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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20700 on: April 25, 2013, 02:53:15 PM »
Sorry, if your child is THAT allergic then "uncontrolled" spaces need to be off-limits/monitored for you, not the whole world. I mean, squirrels run around playgrounds and they eat nuts, birds drop nuts and seeds...

The problem is, there's no boundary between "THAT allergic" and "just a little allergic" for many people.  Previous reactions don't necessarily predict future reactions - so if you know you're allergic to peanuts and you've had two mild-to-moderate reactions in the past, you don't know whether the third reaction will be anaphylaxis or whether it will just be a bit of a rash.  A huge percentage of kids nowadays have food allergies (10%, according to the article), and there's no "little bit" when it comes to unknown reactions.  It's a shame, because peanuts are such a good and cheap source of protein, but (as I mentioned upthread) I do think it's polite to moderate your peanut-germ-spreading ability when you're likely to be around children.

re: the bolded: Yes, this. It's definitely considerate and kind for parents of non-allergic children try their best not to spread serious allergens around kid-centric areas. The posted article also contains good info about how to do so (wipes instead of hand sanitizer, etc).

However, if (general) you don't have a kid with those kinds of allergies, you're probably not going to be nearly as vigilant or thorough because it's just not something you deal with or think about regularly. If I had a peanut-allergic child, I would not risk his life on "I don't see anyone eating peanuts or any peanut butter on the monkey bars, so we're safe." Who knows if the kid in the sandbox ate PB crackers before coming to the playground and mom didn't wash his hands properly, or he still has some crumbs on his shirt or PB on his breath? Or if the kid is a little older and got herself a granola bar mom didn't know about, so mom didn't know she needed to wipe hands, change shirt, rinse mouth, etc. Ultimately, it's still on the parents of the allergic child to be extra vigilant simply because they are the only ones who know best how to keep their child safe.


  I think there is a happy medium and I do wish more parents of peanut allergic children were this open and reasonable about what they expect. "Use wipes instead of gel" is much more reasonable than "stop using/selling peanut products ever"  or " this is what you are ALLOWED to do in your home because of my kid" 
  She's in  a tough position and trying to be fair to all.  I'd like to see more parents like her.  And I am going to be changing how I deal with foods at a park from now on.
 
  I wish there were a list of non food products that have allergens in them somewhere. Not that I can eliminate nuts totally ( or even want to - but it would make it easier to decide what I can safely use at the museum, ect versus what I can use only at home :)

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20701 on: April 25, 2013, 03:41:02 PM »
I do not mind people bringing cell phones into church, but they need to either: put the volume on silent for all ring types, on vibrate or powered off.   If you are on call for work or an ill/injured person, sit in the back and step outside discreetly if you feel the vibration of the phone.  I give me my deity of choice an hour of my time not tethered my cell phone, I hope others can attempt the same thing.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20702 on: April 25, 2013, 03:44:57 PM »
I do not mind people bringing cell phones into church, but they need to either: put the volume on silent for all ring types, on vibrate or powered off.   If you are on call for work or an ill/injured person, sit in the back and step outside discreetly if you feel the vibration of the phone.  I give me my deity of choice an hour of my time not tethered my cell phone, I hope others can attempt the same thing.

In our tiny congregation (a good Sunday was 30 people), there was a doctor and a cop, on a regular basis.  The doctor wore a pager that couldn't be set to vibrate.  As soon as it beeped, he'd get up and go outside to check it and phone in.  The cop sometimes came in full uniform.  He'd come to service on his lunch break, turn his radio way down and sit at the back.  If he got a call, he'd do the same thing.  His supervisors knew he'd do this and would purposely assign him our area when he was on duty on Sundays.  The joys of small town living.   :)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20703 on: April 25, 2013, 04:02:56 PM »
I canít remember if I posted this one or not.  The owner of a local mom-n-pop that we go to all the time went to the effort to spruce up the outside parking lot and make it a bit more difficult for the patrons of the bar next door to take over all of his parking lot leaving no place for his patrons to park. He got really nice planter pots and planted shrubs in them.  Week later, planters were gone.  He replaced them. Week later, shrubs were gone. He figured it was the bar owner stealing them so that his customers could drive over the curb and park in the lot (He blocked off the entrance at night with saw horses.)  so he turned one of the security cameras on the entrance. Turns out that a local landscape company was coming by and taking them.  When the police caught them, they brazenly admitted to stealing them because the shrubs were too expensive to buy so they were taking them to sell to their customers. 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20704 on: April 25, 2013, 05:22:52 PM »
"The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit.  The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are."

