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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19650 on: February 22, 2013, 01:16:40 PM »
ETA - perhaps not totally Ehell approved, but it is a sound to be expected in public facilities.   Also, desperate situations call for desperate measures.
Certainly not ehell approved, but if I were disabled and needed to use that stall, I would have squeezed myself into the stall with her and used the darned toilet.  If she got in my way, well, some urine might not make it into the toilet. >:(

I would have given her warning first.  When she said, "I am going to be a while and if you wait - I'll just be longer!"  I would have firmly said, "I have no choice; I must use this stall right now.  You can use another stall."  I would not have left unless it was to get security to have her sorry butt hauled out of the handicap accessible stall.

BTW - My husband is disabled.  He needs the handicap accessible stall.  If some guy tried pulling that on DH, he would have whipped it out and peed on the jerk if he didn't move out of the way fast enough.  DH is not a patient man and he doesn't tolerate SSs.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19651 on: February 22, 2013, 01:20:45 PM »
I would have seriously considered some eHell unapproved activity.  Safety trumps etiquette, and I'm sure it's unsafe to not be able to use the bathroom, and get urine on a cast.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19652 on: February 22, 2013, 01:31:35 PM »
SS from school yesterday. I need the handicapped stall - as I can not get off the other toilets with out help due to a cast on my leg from the thigh to my ankle .  SO on my way in I stopped in the bathroom to find the stall occupied...not by someone actually using it, not even for changing, but by someone having a phone conversation. Noticing that I was waiting for it, she calls  out " I am going to be a while and if you wait - I'll just be longer!"  This is a small building and this is the only handicapped stall in it.  So I left and came back a half hour later, only to hear her say "Yeah, I am in the bathroom, in the handicapped stall, it's so funny, there's this chick who keeps coming back and I am holding her up!" and then laughed.
  I ended up needing to change my clothes because of her, and she thought this was hysterical.  I don't get it. Luckily most people are not like this.

 

Wow, they're really rude to people in casts at your school.  Didn't something similar happen to a friend of yours a couple of months ago?

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19653 on: February 22, 2013, 01:38:35 PM »
SS from school yesterday. I need the handicapped stall - as I can not get off the other toilets with out help due to a cast on my leg from the thigh to my ankle .  SO on my way in I stopped in the bathroom to find the stall occupied...not by someone actually using it, not even for changing, but by someone having a phone conversation. Noticing that I was waiting for it, she calls  out " I am going to be a while and if you wait - I'll just be longer!"  This is a small building and this is the only handicapped stall in it.  So I left and came back a half hour later, only to hear her say "Yeah, I am in the bathroom, in the handicapped stall, it's so funny, there's this chick who keeps coming back and I am holding her up!" and then laughed.
  I ended up needing to change my clothes because of her, and she thought this was hysterical.  I don't get it. Luckily most people are not like this.

 

That's terrible! How are you able to swim with such a cast? Is it removable b/c you can't get the standard plaster type of cast wet? I remember you posting about your friend's situation, just recently. How did your friend handle this?  The one who also had a thigh to ankle cast, who used crutches and needed the handicapped stall but there was someone in a wheelchair?  I don't remember the final resoluation.  Such terrible luck, you and your friend having the same type of cast. Did you also have the same type of injury?   And there really was no way to use the other stall?  Yes, it would be smaller but probably the same size as your bathroom at home and I'm sure you manage at home ok.   I see the end result for you in this story.  What do you do on other occasions when there is no handicapp stall available?  The same result?  It just seems like an awful solution.

