroom at work (clearly labeled girls) and there was a man doing his daughter's hair. Yep. He comes to pick her up from our care and takes her into the bathroom to do her hair. Child is in second grade and fully capable of changing her own clothes, Dad could do her hair in the hall or another room. But he repeatedly does her hair in the girls bathroom. He has been walked in on a number of times, and spoken to about it at least once, but he still does it.

I went ahead into a stall and went while he was in there. Not too happy about it, but I had to go badly, and didn't have time to wait for him to finish with his DD's hair, which is what he wanted me to do. He apologized to me after I left the stall. If you feel bad about your actions, quit repeating them Mister!

I would have walked out and went to HR and had them flush him out. If it meant I wet my pants because of it then HR can deal with those ramifications too. No way am I going to the bathroom in front of a strange male

[suzieQ]

The bathroom SS stories reminded me of mine:

BG/ when I am asleep and have to go to the bathroom, a lot of the time I will dream that I'm trying desperately to find a bathroom, but the only ones available have men in them! So I'm trying to find a stall with a door, etc. /BG

Imagine my discomfort when I walked into the bathroom at work (clearly labeled girls) and there was a man doing his daughter's hair. Yep. He comes to pick her up from our care and takes her into the bathroom to do her hair. Child is in second grade and fully capable of changing her own clothes, Dad could do her hair in the hall or another room. But he repeatedly does her hair in the girls bathroom. He has been walked in on a number of times, and spoken to about it at least once, but he still does it.

I went ahead into a stall and went while he was in there. Not too happy about it, but I had to go badly, and didn't have time to wait for him to finish with his DD's hair, which is what he wanted me to do. He apologized to me after I left the stall. If you feel bad about your actions, quit repeating them Mister!

I would have walked out and went to HR and had them flush him out. If it meant I wet my pants because of it then HR can deal with those ramifications too. No way am I going to the bathroom in front of a strange male

Yeah, not an option where I work. No HR. I mentioned it to boss, and she told me he had been talked to and she would talk to him again. I think when whatever his DD was changing for was over for the year, he finally quit doing it.

[Shalamar]

Speaking of bathrooms, I have a coworker who changes into her cycling gear at the end of the day in the ladies' bathroom.   What's wrong with that, you ask?   She doesn't do it in a stall.   She does it by the sinks.    We've all been treated to the sight of Jane in her underwear at one point or another.

[iridaceae]

My dad and I were talking today at lunch and mentioned a SS from when he an my mom were newly married. They were in housing provided by the University and an acquaintance- in the same housing-  of theirs told them one day "I like your apartment better. You need to move out so we can move in."

Yeah, my mother had a few things to say to her, apparently!

[ica171]

I'd be lying if I said that I was never tempted to do that. Legality of using a phone while driving aside, I giggled a little.  I vote SS however, only because it could have caused an accident.

Wouldn't it be more likely that going 15 mph below the speed limit would cause an accident, rather than speeding up to the posted speed limit?

I live near a road that has a speed limit that goes from 50 to 45 to 50 to 55 in a roughly five mile stretch. In the first two zones (50 and 45), it is not at all uncommon to see several cars driving 35. It drives me nuts. In driver's ed, we were always taught that it is your responsibility as a driver to keep up with traffic or find an alternate route where you can, and that not doing so is dangerous to yourself and other drivers. I can't even tell you how many times I've been stuck behind someone crawling along at 15-20 mph below the speed limit and looked in my rearview mirror to see someone going 50 mph come zooming up behind me. It hasn't happened yet, but the probable inevitable outcome is that I, or someone else in the same situation, will be rear ended.

[snowdragon]

My dad and I were talking today at lunch and mentioned a SS from when he an my mom were newly married. They were in housing provided by the University and an acquaintance- in the same housing-  of theirs told them one day "I like your apartment better. You need to move out so we can move in."

Yeah, my mother had a few things to say to her, apparently!

I used to live in a 5 apt complex. Before I moved in the old renter was.a.pig. we found mouse droppings in the pots and pans he left and other things that made us gag cleaning it up. But we did a great job, painted it, even putting highlights on the  mantle for the fireplace and cleaning off the old paint from the mosaic on the hearth. It took us 8 hours a day for a month to do.
  When I got in and settled one of the other tennants called the landlord and complained about how my 'apartment was so much nicer than the one he and his wife had' and he wanted 'the same improvements made to his apartment' when the landlord explained that *I and my family* had done the improvements and he was free to invest the time and money into his to upgrade it - the other renter started complaining to me that I "had the best apartment and that I needed to be fair to others" when again told that I and my family had made it that way. He insisted that "it doesn't matter, we all should have those upgrades" - he and his wife went as far as to call the county on the landlord and made a mess of trouble for all of us - including invasive home inspections and such.

