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PeterM

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21660 on: June 17, 2013, 03:03:16 AM »
Starting with the people who knocked on the door to our house at 6:30 a.m. demanding that we open the sale up immediately!  The sale time was 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. and this was posted in the newspaper ad.  My spouse told them no and they threatened (promised we hoped!)  :) to not come back.  Which was fine with both us.

Has anyone ever asked someone who makes that "I'll take my business elsewhere!" or "I won't be back!" statement why exactly they think they're important enough that anyone in the world would care? I'd be curious to hear the answer, though I imagine it'd really come down to the usual boring arrogance. I've always been either an uninvolved bystander or working when I've heard it, so I've never been able to ask.

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Sale was open all of five minutes and a person came with a set of salt and pepper shakers priced at $1.00 and asked if I would take a quarter for them.  I told him no, that the sale had hardly started and I wasn't doing any discounts now, but that he could stop back later on this morning and try again if he wanted. 

He then told me he couldn't do that because they would probably be gone by then. 

Good lord. And I'm guessing there wasn't even a smidgen of shame or self-awareness to go with that pronouncement.

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Then there was the guy who showed up about 15 minutes into the sale with a 100 dollar bill and wanted to buy a one dollar item.  While I had change, I didn't have change for that much money that early in the morning.  He asked me where he was supposed to get change for the other garage sales and I suggested that he stop at the local Quik Mart and ask them.  He did manage to find a dollar bill to pay for the item.

The hundred dollar bill nitwits can be the bane of my existence at the library. They get one or more hundred dollar bills and then as far as I can tell their first reaction is that they must immediately come to the library to pay their 75 cent overdue fee. We'll take it if we can manage to give change without too much hassle, but some of them get a bunch of fives, ones and even quarters back. The ones who insist, at least. If we don't have enough tens and twenties, most of the people who "only have a hundred" will miraculously manage to come up with something smaller.

I've had more than one person tell me that their bank gave them the hundred and they just want to break it. Why they didn't request smaller bills from, say, the person who gave them the hundred, who works in the big building full of money, I have no idea. I've never been able to think of a way to ask that wouldn't sound like I was calling the patron a nimrod.

KenveeB

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21661 on: June 17, 2013, 07:07:03 AM »
Has anyone ever asked someone who makes that "I'll take my business elsewhere!" or "I won't be back!" statement why exactly they think they're important enough that anyone in the world would care? I'd be curious to hear the answer, though I imagine it'd really come down to the usual boring arrogance. I've always been either an uninvolved bystander or working when I've heard it, so I've never been able to ask.

I've said it, actually. Not because I think my business alone is important enough to matter -- just the opposite, actually. No one's ever going to notice if Shopper X or Shopper Y just stop shopping at the store. They won't know if it's because of some policy the shopper hates, because they moved somewhere else, or whatever. So if there's ever a policy or behavior that's honestly bad enough to make me not willing to shop at that store again, I figure the best thing to do is inform the store exactly that. If you never tell them, they'll have no idea it's because of the policy, and if enough people leave because of it, maybe they'll change it.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21662 on: June 17, 2013, 07:17:00 AM »
I've had more than one person tell me that their bank gave them the hundred and they just want to break it. Why they didn't request smaller bills from, say, the person who gave them the hundred, who works in the big building full of money, I have no idea. I've never been able to think of a way to ask that wouldn't sound like I was calling the patron a nimrod.


You know, I remember reading this (in the converse) as a suggested negotiating tactic for people buying at yard sales - tell them you 'only have' a $5 and a $100 bill, and will they take $5 for this thing they have marked $10 so they won't have to break the $100?

Sadly, I've also seen it work.

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« Reply #21663 on: June 17, 2013, 07:25:44 AM »
PeterM wrote:

"Has anyone ever asked someone who makes that "I'll take my business elsewhere!" or "I won't be back!" statement why exactly they think they're important enough that anyone in the world would care? I'd be curious to hear the answer, though I imagine it'd really come down to the usual boring arrogance. I've always been either an uninvolved bystander or working when I've heard it, so I've never been able to ask."

In a situation where repeat business is an issue, like a restaurant or store, I find such a statement to be more reasonable because it can indeed matter to the business why someone is choosing not to return.  It's often said in a heated moment, but it does carry a certain sense to pay attention to the statement in case there's something about the business that's driving away customers.  It's at the garage sale, where repeat business is functionally irrelevant, that the person so stating comes off looking like a fool, and so if I ever felt the need to comment on the statement in that scenario that's the angle I'd address.

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LadyClaire

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21664 on: June 17, 2013, 08:18:07 AM »
Remember the co-worker who sent me texts late at night, waking me up?

Well, I'd turned my text tone off when I went to bed the other night..only to be jolted awake by my phone ringing at 12:15 a.m. It was co-worker...because I "hadn't answered her texts" that she'd sent me at 11:30 p.m. These were not work related texts, BTW, and nothing important.

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21665 on: June 17, 2013, 08:19:41 AM »

I've had more than one person tell me that their bank gave them the hundred and they just want to break it. Why they didn't request smaller bills from, say, the person who gave them the hundred, who works in the big building full of money, I have no idea. I've never been able to think of a way to ask that wouldn't sound like I was calling the patron a nimrod.

I don't get either. MY bank will ask me how I want my money, each and every time. But if not, I'd certainly ask them NOT to give me large bills. Not really all that difficult.