Oh - found it!  http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=123543.0
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19654 on: February 22, 2013, 01:56:33 PM »
SS from school yesterday. I need the handicapped stall - as I can not get off the other toilets with out help due to a cast on my leg from the thigh to my ankle .  SO on my way in I stopped in the bathroom to find the stall occupied...not by someone actually using it, not even for changing, but by someone having a phone conversation. Noticing that I was waiting for it, she calls  out " I am going to be a while and if you wait - I'll just be longer!"  This is a small building and this is the only handicapped stall in it.  So I left and came back a half hour later, only to hear her say "Yeah, I am in the bathroom, in the handicapped stall, it's so funny, there's this chick who keeps coming back and I am holding her up!" and then laughed.
  I ended up needing to change my clothes because of her, and she thought this was hysterical.  I don't get it. Luckily most people are not like this.

 

That's terrible! How are you able to swim with such a cast? Is it removable b/c you can't get the standard plaster type of cast wet?
.  Not all casts are plaster.  This is velcroed on and can be taken in the pool and shower, I asked for that. ( Although the dr does not recommend a daily swim for the next few weeks...I have to cut back to twice a week until mid April )

 I remember you posting about your friend's situation, just recently. How did your friend handle this?  The one who also had a thigh to ankle cast, who used crutches and needed the handicapped stall but there was someone in a wheelchair?  I don't remember the final resoluation.  Such terrible luck, you and your friend having the same type of cast. We don't have  the same kind of injury or cast... she has the plaster one, I have one that is plasticy and velcroed on. As for resolutions, She went to the authorities at school and asked policy - who looked at her like she had three heads til she mentioned that she's had issues before.  She had her leg crushed in a car accident. I broke mine because I fell into a den of some sort while hiking.  Not the same at all.  She now goes to the health center that is next door to her class building - it is across the campus from mine

. Did you also have the same type of injury?   And there really was no way to use the other stall?  Yes, it would be smaller but probably the same size as your bathroom at home and I'm sure you manage at home ok.   I see the end result for you in this story.  What do you do on other occasions when there is no handicapp stall available?  The same result?  It just seems like an awful solution.
  This is the first time something like this has happened since I got hurt
   I can not bend the leg in the cast, and I can not put weight on it at this time.....that will change as healing goes on.  Because I can not put weight on the leg I have to have the bars to pull myself up on. Or have someone pull me up, I did not have someone to pull me up so I needed the bars, just as I have the bars and the sink to help pull myself up on at home   


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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19655 on: February 22, 2013, 02:10:22 PM »
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"Yup, my own mother told me I should have just trusted that the other soups weren't made near any tomato products, and god would have protected me."

God did protect you, by giving you the good sense to avoid eating soups of unknown provenance.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19656 on: February 22, 2013, 02:13:19 PM »
mmswm wrote:

"Yup, my own mother told me I should have just trusted that the other soups weren't made near any tomato products, and god would have protected me."

God did protect you, by giving you the good sense to avoid eating soups of unknown provenance.

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I'm reminded of that old joke about the man in a flood who refused help from a man in a boat offering to take him to dry ground, because "Deity will protect me."

After he drowned, he appeared at the Pearly Gates, extremely irate at being let down. Deity was puzzled what he was doing there - "But I sent you a man with a boat!"

lol.  That and the old adage, "God helps those who helps themselves."  I will go to the event again because my children enjoyed being able to hang out with their friends, but I will definitely be bringing my own soup!
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19657 on: February 22, 2013, 02:19:51 PM »
SS from school yesterday. I need the handicapped stall - as I can not get off the other toilets with out help due to a cast on my leg from the thigh to my ankle .  SO on my way in I stopped in the bathroom to find the stall occupied...not by someone actually using it, not even for changing, but by someone having a phone conversation. Noticing that I was waiting for it, she calls  out " I am going to be a while and if you wait - I'll just be longer!"  This is a small building and this is the only handicapped stall in it.  So I left and came back a half hour later, only to hear her say "Yeah, I am in the bathroom, in the handicapped stall, it's so funny, there's this chick who keeps coming back and I am holding her up!" and then laughed.
  I ended up needing to change my clothes because of her, and she thought this was hysterical.  I don't get it. Luckily most people are not like this.

