My DH was telling me about an article that was posted at our daycare. (I presume to read and discuss at home.) The gist of it was that we're all teaching our kids to be TOO polite, which is causing other children to become entitled and think that they can get anything if they ask for it, and perhaps we should teach our children to refuse to share.
I told DH that I don't think our DD that shares is the problem...
I didn't read the article but there was a piece on it on GMA. Once you hear the whole thing, it makes quite a bit of sense.
The school in the piece had multiples of toys so that several children could be playing with the same item at the same time. It also makes sense to teach children that they don't necessarily have to hand over something just because someone has taken a shine to it.
Of course, sharing is important to learn but it's also important to learn how to handle the occasional 'No'.
I remember having this discussion with my 15 yo DD about 5 years ago. We were in the multimedia center of the library and my DD was playing video games. I was reading a magazine while she played and 5 unsupervised siblings* came trooping in and the youngest was probably 3. Her older sister was watching her (I'm guessing she was anywhere from 13-15) and just thought it was 'so cute' when the 3 yo crawled into my DD's lap and took the game controller from her...which - to my chagrin - my 10 yo DD just let her take (it isn't like my DD 'let's' her brother grab a game controller right out of her hands).
So I put my magazine down, plucked the controller out of the 3 yo's hands and handed it back to DD. Then I took the 3 yo off of her lap and handed her to her sister saying, 'You need to take her'. I then kept a polite smile on my face and explained to DD, in front of the other girls, "You do not need to give something up just because someone else wants it. Unless you want to. Do you want to quit playing? Have you had a long enough turn?"
DD said, "No, I wasn't done. It's been 5 minutes (library rules give them 30
I said, "Okay," and picked up my magazine while the other teen stood there holding her sister, trying to puzzle out what just happened.
I definitely think my kids learned to 'overshare' because they actually had to be taught that it's okay to not
*all have some kind of developmental delay as well as physical problems - they regularly come in, cause a ruckus, and then get chucked out by the library staff. Parents are nice but 'off'. I have no idea why they don't just come into the library with them.