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« Reply #21666 on: June 17, 2013, 08:23:34 AM »
Remember the co-worker who sent me texts late at night, waking me up?

Well, I'd turned my text tone off when I went to bed the other night..only to be jolted awake by my phone ringing at 12:15 a.m. It was co-worker...because I "hadn't answered her texts" that she'd sent me at 11:30 p.m. These were not work related texts, BTW, and nothing important.

Well, if coworker isn't asleep, then of course no one else in the world is asleep.  Who the heck does their sleeping at night anyway?  You should really be more considerate.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21667 on: June 17, 2013, 08:40:36 AM »

I've had more than one person tell me that their bank gave them the hundred and they just want to break it. Why they didn't request smaller bills from, say, the person who gave them the hundred, who works in the big building full of money, I have no idea. I've never been able to think of a way to ask that wouldn't sound like I was calling the patron a nimrod.

My credit union is willing to give me my cash in whatever form I please, be it fifties or rolls of quarters. I think they're hoping you'll say, "Well, since we can't give you change we can waive the fine."
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21668 on: June 17, 2013, 08:47:06 AM »
Reminds me of when we went to the zoo in San Diego and two baboons started doing like they do on the Discovery Channel and this little girl goes "Mommy, they're hugging!"

I was at the local zoo at the big cats exhibit, and one of the cats was a rather, umm.....large hanging male who was pacing in front of us. He turned toward the back of the enclosure, (most definitely a he!), and the 6-7ish little girl girl beside me said to her mom, "Look Mommy! He's a girl!!" 

I walked away at that point...  ;D
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« Reply #21669 on: June 17, 2013, 08:55:22 AM »
I've had more than one person tell me that their bank gave them the hundred and they just want to break it. Why they didn't request smaller bills from, say, the person who gave them the hundred, who works in the big building full of money, I have no idea. I've never been able to think of a way to ask that wouldn't sound like I was calling the patron a nimrod.


You know, I remember reading this (in the converse) as a suggested negotiating tactic for people buying at yard sales - tell them you 'only have' a $5 and a $100 bill, and will they take $5 for this thing they have marked $10 so they won't have to break the $100?

Sadly, I've also seen it work.

I saw this happen once at a neighbor's yard sale.  The person showed up and claimed to have only a $100 bill.  My neighbor looked her right in the eye and said "You didn't KNOW you were coming to a yard sale?"

However, Lady Big Bucks eventually found something she really, really wanted.  Then an amazing thing happened.   She managed to "find" a few smaller bills she'd 'forgotten' about tucked away in one of the pockets of her purse.  Imagine that!  A miracle!

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21670 on: June 17, 2013, 09:01:27 AM »
Remember the co-worker who sent me texts late at night, waking me up?

Well, I'd turned my text tone off when I went to bed the other night..only to be jolted awake by my phone ringing at 12:15 a.m. It was co-worker...because I "hadn't answered her texts" that she'd sent me at 11:30 p.m. These were not work related texts, BTW, and nothing important.

If one of my coworkers did that to me, they'd be covering for me the next day when I called in sick due to lack of sleep.
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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21671 on: June 17, 2013, 09:27:55 AM »
Re: $100 bills and garage sales

I, personally, would never accept a $100 bill from anyone at a garage sale, even if I had lots of change. Or even if I were selling something on Craigslist.  In fact, when I place ads on Craigslist for things, I always write, "Cash only.  No $100's."

$100's are the most counterfeited bills out there.  I'd be extremely suspicious of someone trying to pay for a small item with one of them. 

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Re: Special Snowflake Stories
« Reply #21672 on: June 17, 2013, 09:37:48 AM »
Re: $100 bills and garage sales

I, personally, would never accept a $100 bill from anyone at a garage sale, even if I had lots of change. Or even if I were selling something on Craigslist.  In fact, when I place ads on Craigslist for things, I always write, "Cash only.  No $100's."

$100's are the most counterfeited bills out there.  I'd be extremely suspicious of someone trying to pay for a small item with one of them.

I agree!  I sold a car on Craigslist once and when the buyer showed up with 100s, I'm sure they thought I was the SS since I insisted on testing all the bills with a special marker.

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« Reply #21673 on: June 17, 2013, 09:47:52 AM »
When my ex bought a car off Craigslist, he didn't have checks for his account so what he did was after he'd test-driven the car, he and the seller went to the local branch of X bank and seller watched while my ex withdrew the money in a mix of 100s and a cashier's check.  The seller accepted that the money had come from the bank so it was likely genuine.  I did the same thing when I bought a house (trailer) for around 4k - met at the bank, etc.  I would never accept anything over a $20 at a garage sale either!

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« Reply #21674 on: June 17, 2013, 10:10:45 AM »
When my ex bought a car off Craigslist, he didn't have checks for his account so what he did was after he'd test-driven the car, he and the seller went to the local branch of X bank and seller watched while my ex withdrew the money in a mix of 100s and a cashier's check.  The seller accepted that the money had come from the bank so it was likely genuine.  I did the same thing when I bought a house (trailer) for around 4k - met at the bank, etc.  I would never accept anything over a $20 at a garage sale either!

That's what I did in college when I bought my car - test drove, took it to a garage to be checked out, and then we drove to the bank to get the money from the teller, who also signed the receipt for the sale for us.