 

That is disgusting on her part.  If I could have held my temper, I think I would have gotten building management involved after the first comment.  I'm sorry that happened to you.  (If I couldn't have held my temper, I probably would have done some very un-ehell approved things, involving loud noises to ensure she couldn't hold her conversation.  Singing songs from Les Mis at the top of my lungs comes to mind.)

I'd have flushed the other stall(s).  Repeatedly.

ETA - perhaps not totally Ehell approved, but it is a sound to be expected in public facilities.   Also, desperate situations call for desperate measures.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19658 on: February 22, 2013, 02:20:15 PM »
I just want to point out that the above quote has no basis in religion.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19659 on: February 22, 2013, 02:24:32 PM »
We had a double booking at an SCA camping event with the Hells Angels! Quite an interesting day with them revving engines and making rude comments to a lot of the ladies.  The SS behavior stopped short when a bunch of the fighters took the field. I seem to think that 1 or 2 of them challenged the fighters to a “real fight” until they saw that not only did they NOT pull blows but that rattan leaves really pretty marks behind even through armor

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« Reply #19660 on: February 22, 2013, 02:30:44 PM »
Our Scout troop stopped at a hotel midway through their five state drive. The group's rooms were together other than one room in the middle. That room had a group of older people, and all seemed well.

Until smoke began appearing in the rooms nearby. Not tobacco smoke either. One assistant Scoutmaster is a deputy, and was instantly able to identify said smoke. The other room's occupants were soon asked to leave.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19661 on: February 22, 2013, 02:39:54 PM »
I just want to point out that the above quote has no basis in religion.

Yes, my apologies.  I was just using the quote to illustrate how silly my mother was being, and not trying to get into a religious discussion.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19662 on: February 22, 2013, 03:40:57 PM »
My reaction was OTT. My mother repeats that quote often, and bases it on gospel truth. She no longer says that to me, as I have dispelled that notion.

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« Reply #19663 on: February 22, 2013, 04:58:52 PM »
I'm not saying the bikers right by any means, but I don't think they were wrong, either.  Because of their size, motorcycles can be hard to see, so by driving in packs they increase their visibility.  To merge through the pack can cause a safety risk, so I can see why this would irritate the biker that yelled at the OP's DH.

It is not another driver's responsibility to make room for you between themselves and the vehicle in front of them.  It is your responsibility to make sure you can fit in that gap safely; if you cannot, you don't put your car there.  Can it be courteous to slow down to allow another driver over?  Yes, but not doing so does not make anyone rude.  How would it be any different if there were three or four semis in the right hand lane blocking the OP's DH from merging over?  If the gap between them was not sizably safe for the OP's DH to merge, what would he have done?  Merge through them or slow down to move in behind them?  With motorcycles, that safety gap needs to be a bit larger (hence why the biker was probably angry).  I just don't see how the bikers were SS; to me, it is no different than any other traffic.

Catching up on the thread (20 pages to go!), but this caught my eye because of what happened to me today.  There are two lanes that turn left at a stoplight onto a bridge in my town.  At the other end of the bridge, only the right lane exits to another island, the other lane continues to another city.  However, most people using the bridge want to go to the island.  Which leads to some interesting lane changes. 

Today, I was the last in a line of cars going over the bridge in the right lane.  Cue a late model expensive car running the dark orange yellow light and then starting to change lanes -- into my car!  She wasn't pulling into a space between cars, she was pulling into my drivers' side door!  I honked.  Then she turned on her turn signal and tried to pull over again - into the side of my car!  She just couldn't understand why I wouldn't stand on my brakes to let her in -- when there was no one behind me and she had entered the bridge after me.  She actually accelerated and cut off a car at the far end of the bridge to get off on the island.  The kicker is she probably thinks I was rude because I did not literally stop dead to let her in.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #19664 on: February 22, 2013, 05:06:41 PM »
No worries, LadyKnight. :)  Though I do sincerely mean my apology.
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