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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20100 on: March 22, 2013, 05:04:21 PM »
In her situation, I would happily have retired somewhere away from the crowd of screaming football fans. The living room? Not unless it's in a separate building. :)

Pretty sure it's basketball right now :)

lol. Yup.  It's NCAA basketball.  U o Miami hasn't managed to put on a decent basketball team in years (though they've been steadily improving) and this year they have a real shot at taking the whole thing.  Plus, even when they haven't been in the tournament, I still watch.  I'm also a Wake Forest fan (I took several duel enrollment math classes there when I ran out of math classes to take at the boarding school I went to in HS), and though they've been having a rough time recently, they're historically a real contender.

Ahem...I thought you were talking about the other M state, Michigan. Since the Miami team is not known for basketball. I was a bit confused since I thought you lived in FL...but figured I'd just read something wrong

Ooops.  Sorry.  :-\  I did try to be clear by listing both teams playing.

Slightly off-topic, but those of us who live in Miami and are basketball fans are about to have a heart attack between the excitement of the Heat and the Hurricanes. Much to my mother's dismay, conversation around here has turned to "all basketball, all the time".  We're normally very forgiving of her for not being a fan, and rarely insist on the big living room TV, but this is the Hurricanes in the NCAA tournament!  This is a really big deal!  If they make it to the Final Four it's going to necessitate a huge party.  If they make it to the championship game, it'll be bigger than the Super Bowl.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20101 on: March 22, 2013, 05:09:10 PM »
This.  Just this.

(Summary of "confession" article: woman goes on dates via CraigsList and OkCupid three times a week for months for the express purpose of getting free dinner, then complains about the horrible guys who took her out.  She's astounded that her guy friends all think she's the lowest of the low for doing this.)

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« Reply #20102 on: March 22, 2013, 05:12:34 PM »
Oh, my!  I couldn't get through even the first half of that without wanting to throw something sharp at the writer.
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« Reply #20103 on: March 22, 2013, 05:47:13 PM »
There's a word for a woman who does things for financial compensation that she wouldn't do otherwise...let me see, what is it....hmmm.....


This woman is disgusting. And she thinks she's all that.

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« Reply #20104 on: March 22, 2013, 05:54:55 PM »
There's a word for a woman who does things for financial compensation that she wouldn't do otherwise...let me see, what is it....hmmm.....


This woman is disgusting. And she thinks she's all that.

Employed? Because I do things for financial compensation that I wouldn't do otherwise every weekday. All day.

Look I agree that what she did was pretty selfish but "Disgusting" and "Low rate prostitute" (from the article) seem pretty far fetched to me.
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« Reply #20105 on: March 22, 2013, 06:34:44 PM »
I think she's pretty obnoxious, and posting this as if it's a clever idea- yuck. It's rude, and pretty foolish- what happens if she gets stuck with the bill?

However, I also object to calling her names.
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« Reply #20106 on: March 22, 2013, 06:56:43 PM »
Also, not to be rude, but she's behaving worse than a prostitute. Whether you agree with them legally or morally, they generally offer a service for the money paid. She's just a scammer.
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« Reply #20107 on: March 22, 2013, 07:23:03 PM »
Also, not to be rude, but she's behaving worse than a prostitute. Whether you agree with them legally or morally, they generally offer a service for the money paid. She's just a scammer.

Just what sort of "service" was she supposed to provide?  I don't like what she did either, but to imply she owed these men anything other than her company at dinner for a couple hours is disturbing.


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« Reply #20108 on: March 22, 2013, 07:37:49 PM »
She was supposed to seriously consider them as a potential partner? Which is generally what dating is about. Instead she wasted their time and their money.

Or if you date casually, then she was supposed to be an amusing and personable dinner companion who held up her side of the social contract. Somehow I doubt that this was the case.

Best line in the article though. "Even though I hate seafood, I got lobster and ordered dessert and it was the best meal of my life!" Clearly she is getting her enjoyment from a power kick rather than the food.
« Last Edit: March 22, 2013, 08:10:22 PM by Coruscation »

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20109 on: March 22, 2013, 08:03:02 PM »
I think she's pretty obnoxious, and posting this as if it's a clever idea- yuck. It's rude, and pretty foolish- what happens if she gets stuck with the bill?

However, I also object to calling her names.

I don't see where saying her behavior is disgusting is calling her names.




Coruscation said what I was thinking.

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« Reply #20110 on: March 22, 2013, 08:07:30 PM »
Also, not to be rude, but she's behaving worse than a prostitute. Whether you agree with them legally or morally, they generally offer a service for the money paid. She's just a scammer.