  He could never understand why we all shunned them afterward.   

[JoW]

Speaking of bathrooms, I have a coworker who changes into her cycling gear at the end of the day in the ladies' bathroom.   What's wrong with that, you ask?   She doesn't do it in a stall.   She does it by the sinks.    We've all been treated to the sight of Jane in her underwear at one point or another.

How many stalls are there?  How long does she linger in just her underwear? 

My pet peeve is people who monopolize a toilet stall changing clothes while others are outside the door in desperate need of a toilet.  Sure, if there are lots of stalls, no one waiting for one, she could use one to change.  But if the stalls are as small as some I've seen she would be in danger of dropping some of her cloting in the toilet. 

In my opinion quickly changing clothing in the restroom outside the stall is less snowflakey than changing in a stall when others need one. 

[Amara]

Speaking of bathrooms, I have a coworker who changes into her cycling gear at the end of the day in the ladies' bathroom.   What's wrong with that, you ask?   She doesn't do it in a stall.   She does it by the sinks.    We've all been treated to the sight of Jane in her underwear at one point or another.

How many stalls are there?  How long does she linger in just her underwear? 

My pet peeve is people who monopolize a toilet stall changing clothes while others are outside the door in desperate need of a toilet.  Sure, if there are lots of stalls, no one waiting for one, she could use one to change.  But if the stalls are as small as some I've seen she would be in danger of dropping some of her cloting in the toilet. 

In my opinion quickly changing clothing in the restroom outside the stall is less snowflakey than changing in a stall when others need one.

I agree. I don't see this as snowflakey at all. I have done this. At most it's a minute of "underwear" time, and I don't flaunt anything as I do a quick, clean change. Stalls are small and it wouldn't be possible--even if I was willing--unless it was the handicapped one. And I would never use one of those.

[mbbored]

Speaking of bathrooms, I have a coworker who changes into her cycling gear at the end of the day in the ladies' bathroom.   What's wrong with that, you ask?   She doesn't do it in a stall.   She does it by the sinks.    We've all been treated to the sight of Jane in her underwear at one point or another.

How many stalls are there?  How long does she linger in just her underwear? 

My pet peeve is people who monopolize a toilet stall changing clothes while others are outside the door in desperate need of a toilet.  Sure, if there are lots of stalls, no one waiting for one, she could use one to change.  But if the stalls are as small as some I've seen she would be in danger of dropping some of her cloting in the toilet. 

In my opinion quickly changing clothing in the restroom outside the stall is less snowflakey than changing in a stall when others need one.

I agree. I don't see this as snowflakey at all. I have done this. At most it's a minute of "underwear" time, and I don't flaunt anything as I do a quick, clean change. Stalls are small and it wouldn't be possible--even if I was willing--unless it was the handicapped one. And I would never use one of those.

I agree with prior posters on the above. If she's not lingering on the underwear stage and there are people in and out trying to use the stalls or the stalls are tiny, then I'd find it hard to call her a special snowflake.

[MariaE]

Speaking of bathrooms, I have a coworker who changes into her cycling gear at the end of the day in the ladies' bathroom.   What's wrong with that, you ask?   She doesn't do it in a stall.   She does it by the sinks.    We've all been treated to the sight of Jane in her underwear at one point or another.

How many stalls are there?  How long does she linger in just her underwear? 

My pet peeve is people who monopolize a toilet stall changing clothes while others are outside the door in desperate need of a toilet.  Sure, if there are lots of stalls, no one waiting for one, she could use one to change.  But if the stalls are as small as some I've seen she would be in danger of dropping some of her cloting in the toilet. 

In my opinion quickly changing clothing in the restroom outside the stall is less snowflakey than changing in a stall when others need one.

I agree. I don't see this as snowflakey at all. I have done this. At most it's a minute of "underwear" time, and I don't flaunt anything as I do a quick, clean change. Stalls are small and it wouldn't be possible--even if I was willing--unless it was the handicapped one. And I would never use one of those.

