BIL is a whining Super SS. He's decided to go back to school because it's "depressing" that DH, the younger brother, is done with school, has a job/house/family and he (BIL) has none of these things. He's working towards the same degree DH got, so he's constantly asking DH's advice on every.little.thing. Thanksgiving was overshadowed by talk of what classes he needed in the spring semester, and which teachers are the best/easiest/most lenient. He skypes with DH, and google chats every day asking for help with projects and general support/encouragement. He was coming over 2-3 times per week and saying til midnight getting help from DH with his school work. Every time DH would try to say it's getting late, BIL had "just one more quick thing'
We did finally get that under control. Now he's over once or twice a week, and has to be out by 10.
While Other BIL was in town (3 month internship) we all got together on Friday nights. I would make dinner, and we would hang out. Then talk at the dinner table was taken over by computer talk. Until I finally broke in and forcibly changed the subject. After dinner the laptop came out again.
Meanwhile, I'm taking some night classes. So Mon-Wed DH comes home from work, we have up to an hour and a half, then I leave for class. DH is also in crunch time for a project at work, so he's been working late.
Last night we were having dinner when the computer chimed with a notification on google chat. DH ignored it. Then his phone rang. DH ignored it. Google chat went off again. Then his text message alert went off. Then my phone rang. I picked up and said, "We're eating dinner right now, DH will call you back later," and I hung up. DH thinks I was super rude, and we start to argue a bit about it, when google chat goes off again. BIL is horribly offended, it was important that he got in touch with us because he needed to know if we were at his house, knocking on the door.
I still don't know why he couldn't get up, walk the 12 feet to his front door and check, but in his mind it made more sense to keep trying to call/message us.
Google chat has blown up, and I had to leave for class. BIL has been sending nastygrams telling DH that he 'demands more respect than that' (being hung up on) and that he has been 'nothing but nice...not talking on the phone during dinner is a stupid rule...[he] can only put up with so much' and now on top of everything else, he doesn't feel welcome in his own brother's home