Just what sort of "service" was she supposed to provide?  I don't like what she did either, but to imply she owed these men anything other than her company at dinner for a couple hours is disturbing.

I don't think that's what Rohanna meant. I think she meant (and correct me if I'm wrong) that she was using these men to get free food. That's not very nice, and certainly pretty sleazy in my book. Ladies and gentlemen of the night do a service for which they are paid, but this woman is not only using men to get nice dinners for free, she's upset that, when she greatly lowers her standards, she will encounter men whom she deems undesirable. That's mind - boggling and special snowflake - y to me.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20111 on: March 22, 2013, 08:19:59 PM »
I think she's pretty obnoxious, and posting this as if it's a clever idea- yuck. It's rude, and pretty foolish- what happens if she gets stuck with the bill?

However, I also object to calling her names.

I don't see where saying her behavior is disgusting is calling her names.




Coruscation said what I was thinking.

Actually the line was "This woman is disgusting".

Look, I don't want to set myself up as an apologist for her behaviour. What she did was certainly rude, definitely selfish and not at all something I would like to see my daughter emulate. But I don't think it makes her a disgusting person and I certainly don't think it's prostitution or worse than prostitution. That level of vilification is what I personally am objecting to.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20112 on: March 22, 2013, 08:27:25 PM »
Also, not to be rude, but she's behaving worse than a prostitute. Whether you agree with them legally or morally, they generally offer a service for the money paid. She's just a scammer.

Just what sort of "service" was she supposed to provide?  I don't like what she did either, but to imply she owed these men anything other than her company at dinner for a couple hours is disturbing.

She owes them a genuine attempt at conversing with them with an eye to looking for a future partner/friend/scrabble-partner - whatever it was she represented herself in the ad as looking for. Da*ting sites are for people looking for short (as much as a single evening, need I say more) or long term partners- the date is to decide if both parties find one another mutually agreeable, and if they wish to proceed further.

Going on a date with zero intention of it going further than getting a free meal doesn't make you a prostitute, because a prostitute offers a service for money- she is a scammer because she represents herself as a women looking for a relationship, but is only interested in the meal. It would be fine if she had every intention of giving the date a chance and simply didn't click with the person for whatever reason.

It is no better than the people who represent themselves as looking for a long-term partner when they really just want a one-night scrabble partner. You are playing with peoples lives, money and emotions for short term personal gain.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20113 on: March 22, 2013, 08:48:07 PM »
I think she's pretty obnoxious, and posting this as if it's a clever idea- yuck. It's rude, and pretty foolish- what happens if she gets stuck with the bill?

However, I also object to calling her names.

I don't see where saying her behavior is disgusting is calling her names.




Coruscation said what I was thinking.

Actually the line was "This woman is disgusting".

Look, I don't want to set myself up as an apologist for her behaviour. What she did was certainly rude, definitely selfish and not at all something I would like to see my daughter emulate. But I don't think it makes her a disgusting person and I certainly don't think it's prostitution or worse than prostitution. That level of vilification is what I personally am objecting to.

I still don't see how that is calling her a name.  Looking at what she actually did do, I see that only as saying her behavior is disgusting.  We can agree to disagree.

(FWIW, I don't think you're being an apologist.)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20114 on: March 22, 2013, 08:52:42 PM »
One of my friends is in HR at a nursing home. She is hiring people for an Alzheimer's unit and the interview process has the requirement of a tour of the secure facility. /BG


 She had two very special snowflakes come for interviews this week.  Monday she had a woman show up with a very young child - at the interview. It was known before hand that the tour would be part of the interview and she brought a kid my friend estimated to be about 18months to 2 years to this interview. When informed that they could not take the child on the tour, so the interviewed would not proceed, the mother looked at two other candidates and asked them to take care of the child for "her tour". Que stunned silence. When informed that the tour portion would be in a group and then the candidates split up to go with different interviewers, the woman asked the receptionist to watch her child!  My friend finally told her that she would not be interviewed that day and would have to "reschedule"  ( like that is going to happen).  The Job candidate was not pleased to hear that.

Wednesday, another woman brought her ride into the interview with her, because "It's too far to take a bus and she'll need to drive me." Perfectly reasonable to have to get a ride - but really, they need to come into the interview room with you?  have them go for a cup of coffee somewhere and comeback.

I could understand the "ride" coming into the building if outdoor temperatures were excessive (too hot or too cold). but I agree that into the interview room is a bit much.
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