I agree with prior posters on the above. If she's not lingering on the underwear stage and there are people in and out trying to use the stalls or the stalls are tiny, then I'd find it hard to call her a special snowflake.

Agreed. She'd be more of a SS if she took up 1 of (possibly) very few stalls to change clothes. As long as she's actively changing and not lingering I don't see anything wrong with what she's doing.

[ladyknight1]

I'd be lying if I said that I was never tempted to do that. Legality of using a phone while driving aside, I giggled a little.  I vote SS however, only because it could have caused an accident.

Wouldn't it be more likely that going 15 mph below the speed limit would cause an accident, rather than speeding up to the posted speed limit?

I live near a road that has a speed limit that goes from 50 to 45 to 50 to 55 in a roughly five mile stretch. In the first two zones (50 and 45), it is not at all uncommon to see several cars driving 35. It drives me nuts. In driver's ed, we were always taught that it is your responsibility as a driver to keep up with traffic or find an alternate route where you can, and that not doing so is dangerous to yourself and other drivers. I can't even tell you how many times I've been stuck behind someone crawling along at 15-20 mph below the speed limit and looked in my rearview mirror to see someone going 50 mph come zooming up behind me. It hasn't happened yet, but the probable inevitable outcome is that I, or someone else in the same situation, will be rear ended.

Keeping up with the traffic flow is a great idea. Even when traffic flow is averaging 65 in a 55 mph area, I have people come flying up from behind traveling greater than 75.

[Katana_Geldar]

Here you can actually get booked for going too slow. I love near several main roads and people like that don't last long.

[NyaChan]

I am working with a partner on a pro bono case at school.  We are writing a document that will be submitted to a court and while initially we had a lot of time to do it, the SS has slowly eaten away at that cushion.  This past week or so, I've pretty much hit my breaking point.

A revised draft was due right after our long weekend.  We decided to meet on the Saturday morning before the due date at 10 am.  I get up at 8, I'm ready by 8:30 and then Ring! Text message from SS - "Hey, I'm going fishing today so go ahead and go back to sleep.  We'll do it later"  Too late for that as I am tired but awake, and now I'm angry because I left an important event early the night before to make sure I was ok to get up and work this morning.  The night before the due date, SS has not contacted me to reschedule, but really we can work separately so I figure it isn't a big deal.  On my way to the office to finish up the document and turn it in, I text him asking about which file I should combine with my own & whether he was ready for me to turn in the document and he replies: "Yeah, I'm really drunk right now.  You'll have to use your best judgment." Well I check the documents and whaddya know - He hasn't made ANY revisions or done any of the other tasks he was supposed to do.  I stay up late trying to do the best I can even though his section is not really in my area of expertise and try to turn it in the next morning. 

Supervisor realizes that SS hasn't even read the revisions I made let alone revised his section on his own and gives it back to us saying, okay why don't you guys try again so that I get a document that both of you are ready for me to read.  New due date is in 2 days.  SS indicates to me that he's sure this won't take long at all and that he'll be working on it the next day.  Come the morning of the due date, I contact him again asking if I should turn in the document or if he is at the office to do it.  No response.  I go in and check and again, he hasn't made any changes! 

I start fixing it myself in the 2 hours I have left while trying to contact him with no success.  Then I turn it in and of course the Supervisor is not happy that I'm the only one who revised it.  So I get scolded.  SS finally responds to me at the end of the day  - "I was out on another case and forgot my phone at home.  Guess you don't realize how much you need your cell until you don't have it."  Well he was out with another student who is in the same program as us and DID have her cell phone.  But really, there's no need to contact me and let me know that I need to do his share of the work as well as my own right?

Sigh.

Wait, so you're being reprimanded for your classmate not doing his work?  What the heck?  I'd be tempted to ask the professor point-blank "What do you expect me to do?  I have done way more than a reasonable share of this assignment, but I'm not able to physically force my partner to show up for meetings or do work.  What do you think I should be doing that I'm not doing already?"

Pretty much.  I think the professor sees it as a communication problem rather than a problem with him not completing his work.  I can kind of see where he is coming from - I could have made more of an effort to contact him earlier to check (cough*nag*cough) about his progress in the work.   On some level though, I feel like I shouldn't have to do that if his assignment and due date was made clear to him and he accepted/promised that he would have it done.