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20705 on: April 25, 2013, 08:49:39 PM »
That's too funny! I wonder if one day the squirrel will have an epiphany and just jump up the pole with the food on it  :D They're too darned smart.


My father had a bird feeder, dozens of birds would come (and when he went outside to fill it they'd gather in the trees overhead), until the squirrels came. After a couple of winters of the squirrels emptying the feeder, I looked for a solution online and found the Yankee Flipper feeder. The rungs the birds sit on are motorized, and weight-triggered to spin if anything heavier than a bird gets on it. It worked like a charm, but I have seen a YouTube video of a squirrel hanging on for the ride.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20706 on: April 26, 2013, 09:19:02 AM »
We had a groundhog knock our birdfeeder down. It was hung on a dogwood branch, and the bugger climbed the tree and knocked the feeder down, breaking it. >:(

Learn something new every day. I just never thought of groundhogs climbing trees. Kind of boggling.

"Despite their heavy-bodied appearance, groundhogs are accomplished swimmers and excellent tree climbers when escaping predators or when they want to survey their surroundings."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groundhog
^ Chapman, J.A.; Feldhammer, G.A. (1982). Wild Mammals of North America, Biology, Management, Economics. Johns Hopkins University Press. ISBN 0801823536.

I didn't know until my dogs treed one.  They were very proud of themselves.

Once they showed me what they had done, they left the tree and the groundhog eventually did, too.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20707 on: April 26, 2013, 09:08:13 PM »

But one Easter, during the big Easter mass when the church was full to bursting (they opened up two classrooms that adjoined the church to accommodate people and even they were full) one SS had his mobile phone ring right in the middle of the stations of the cross. This was in the 90s, before everyone had a mobile phone. The priest stopped, right in the middle and looked at him.


See, I think this is rude. The only thing the guy has done wrong is to *forget* to turn off his cell phone.
I was in church once when, just as the pastor called upon us to pray, a pager went off, paging a member of the congregation to the local hospital. The doctor got up, grinning sheepishly, a few people chuckled, and the pastor waited until the door had closed behind the doctor before he started his prayer.
. It qualified, IMO, for the old saying of 'Never attribute to malice that which is equally well-explained by stupidity'. Considering the number of doctors in the congregation, and that it happened once, I'm sure there was some mistake in the settings that had made it boom out so audibly.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20708 on: April 26, 2013, 09:18:47 PM »

However, if (general) you don't have a kid with those kinds of allergies, you're probably not going to be nearly as vigilant or thorough because it's just not something you deal with or think about regularly.
My allergist told me that at an allergists' convention, his wife had gone into anaphylactic shock after she took a cracker that was on a lettuce leaf that had previously had shrimp lying on it. And of course her Epi-pen was upstairs in their hotel room. Fortunately, in a room full of allergists, there WERE people who were carrying Epi-pens. But that little bit of shrimp juice that soaked into the cracker was enough to have killed her.
Personally, I was a little surprised that shellfish would be served at an allergists' convention (considering  how many people choose that specialty because of being allergic themselves). But apparently, whomever had planned the convention catering had not thought about it.
Who would have thought that the lettuce would be reused- and that it would retain enough shrimp juice to harm someone? But with that level of allergies in a CHILD, I would think that a parent would best assume that all surfaces ARE contaminated, rather than hoping others will police the environment and leave it allergen-clean.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20709 on: April 27, 2013, 12:10:49 AM »
Jocelyn, it was probably the same caterer who served lemonade and sugar cookies to my local "so you just found you have serious diabetes - here's what comes next" support group.  What makes it worse: this particular meeting was catered by the hospital.  You'd think someone would know better!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20710 on: April 27, 2013, 04:44:35 PM »
This is part snowflake & part brain hurt.

