A potential cross post with the Conversations thread.
Some BG: We were expecting a package of tea today, so we were keeping an ear out on the door to make sure it arrived. We also have a sign saying No Soliciting, at an adult's face level, in big, red, letters, that we made ourselves. We print a new one out after every few months or windstorm.
Doorbell rang this morning, open it up. We're greeted by a religious group well-known for their door-to-doorsmanship. My mum points out the no soliciting sign, and we get, "But we're not soliciting, we're spreading the message of God!"
I... don't... even...
Makes me glad I am Catholic, and most Catholics do not go spreading their religion in the way certain other groups do that I know about at this time. I am not putting down those groups that go out and spread their word to get converts etc though but please use some common sense & have some manners if someone does not want to be bothered.
I hate when these groups come to the door also (and salespeople) so I just don't answer the door unless I'm expecting someone. DH, OTOH, always runs to answer the door or the phone ("What if it's an emergency?" he says). Anyway, he answered the door once, and it was a proselytizer who he was politely trying to turn away and wouldn't go away. Finally, I yelled out, "Tell her we're Catholic!" DH said my disembodied shout visibly startled her, DH then said, "Sorry, but we're Catholic" and the woman finally simply handed him one of her stupid pamphlets and left (which DH promptly threw out).
That reminds me of something that happened right after I had Baby 3.
Her belly button had finally healed completely closed and I was giving her her very first ever 'submersion' bath (in a little tub with water). The doorbell rang once. I wasn't expecting anyone, so I ignored it.
Then it rang again, much more urgently. Ding-dong, ding-dong, ding-dong! Followed immediately by repeated loud knocks on the door.
I thought surely it must be an emergency situation with one of my neighbors or something so I quickly rinsed off baby and wrapped her in a towel and answered the door. It was two women doing the religion thing.
Why do people think it's okay to
knock on someone's door like that when it's not an emergency and the person isn't hard of hearing?
Someone once banged on DH's door while I was sitting next to it. It was a BANG-BANG-BANG as if the person were trying to break down the door. DH was in the (bad) habit of opening the door without first asking who is there. I got an immediate bad vibe upon hearing that knock and asked DH to first ask who's at the door and, specifically, not to just open it. DH did, and the male voice of a stranger said he was selling something. Again, I asked DH not to open the door, and DH told the guy, through the locked door, that he wasn't interested. After the guy walked away, DH told me he saw how shaken I was from the knock, and I told DH that I had this immediate bad feeling like the guy would've tried an in-home invasion (DH's apartment was right off the street near an area frequented by not-so-good types). I listened for the guy knocking at anyone else's door, which he did not do, which made me even more suspicious that this was not a good person.
Reminds me that, a few weeks ago, DH was home sick when he also heard insistent knocking on our front door and repeated ringing of the doorbell. He got up to answer, finally, because he thought it was urgent. He said it was some girl, who looked around 15-16 years old, asking if "Laura" still lives here. DH told her no, and she went away (this house was vacant for over a year before we bought it). We don't live in the best area so my theory is, again, she was "testing" to see if the house were empty (can you tell I really don't trust people?).
Oh, and to add a SS story:
The woman who sang at our wedding ceremony takes that title. DH has a couple of friends who are the music accompaniment at our church, but they are not Catholic and are devout followers of their branch of Christianity. I don't have a problem with them not being Catholic, but I do believe that everyone participating in the Mass should be a part of that religion (I only voice that to DH though).
Anyway, DH and I need to hire someone to perform at our wedding so we agree upon this couple (my preference is someone Catholic but DH's preference is this couple, so I agree). Turns out this was a horrible idea.
MalePerformer is fine and presents no problem. SSFemalePerformer decides that this is her perfect chance to put her religious branding on our wedding. When I veto her choices, she tells DH that I have "strong opinions" (I guess I'm supposed to just accept what SSFemalePerformer suggests and say nothing). She was causing a lot of unnecessary stress to DH and me by being so contrary (we weren't selecting any inappropriate secular music; we were just selecting music that wasn't HER choice). The final straw came when I selected a CATHOLIC hymn that not only popped up on a list of acceptable Catholic hymns for weddings but also is in our missalette (so it's not like she wouldn't have had access to the words or music or never seen the song before). She argued with DH on this one stating she wanted a different hymn sung (a hymn that had meaning for HER because of her religious views but that is not Catholic). She was being pretty difficult on this. DH and I, as a last resort, contacted a friend who's also a wedding guest (but who used to perform a cantor for weddings); Friend said she'd be happy to step in if necessary (so, yes, right before our wedding, we were getting ready to fire our music accompaniment). A week before our wedding rehearsal (so, a few days after the unfortunate exchange with SSFemalePerformer), she finally backed down and said our music choices were fine.
It's been over three months, and I still want nothing more to do with SSFemalePerformer. I can't believe she caused us all this unnecessary and unwelcome stress just because she saw our wedding as an opportunity to further her religious agenda. I've told DH that this choice is the one thing I'd do over again and that if anyone were to ask me for a music accompaniment in the future for a Catholic wedding, I would never recommend SSFemalePerformer (and I'd explain why).