Thanks guys. Sometimes, when one is dealing with these things, it's hard to separate real snowflakey behavior from the unwarranted insults that get thrown one's way. I was told I needed to be less selfish when I got upset when my mother left to go get Ana and take her to the airport. If that had been the only reason she gave today for not taking me, then I wouldn't be so upset. I'd be a little bit upset, because Ana had other options for getting there, including the bus/train, which at this hour of the day, and considering construction on two of the major highways along the route to the airport, would probably be 30-45 minutes faster than driving anyway.
You are not alone in your boat. I - gore alert - abraded a large hole in my hand between the index finger knuckle and the 2nd finger knuckle. Scarey to see, due to lack of blood. Actually managed to abrade the knuckle bones too, per the ER doctor!
I told Mom I needed to go to the ER and get it washed out and stitched. She said no, she had to go get the cat at the vet. I said drop me off on the way there, please, I can't ride my bike over there, my hand is damaged and not working well. She didn't want to do that, she'd be late to pick up the cat and be charged more money. I had to scream at her that I ought to be more important to her than the 'expletive deleted' cat, and would she JUST drop me OFF on the outer edge of the 'expletive deleted' parking lot and I would 'expletive deleted' WALK IN alone. Got stitched up, and had to use a desk phone to call her to come and get me, because she wasn't willing to wait for me after she picked up the cat because he wouldn't like waiting in the car, nor was she willing to drop him at home and come back and wait for me to be ready to leave the 'expletive deleted' ER.
There were many reasons we were not close after I became an adult, and I NEVER thought I'd say I'm grateful to the dementia that has made her a nicer and easier person to be around!
MMSWM - I feel your pain! That's NOT good Momming....