I was checking out at the supermarket today. The man in front of me was joking with the clerk about all the veggies he was buying. the he spotted the cake on a shelf behind the clerk and said "But that looks good, too!"

It was a single square of cake, that serves one or two people, from the store bakery, white icing with colored sprinkles evenly scattered on top, pre-packaged in a clear plastic box. The kind you pick put yourself from a display.

"You know why the customer returned it?" said the clerk. "She didn't like the way the sprinkles had been applied."

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20711 on: April 27, 2013, 05:28:30 PM »
This is part snowflake & part brain hurt.

I was checking out at the supermarket today. The man in front of me was joking with the clerk about all the veggies he was buying. the he spotted the cake on a shelf behind the clerk and said "But that looks good, too!"

It was a single square of cake, that serves one or two people, from the store bakery, white icing with colored sprinkles evenly scattered on top, pre-packaged in a clear plastic box. The kind you pick put yourself from a display.

"You know why the customer returned it?" said the clerk. "She didn't like the way the sprinkles had been applied."

O.O And she couldn't just, oh, you know, pick up another one out of the case instead of buying, then returning, one that she didn't like just because of the sprinkles? Wow!

That one takes the cake! (Pun totally intended, LOL.)
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20712 on: April 27, 2013, 06:47:42 PM »

But one Easter, during the big Easter mass when the church was full to bursting (they opened up two classrooms that adjoined the church to accommodate people and even they were full) one SS had his mobile phone ring right in the middle of the stations of the cross. This was in the 90s, before everyone had a mobile phone. The priest stopped, right in the middle and looked at him.


See, I think this is rude. The only thing the guy has done wrong is to *forget* to turn off his cell phone. And maybe so few people call him on it, esp. on a Sunday morning, that it just never occurred to him.

Or he meant to and forgot. Or he thought about it so hard, he thought he'd *done* it.

He didn't get out his cell phone and start making calls; someone *else* called him.

I'm of the opinion that ringing cell phones are sort of like farts--everyone should simply act as though they didn't happen.

I disagree - the one thing he did was disrupt an important religious moment. The difference between a fart and a cell phone is that only one is an involuntary biological reflex. The cell phone comes under the umbrella of disrupting others through carelessness. Is it the worse thing he could have done? No, far from it, but a reminder that it is unacceptable is fine.

But he just forgot. I'm not a fan of shaming people for minor, very human things.

Also, I often find the "stop and stare at him" to be FAR more disruptive than the phone itself.

And I don't think the guy needed a reminder that it was unacceptable--I'm sure he was really embarrassed.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20713 on: April 27, 2013, 07:04:43 PM »
This was before everyone had mobile phones, remember. The only ones who had them then were business people and tradesmen. And I will add the congregation thought the priests actions were justified.

Reminds me of what a lecturer said at our first psychology lecture. He said the student whose phone rang during the lecture was to suffer the indignation of everyone in the audience staring at him.

Not everyone is embarrassed by their phone ringing at an inappropriate time. Some even answer it them and there. I had the GM of a game I was playing answer a call from his girlfriend while he was running the game, in the middle of a fight when everyone was dependant on him. For the confused, it's like a presenter answering the phone during a presentation before the end.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #20714 on: April 27, 2013, 07:35:07 PM »
I was really tired this morning and it was a bit chilly, so I didn't get into the pool before we left for the party.  No problem.  The party was at a park with a water park, which also has a regular pool.  I figured once we got the kids settled, mom could keep an eye on my kids and I could do my laps.  It was all working well until I got to the section of the pool that was clearly marked for lap swimmers only. So, I'm doing my laps and these people are in my way.  They wouldn't move so I had to swim around them.  I heard the lifeguard shoo them away.  About 5 minutes later, the people were back, and brought more of their friends with them. The lifeguard shoes them away, but I still had to swim around them.  Less than a minute later (on my return trip), guess who was there?  And this time with their kids!  The lifeguard threatened to eject them from the water park if they got in the way of the lap swimmer one more time.

Guess who got ejected?  And they pitched a loud enough fit that the off-duty cop serving as security had to get involved.
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